A National Scandal: American Mothers March to Defend Motherhood and Children’s Human Rights

Mothers of Lost Children march from the U.S. Capitol to the White House in Washington DC to protest children being taken from safe mothers and given to battering or sexually abusive fathers through family courts.  This governmental cover up is similar to Penn State and the Catholic Church cover-ups. Mothers will protest at the Department of Justice and Demand Equal Rights for Women and Protection in Courts across America for whistle blowers who have the right to Defend Childhood.  Mothers are bringing attention to child trafficking in the Courts, and  States Judges who fail to Protect.  Help us send a mother from each state to represent the rights of mothers and abused children.

 Mothers March on Washington DC to end Child trafficking through the courts

October 1 – 2, 2014  Mothers of Lost Children demonstration and Lobby Day in Washington D.C.

California – Napa, Historical “Broken” Courthouse 12 pm

OCTOBER IS VIOLENCE IN THE FAMILY AWARENESS MONTH, Mothers of Lost Children (Mothers who have lost custody after reporting abuse)- bring attention to children of Domestic Violence.  October 1st is recognized as the National Safe Child Day.  Throughout the month communities across America will be participating in a campaign to bring attention to this National Scandal – Child Trafficking. We invite Mothers and Supporters from across the nation to join us in making the Safety of Our Children a National Priority.

To commemorate the National Safe Child Day- Mothers across the Nation will Protest  at Courthouses, State Capitals and the White house.  Delivering the message A Nurtured Childhood is Endangered, Declaring that we must make Safety the first Priority in US child custody Policies.

Vote like a mother-Mothers of Lost ChildrenHeal Mothers FlyerBring back our Girls and Boys

Vote like a mother-Mothers of Lost Children




It’s No Joke! Judges are giving Batterers Custody

Judge Daniel Healy

Mothers of Lost Children- Solano, County Courthouse

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Mothers of Lost Children – Fool of Court

Family Court Judges from Across the Nation are taking children from safe fit mothers and placing children at risk with Batterers and Molesters, yes its true and  its no joking matter 85% of the time American Judges choose the most abusive parent to raise innocent children.



We would love to see Concerned Citizens Protesting  at Court Houses across the Nation on OCT 1st National Safe Child Day.  It is not a laughing matter An estimated 58,000 children a year are court ordered for custody or unsupervised visitation with reported abusers. Leadership Council.  

 Foolish and Dangerous Judges  are giving custody to Dangerous Predators.

 Our protests begin in Washington DC at the White House during the month of Family Violence Awareness Month. Please Join us by demonstrating at Courthouses across the nation to bring Attention to the policies that fail to protect children, and violate the rights of Mothers trying to provide safety during Domestic Violence Divorces.

Who are the fools in Robes giving custody to batterers and Pedophiles?

solano county protest Judge Daniel Healy

Mothers of Lost Children- Solano, California

When Family Court Judges take Children from safe mothers and give them to pedophiles and batterers, what could we possibly think about this?  Are they ignorant or friends of pedophiles?

Stop the Madness!!!

Like Children’s Justice Campaign says, #CJCTHISISNOJOKE

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Mothers of Lost Children

We will be at the Whitehouse with Mothers of Lost Children’s shirts and banners and hope that for those who are unable to come to DC , will you hold a demonstration in your home state?  Beginning OCT 1 and throughout the month hold your own protests and demonstrations.

  • Give a presentation at your church, club or go to a supervisors meeting and in the public comment section at the top of the meeting you can talk about court ordered abuse.
  • In the past we have held silent vigils and marched to bring attention to the Civil and Human Rights Violations.  
  • There are many ways to get attention and bring awareness try this idea -

We could rounded up graduation robes, clown noses and rainbow wigs for events protesting the courts. Do you remember the protest with the clown attire-it made a great statement! and the media would be sure to cover this one.
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Clown Protest for Civil Rights

Maternal Alienation the Ultimate Hate Crime

A nation is not conquered until the hearts of its women are on the ground. Then it is done, no matter how brave its warriors nor how strong their weapons. – Cheyenne Proverb

“Forcibly taking a mother’s children, and then controlling her emotionally by withholding contact must be publicly recognized as one of the greatest forms of ‘mis-use’ of the American justice system and one of the greatest hidden vehicles for wide-spread socially approved physical and emotional abuse and control.” Coral Anika Theil

The price for my own safety and freedom in 1996 was an imposed, unnatural and unwanted separation from my eight children. The injustice committed against me is not just the physical separation from my children, but the willful desecration of the mother-child relationship and bond, a sacred spiritual and emotional entity.

