The slogan, (The U.S.A.) “We will not negotiate with Terrorists” has become a political tool by our President and ripe with criticism. It was first used in Hostage negotiations on American Soil. While American Citizens have no choice; for Victims of Violence in the U.S. such negotiations are common place today.
Mothers are fighting for their lives and the lives of their children every day in the USA. Women move from negotiating in the home to now being forced by Family Courts to negotiate with terrorists. Courts fail to follow protocols for Crime Victims, and DV action plans by forcing victims against their will into Mediation and Court proceedings with perpetrators. Such negotiations are against foreign policies of our government and that of the Geneva convention. Rape and Hostage taking are tactics of War recognized under the UN Human Rights and Convention on Women and Children. Often these crime victims have no representation and being cross examined by the terrorists.
Judges in Family Courts are Violating Criminal Codes and Rules of Law, for the child-victim of crime and the female-crime victim by creating these stressful custody arrangements and placing them in further danger. Why are Women, many of whom had restraining orders of protection, being forced to have contact with the perpetrator? Why are Mothers systematically losing custody to dangerous men? In 1986 Phyllis Chesler wrote about Women on Trial. Ms. Chesler tried to answer these questions 20 years ago, stated that women were losing custody 70% of the time to batterers and sexually abusive men. In 1996, Sex Abuse Allegations in Custody Disputes addressing the fact that when sexual abuse is revealed in custody disputes children are given custody to the perpetrator over the safe mother.
There is no greater terror than using a child as a weapon and holding them hostage, these acts are deployed by terrorists. Mothers are terrorized in this way as a normal course of business in Family Courts in America.
For nearly 4 decades the issue of violence against Women and Children and the courts have been know to our Government which has declared the alarming numbers as an Epidemic. When will our government address the Terror that women and Children face after Divorce everyday in the United States?
LEAVING IS THE MOST DANGEROUS TIME-
When victims are attempting to leave a relationship by divorce or in any other way, it is the most dangerous time for them and their children. We must disengage from victim blaming and seek to understand the immense fear of further harm to themselves and their loved ones that victims face. People leave relationships all the time and while it can be stressful, most are not threatened with violence. We must hold batterers accountable in every case of domestic violence – there simply is no excuse. -Jane Shivas, Executive Director of the New Jersey Coalition to End Domestic Violence
When the Southern Poverty Law Center identified men’s rights groups as hate groups it was the first time such an organization clearly identified that these groups were promoting gender hate crimes, as they preached and inspired acts of violence against women and children. The mere fact that violence against women and children in this Religious patriarchal society is not considered a crime but rather an entitlement of men, husbands and fathers, makes this classification revolutionary. This identification of Gender hate crime has yet to be acknowledged by the FBI although in recent efforts by groups such as the Mothers Civil Rights Union, the FBI has opened investigations in two East Coast States. The FBI’s definition of terrorism is, “the unlawful use of force and violence against persons or property to intimidate or coerce the government, the civilian population, or any segment thereof in furtherance of political or social objectives.” In addition to this coercion are the financial motivations of a Legal community using child custody to extort monies from private individuals and cashing in on federal funding.
“Forcibly taking a mother’s children, and then controlling her emotionally by withholding contact must be publicly recognized as one of the greatest forms of ‘mis-use’ of the American justice system and one of the greatest hidden vehicles for wide-spread socially approved physical and emotional abuse and control.” Coral Anika Theil
After 20 years of hearings and research The US Attorney General, the Office of Violence against Women and the Executive Office to the President, have failed to impact the issue of State Courts removing children from safe mothers and giving custody to known perpetrators. These acts of terror should also be addressed by the Homeland Security, for there is no greater threat domestically to our women and children than violence in the home and the extension of this abuse as Domestic Violence Divorce enter the Legal Setting that employs a new set of abuses on the Child-Victims and their Mothers called DV-by proxy and stalking through the courts. This is possibly the greatest threat to our national security at the present time, unlawfully removing children from those they love by family courts nationwide. Research has shown that Children experience higher degrees of PTSD, from family violence, abuse and trauma, than returning Soldiers of war. Trauma experienced in childhood has a life long effect. Our children are being held hostage and ransoms are being paid. Children Raped with Impunity, trafficked by family court judges. A war declared on Women and Children in the US where Judges and Lawyers exact the revenge for dangerous men, using Taxpayers Money with no equal representation or funding for Women. We must demand federal oversight hearings on Custody Courts in America and Audits on the Federal funds used to fuel this war on mothers and their children.
as one mother said – “we need support to mitigate the terror to your child with a strategy to try to save them from being dismembered psychologically in addition to the other abuses when the courts are aiding and abetting. Where will this support come from, and when?
This mother is fighting a terrorist, and the courts in Marin California that enable and reward them-
“It is difficult to summarize the anguish, torment and suffering I have experienced over the last 14 years at the hands of my sociopath ex-husband, and the complicit Marin Family Court and its officers. Because of his lies, I have been subjected to false accusations, arrest, character assassination, stalking and ultimately and most wrenching, the loss of my son. My health has deteriorated under the stress of trying to fight his never-ending onslaught. I suffer from PTSD, kidney issues, asthma and anxiety. My son has shut down due to his abusive father’s abuse which is not limited to changes of school and withdrawal from therapy, but includes physical and emotional abuse and treats as well. All of this was perpetrated under the “oversight” of the Marin Family Court, Commissioners Wood and Heubach presiding , DA, and San Francisco Family Court and sick DA. and most millions that is he is putting another illegal restringing order on my son against me, how sick that can be, we must stop them now, Please help me get closure from this persecution and mostly, help me get my son back and start picking up our shuddered life’s again and again, .Please call and tell them stop killing us and trow away the sick sociopath ex out, please call now,
Preside Judge Faye at 415-444-7000
Marin County Administrations, at 415-444-4040
DA District Attorney Mr. Ed Barbarian,(415) 473-6450
3501 Civic Center Drive, Suite 130 San Rafael, CA 94903,
“the events in my life do not make me who i am. But my accomplishments, in spite of them, are what truly define me.” Benjamin lee
to my son: I often lie awake at night when the world is fast sleep, and take a walk done memory lane, with tears upon my checks. Remembering you is easy i do it everyday, but missing you is heartache that never goes away until ICU, my son, ohhh, my baby said he has more scare then friends, mayday
Justice for Mother and Son , it almost seems like they were taught in school how to offend every moral fiber of rightness kindness justice goodness that is left in humanity, and twist and distort all of our culture into something unfathomably evil that promotes denigration, alienation, disenfranchisement of mothers at every level leaving no stone upturned and no mind unpolluted.
The Hostage Child: Sex Abuse Allegations in Custody Disputes
First published in August 22, 1996