In spite of the enormous trauma Coral Anika Theill has experienced she shares her truth and stands as an example for healing.  As an, Author, Advocate, Speaker and Reporter.  Coral shares her story in her - Bonshea Making Light of the Dark, a book about the Maternal Alienation, an abusive Marriage, Spiritual Abuse and a Failed Justice System.

 Mothers of lost Children - First we identify the Abuse, Speak your Truth and Moving on With or Without Justice and share Healing practices for Warriors wounded in the battle for Justice-

This Story to the Pixel Project Describes the system that failed to provide safety for Coral and Her Children.  Coral Describes her process and says “move forward with or without Justice.  “The Truth doesn’t ask to be told, it DEMANDS it!”

  • How did you heal and rebuild your life after the violent situation/relationship/ritual? What actions did you take?

I began journaling and later published my memoir, BONSHEA Making Light of the Dark. Through writing, I created what is called a “healing crisis.” My greatest coping tool I possessed was my own still, quiet voice – my intuition. As I began to listen to my own inner voice, the lights within me turned back on and I became more aware of myself and the world around me. I value this gift – intuition – because it has never failed me. To heal properly, I discovered it was important to pick up the pieces I had left behind. This process is different for everyone, but the result is the same: you will, once again, discover your true essence. I believe that to heal from our trauma, we must be able to tell the absolute truth and face it squarely. Your trauma is not who you are, it is just what happened to you. In my quiet times, I still feel moments of raw pain from my past. I look at it for what it is: a catalyst for me to find the sacredness of my inner being, to realize more of myself and who I truly am. I believe how we think and act and how beautifully our spirit responds to our challenges is all that matters.

  • 4. What would you suggest to or share with another woman or girl facing the same situation as you did?

Keeping secrets binds up our energy and impacts our health and well-being. Once secrets are exposed to the light, they lose their power over you. I recommend seeking help through a trusted mentor or licensed counselor. If you think of yourself as a victim and are unable to move past this view, you won’t recover. If you see the violence only as a horrible event that happened to you and not allow it to prevent you from redefining your experience with a new spiritual outlook, you will recover. Choose life; move forward – with or without justice. Most victims have to recover without the conscience of their communities, cultures, and countries validating their story, without justice, and without restitution. I truly believe, though, that we are victimized twice if we do not seek justice. The journey of healing is a personal one for each individual and is not to be judged. The balancing act of trusting your own boundaries and recognizing where people are in their development is a continual lesson in life.

Understanding A Campaign of Hate against the Mother

In Anne Morris The story of naming “maternal alienation”: new research enters the world of policy and practice

In this campaign against the mother, the alienator manipulates and inscribed upon his victims demeaning stereotypes of women and mothers. Children, coached to copy the abusive behavior of their father, are likely to form future relationships based on these gendered stereotypes, whereby men are encouraged to use power and violence for their own ends, and women are debased and held responsible for all ills. Whilst painting the mother as unloving, stupid, mad, lying, malicious and monstrous, the father portrays himself as good, rational, victimized, but heroic. As stereotypes have cultural currency, family members, community members and professionals readily adopt these images without much awareness or criticism.  He becomes the ‘poor man’ that we easily sympathize with; the mother becomes ‘the bitch’ we love to demonize. 

I named this campaign against mother and child and their relationship maternal alienation. This name defies the general trend towards gender neutral language, that conceals”women’s disadvantage in a range of institutional settings” (Gatens and Mackinnon 1998 xiv), and reminds us that this is a form of gendered violence aimed at mothers and mothering. By removing gender from the framing of problems of violence, a gender-neutral perspective obscures the role of gender and power in abusive relationships (Berns 2001). The term ‘maternal alienation’ was created also partly as a response to the contentious Parental alienation Syndrome (PAS) (Gardner 1987), used particularly by men in custody disputes in the United States, and increasingly in Australia, to undermine mothers’ allegations of their violence and abuse towards mother and/or child, predominantly child sexual abuse (Myers 1997; Dallam 1998). A favorite of the men’s rights groups, Parental alienation Syndrome insists that it is mainly women who alienate their children from their fathers, while being silent about fathers’ attempts to alienate children from their mothers. The term ‘maternal alienation’ subverts this ploy and draws attention to the prevalence of alienation aimed at mothers. The term also has potential to take account of the widespread existence of mother blaming within families, institutions and popular and professional discourses. 


There is no greater damage you can cause a mother and child but to separate them.  These cruel and unusual punishments are crimes against humanity.  This Hate Crime is Gender Bias and Unconstitutional.

Legally Kidnapped and Trafficked through the Courts

You Stole my child

 My child was taken by the man who was abusing us.

How can I get her back when the Court helped him do it?

Legally Kidnapping is synonymous with the terms Court Ordered abuse and Court Licensed Abuse.  This is when the Government Agency through court and county services takes a child from the primary attached parent and places in the system or home of an abusive parent this is done by means of kangaroo court proceedings, where Civil Rights are violated in order to do so.  These governmental Agencies and Lawyers proffers from the seizure of your child, through state funding, and privately payed attorneys.  While you attempt to regain custody the system is able to access federal funds to assist in the Legal Actions.  Most parents caught in this event were good enough parents falsely accused while trying to care for their children.  Unlike a kidnapping by a stranger, there are no resources to help the parent trying to get their child back, and the lack of support and understanding from the community creates yet another layer of trauma on the mother and child.

Legal kidnappings are occurring across America in Family and Dependency Courts during Separation and Divorce.   With little evidence of wrong doing the fit, safe parent can lose custody of the child whom they shared primary attachment.  These legal Kidnappings often happen when one party has an attorney and the other does not.  There are often False Allegations made toward the protective parent who has had to seek the courts help after concerns for the child’s safety.

Our Family Courts are Civil Court Proceeding and require orders to be filed.  Unlike criminal courts, Family Court has no Jury. Judges have what is known as preponderance of the law in decision making.  While this is intended to support the child, what is happening in Courts across America are Family/Dependency Court Judges are failing to protect the civil rights of Parents and folding to the unscrupulous lawyers and their legal wranglings. With little more than hearsay testimony and a statement from the minors council Custody can shift over one hearing.  These courts often have no court reporters and as a result of the financial barriers for many litigants these proceedings are difficult to appeal.

Often a Minors Councils is appointed in these cases, their role is to act on behalf of the child’s best interest, they hold privilege, they meet or don’t meet with the child and parents and provide documentation to the court. Their statements hold considerable weight in the court and can influence the proceedings through exparte communication and court orders often riddled with hearsay and opinion.  This party to the case in the history of Legal Kidnappings is pivotal.  This highly questionable area of law profession -without accountability and transparency, these lawyers can work hand in hand with the moving party to change custody and remove parents from a child’s life.   The Minors Council is also key to providing the impetus for county services to be ordered. They also have a pecuniary interest in seeing these cases continue until the child ages out.

A system that was created by lawyers serves themselves; having  turned family courts into a ‘For Profit industry’ ;extorting money from litigants, with help from the state, this trafficking is child’s play. These family and child lawyers are profiting off the demise of the American family and damaging our children. The courts aid in allowing victims of Domestic Violence Divorces to be terrorized and without the power to protect their rights under the constitution women lose custody to an abusive of power.

Courts under the guise of the Best Interest Standard use psychobabble and junk science to change custody.  These Legal Kidnappings  occur in proceeding like Exparte Motions, or emergency hearings where a party files an order and asks for a shortened time.  Often a false allegation is made that is so heinous or threatening of life that the Judge is required to follow their procedural rulings, and grant  the Emergency Order of Protection.  These hearing are often done without the accused party, lets call them the Target Parent, in the court.  A hearing date will be set.  And eventually the other party will be served.  If the Target Parent violates the order they can then be charged for violating a restraining order.  This action is taken to influence the Family Court Proceedings to change custody order.  This aggressive action is often cover for wrong doing on behalf of the moving party who is trying to deflect.  A good offence is a good defense.  In this smear campaign against the Target Parent, they are successful most of the time.

These For Profit Courts put Women and Children in Danger.  Where Domestic Violence Divorce often end with the safe mother losing custody. ‘ Mothers get custody after divorce’, ‘She got everything’,’She’s Crazy-Dangerous’  ‘All’s fair in love and war, and ‘Divorce is a private matter’,  ‘Women and Children lie about abuse’…The idea that Divorce is a private matter creates the very secrecy a perpetrator needs to commit their crime without the awareness of the community.  These ideas that villeinize the Mother or discredit her are created by abusers to hide the truth about Domestic Violence and proffer sympathy for men, making them the victims or the hero’s as they steal the children.

Not only is the court failing women as they seek court services but we have identified an area where Domestic Violence services fails to provides much needed services to victims and  address the culture of impunity  for men who terrorize women and children.

The abusive parent enlists many agencies through there coercive control and power of persuasion.  While the police should act as an arm for investigation this article addresses the case  of Jessica Hernandez where the police failed to act -

“Supreme Court Justice John Paul Stevens was one of only two dissenters in Castle Rock v. Gonzales. He wrote in the dissent that the Colorado law was passed to address a “crisis of underenforcement” because police departments around the nation were treating domestic violence as a private family matter and only making an arrest as a last resort. “[U]nder the statute, the police were required to provide enforcement; they lacked the discretion to do nothing.”

“Petitions to the Inter-American Commission on Human Rights alleges that the U.S. courts, by frequently awarding child custody to abusers and child molesters, has failed to protect the life, security and other human rights of abused mother and their children.”

In many states across America, Family Courts after separation are ordering shared custody.  With pressure for the father rights movement a child who had primary attachment and spent significantly more time with one parent over the other will after the orders are filed will lose their primary attached parent.  This event is traumatic for young children who experience adverse affects.  Custody orders are influenced by the litigants themselves.  If a couple chooses to keep the children safe with relatively little change, the child would stay with the primary attached parent for a larger share of the custody time for the child’s well being.

These Legal Kidnappings are prevalent in Domestic Violence Divorces.  When the angry father has the upper hand in court and is able to get custody.  By doing so they are able to resume power and control by using Court proceedings to inflict pain and relieve themselves of child support obligations as they seek full custody.

The Children’s Justice Campaign, a non- profit dedicated to raise social consciousness, is bringing attention to the events that are occurring in family courts in America-

  • Most contested custody cases are domestic abuse or child abuse cases in which the abuser has been allowed to use the courts to regain control over their victim, and bankrupt the safe, primary care giving, protective parent. The Nurtured Parent Support Group for Survivors of Domestic Abuse
  • When abuse allegations are made by women in custody proceeding it is reported that custody shifts to the father 85% of the time.  An estimated 58,000 children a year are court ordered for custody or unsupervised visitation with reported abusers. Leadership Council
  • As a result of pressure, politics and false training Judges are making unsafe decisions.  The standard and required domestic violence training received by evaluators, judges and lawyers does not adequately prepare them to handle abuse cases. Inadequately trained professionals tend to believe the myth that mothers frequently make false allegations. 2012 U.S. Department of Justice Dr. Daniel Saunders Report
  • Criminal courts—with the heavy burden on proof beyond a reasonable doubt—will convict people for crimes of abuse on the same evidence that family court judges deem to be no evidence at all. Richard Ducote, Esq.

Because of secondary training of Judges who believe that Women and Children lie about abuse they punish the mother by removing the child.  They may even accuse the mother of being mentally ill, having anger management problems, unspecified issues that put the child at risk for continued contact.  The mother and child are then either placed in Supervised Visitation units or are allowed no contact at all.  This no contact can go on for years.  This disruption in the relationship has catastrophic implications for both the mother and child.

In these studies it proves that family violence is damaging to children and preserving attachment is paramount to the health and welfare of the child:

 “The most beneficial action a court can take for a child exposed to domestic violence is to end the exposure and support the protective parent” says Lynn Hecht Schafran

“We are now recognizing in medical science and practice that there are real and significant effects when children grow up with toxic and persistent stress,” said Robert W. Block, MD, past president of the AAP, in an interview. “Those effects take a toll on the ability to learn in school and informally.”

The ACE Study findings suggest that certain experiences are major risk factors for the leading causes of illness and death as well as poor quality of life in the United States. It is critical to understand how some of the worst health and social problems in our nation can arise as a consequence of adverse childhood experiences. Realizing these connections is likely to improve efforts towards prevention and recovery.


To be a victim of a Legal Kidnapping is an event like no other.  Your child did not die.  And yet you grieve.  You Grieve the loss of innocence your’s and theirs.  You know the danger your child is in.  The separation is both emotionally and physically painful to you and your child.  You thought that your government and courts are intended to help you, to uphold your rights and when the court violates your civil rights for seeking remedy and justice.  You are often retaliated against if you seek redress.  What you may be waking up to is that the rights of Women and children are secondary to the rights of men and specifically abusive men who use the system to control and punish.  While rights for women have improved since the turn of the century, the patriarchal rule still exists, and no where is it more obvious then in family courts where the rules of the father are followed and those that do not are punished.  Mothers are failed by a system that rewards bullies and provides more power to the men who were abusing.  Many of the children are being kidnapped to control their testimony, they are witnesses to a crime against them and no one of authority is helping to rescue them.  The multi-layered injustice is unfathomable to most and the suffering of the mother and child is often done is silence.

You experience Legal abuse  which is responsible not only for injustice, but also harm to physicalpsychological and societal health.*[3] 

Phyllis Cheslers decribes in her book Mother’s on Trial  the patriarchal attitudes and laws that are prejudiced against mothers during custody battles. By analyzing hundreds of legal documents and interviewing custody experts as well as mothers, fathers and children from diverse backgrounds, the author outlines the decline in legal justice many mothers have experienced since 1986.   Her stories of the “good enough” mother, a sole caregiver often slandered as morally questionable if she has a relationship during her divorce or as mentally unbalanced if she is emotional about the loss of her children. Yet the “good enough” father, Chesler writes, performs a few household chores and is applauded as an exceptional parent, regardless of his personal lifestyle. While other sources could likely produce as many horror stories about judicial bias against fathers, Chesler’s facts cannot be denied: 37 percent of the men in her study kidnapped and brainwashed their children against the mother but were never punished; 70 percent of all the battles resulted in court-ordered paternal custody; 90 percent of all the fathers paid no alimony.

Mothers of Lost Children are like America Mothers of the Disappeared. Like our sisters in Argentina, American children have been taken by agents of the government: CPS/Family/dependency courts, never to see one another again.      Mothers who are struggling to protect themselves and their children and the right to parent after separation and divorce against the abuser they left and the country they believed in.  Mothers and children are being torn apart by a government that provides assistance to bullies and terrorists, as they profit from the collapse of the American Family. Who knew?  that Motherhood in America needs defending and children need protection.

In Courthouses across America this Legal Kidnapping and Court Ordered Abuse is occurring far too often.  Organizations like Center for Judicial Excellence, are bringing attention to these events that are violating the rights of litigants and putting children lives at risk.

This faulty Judicial system that has failed you and your child must be held accountable; As they have given licence to lawyers and your abusive ex to continue a reign of terror intended to extort as much money from you and the system as possible with the child as booty. You and your child are being traumatized and alienated, your child experiences trauma bounding  while living with the abusive parent.  As you try to fight for your rights, your child and your life are being held hostage in this Legal Kidnapping. This Maternal deprivation is the ultimate hate crime.

“Forcibly taking a mother’s children, and then controlling her emotionally by withholding contact must be publicly recognized as one of the greatest forms of ‘mis-use’ of the American justice system and one of the greatest hidden vehicles for wide-spread socially approved physical and emotional abuse and control.” Coral Anika Theil


Safe Child Act – Improving Safety in Child Custody Cases

Stop Abuse Campaign

Improving the Safety of Children involved in Child Custody Cases

     Safe Child Act

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The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation.  Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in the 21st century.  What could courts possibly be thinking when they place children in jeopardy in order to accomplish objectives that are far less important? From 2009-2011, 175 children lost their lives because something less than best practices to protect the health and safety of children were used.


1. The paramount concern of all child custody decisions must be to provide complete safety when determining the best interests of the children.

2. Whenever domestic violence or child abuse is raised as an issue either during or before a child custody matter is litigated any professional who provides advice or recommendations to the court must have substantial training and experience about Domestic violence and child abuse to fully understand safety issues including behaviors that are associated with higher lethality or injury risks; domestic violence dynamics; effects of domestic violence on children; ability to recognize domestic violence and research about batterer narratives. Any professional without this necessary expertise must consult with someone who has this knowledge prior to giving any recommendation to the court.

3 A post graduate degree in mental health such as psychology, psychiatry or social work absent specialized and approved training shall not be considered proof of domestic violence expertise. A court shall not refuse to qualify an individual as a domestic violence expert because the witness does not possess a post graduate degree if the witness can demonstrate expertise based upon training and experience.

4. In any custody case where either domestic violence or child abuse is raised during the litigation process and even where a court may have already heard and determined there is not significant enough domestic violence to warrant a restraining order and in which there is no substantial basis to believe the parties or children have a significant mental health impairment likely to interfere with parenting ability, courts should not order a mental health evaluation. The court may appoint a domestic violence expert to help the court understand the significance of evidence related to domestic violence and must permit parties to present evidence from a qualified domestic violence expert.

5. Courts shall look to current, valid scientific research concerning domestic violence to help inform its decisions in all cases where domestic violence or child abuse is raised during the course of custody litigation Courts shall not permit practices or approaches that do not have scientific bases and are not accepted practice within the specialized field of practice of domestic violence and child abuse. Professionals who engage in practices based upon such unscientific beliefs shall not be qualified to participate in custody cases where domestic violence or child abuse is raised during the course of litigation.

6. In cases in which allegations of domestic violence are supported by the preponderance of the evidence, the safe or safer parent shall receive sole custody absent clear and convincing proof that the parent creates an imminent safety risk to the children. The parent who has committed domestic violence shall be permitted only supervised visitation pending a risk assessment by a domestic violence/child abuse professional. In order for the abusive parent to obtain unsupervised visitation, the parent must complete at least a six month accountability program, accept full responsibility for past abuse, commit to never abusing the children or future partners, understand the harm the abuse caused and convince the court that the benefit of unsupervised visitation outweighs any risk. Termination of all visitation should be considered upon proofs of failure to comply as it will present the children with a known dangerous circumstance.

7. A parent shall not be penalized for making a good faith complaint about domestic violence or child abuse.

8. Courts shall not use approaches developed for “high conflict” cases designed to encourage parents to cooperate in any litigated custody case if there have been allegations of domestic violence and or child abuse which have been supported with an expert report opining there is a reasonable risk to children and shared parenting shall not be permitted in these cases absent voluntary consent of both parties. Consent must be determined to be without coercion or undue pressure.

9. In cases in which there are allegations of domestic violence, a history between the parties that includes restraining orders, criminal charges or other evidence of possible domestic violence, early in the proceeding, before the appointment of any GAL, evaluator or other neutral professional the court shall conduct an evidentiary hearing to determine if one of the parties has engaged in a pattern of domestic violence. If the court finds domestic violence and the non or less abusive parent is safe the court shall award custody to the safe parent and supervised visitation to the abusive parent. A finding denying the allegations of domestic violence shall not prevent the court from considering additional evidence of domestic violence later in the case.

10. In any case in which the trial judge engaged in or tolerated gender biased practices or permitted practices or approaches based on myths, stereotypes or other bias, an appellate court shall not defer to the judgment of the trial court.

11. In any case involving allegations of child sexual abuse, any professionals asked by the court for a risk assessment or evaluation must have specialized training and experience of a minimum of five years after completing training working with children and expertise in child sexual abuse. Investigators shall take sufficient time to develop a trusting relationship before expecting the child to speak about the allegations. It shall be recognized that children frequently recant valid allegations of child abuse so a recantation shall not by itself be treated as absolute proof the allegations were false. No negative inference(s) may be drawn from a decision by a prosecutor or child protective agency not to file charges against a named perpetrator of domestic violence or child abuse and shall not be treated as proof the allegations are untrue. Given the difficulty of proving valid complaints about child sexual abuse, judges who make a finding that the allegations were deliberately false must demonstrate they considered not only if the allegations are true but other common circumstances such as violation of boundaries, inadequate information to determine the validity of the allegations and mistaken allegations made in good faith. In cases in which a court determined sexual abuse allegations cannot be proven, the court shall consider new evidence in the context of the evidence previously considered. No decision shall be made by a court absent a full evidentiary hearing with the parent having a right to have an expert of their choosing heard by the court. No preference and no deference shall be given to any expert selected by the court and identical standards of review and credibility shall be applied by the trial court.

12. This law is designed to correct common present practices that have been shown to work poorly for the protection of children. The law seeks to encourage custody court professionals to look to current, valid, scientific research to inform their decisions and stop using the outdated and discredited practices described in the legislative history. The use of such flawed practices in prior decisions shall be considered a change of circumstance that entitles the parties to request the court to reconsider arrangements that were created based upon flawed practices.

Training and Retraining: Any judge who hears a case involving the issue of domestic violence and/or child abuse as part of judicial responsibility shall receive specialized training regarding the new practices adopted by this law and the specialized information it is based upon. They shall also receive retraining concerning prior practices which have not worked to sufficiently protect children. GALs appointed to represent children where domestic violence and or child abuse is raised during the course of litigation shall receive specialized training and retraining. The trainings shall be presented by domestic violence advocates and/or other similar experts knowledgeable about the safety practices described herein and current scientific research such as described herein. The state shall provide additional funding to domestic violence agencies to train advocates to serve as domestic violence experts in court and to help train court professionals.

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There are other ideas and provisions that could be added to the reforms and some of the ideas in this proposal could be removed if necessary to gain approval. I believe that as long as safety of children is effectively treated as the first priority, this will create the fundamental reforms necessary to alter the frequency of outcomes that place children in jeopardy. It is critical that safety be defined to include not only physical abuse, but also situations that place children at risk. Also critical is the definition of domestic violence both to help courts recognize the coercive and controlling behaviors abusers use and to avoid the mistakes where victims are accused of domestic violence if they strike out in self-defense or frustration.

The heart of the proposal is the requirement that professionals used to provide expertise and advice to the court are knowledgeable about the five subjects required for an understanding of domestic violence. These are:

1. Knowing what behaviors are associated with higher risk of lethality or injury.

2. Domestic violence dynamics

3. The effects of domestic violence on children.

4. Recognizing domestic violence

5. Batterer narratives.

With these provisions the courts can stop sending children to live with dangerous abusers. Instead of pressuring mothers to cooperate with their abusers they can be using their power and authority to require him to stop his abuse if he wants to have a relationship with the children. It is important for legislators and court professionals to understand that children do not need both parents equally. They need the safe parent more than the abusive one and their primary attachment figure more than their other parent. It is certainly high time the courts start making decisions that are truly based on what is really in the best interests of the children.


It’s Official California Family Courts are Broken

Broken down legal System

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Napa Valley Historical Court House an example of a Broken down legal system.

When Family Courts are known as Pay to Play – Napa Justice is Green

“Today, the opportunity to access justice in our courts is becoming as much a luxury as a Louis Vuitton bag.”
ABA President Stephen Zack

These For Profit Courts put Women and Children in Danger

Where Domestic Violence Divorce often end with the safe mother losing custody

“Forcibly taking a mother’s children, and then controlling her emotionally by withholding contact must be publicly recognized as one of the greatest forms of ‘mis-use’ of the American justice system and one of the greatest hidden vehicles for wide-spread socially approved physical and emotional abuse and control.” Coral Anika Theil

On September 19, 2014 Center for Judicial Excellence and California Protective Parents Association are Hosting an event  to bring attention to our Broken Courts.  Parent led groups from across the state including the Kidsafe Task force for Napa/Solano will be testifying to the court ordered abuse.  These groups have been organizing and addressing the Broken Legal System that violates the rights of protective parents and children.  After three decades concerns for the safety of children in custody cases have come to a breaking point.  Sadly our state court and county services are failing to protect children and violate Due process for mothers in Domestic Violence Divorces .  These events have prompted many studies and initiatives to address the failures of Family Courts in California.  The Examiner says this about the event. “Organizers argue that many Californians are being “denied lawyers, court reporters, and effective relief from biased judges and corrupt branch officials,” and little is being done to change the status quo.”


Californias Broken Branch

Many organizations have concerns about California Courts that  Fail to protect the Rights of Victims , and violate constitutional rights of protective mothers in Domestic Violence Divorces .  Let it be said that good fathers do not fight for full custody of a child attached to their mother.  However challenging divorce can be, loving parents should be working to change as little as possible in the daily life of the child and offer reassurance that both parents love and support them.  Marriages end in Divorce 50% of the time, and of these 15% are considered Domestic Violence Divorces ( with high conflict)

How does the  good mother lose custody to the abusive father?  ABA 10 Myths

  • For Profit Courts create an unreasonable advantage for abusive men to win custody
  • Lack of Representation- 70% of female litigants are unrepresented in Domestic Violence Divorces
  • False beliefs of Court professionals and lack of training In Dr. Daniel Sanders Reports to Justice  he says that bias and training of court professionals are interfering with victims of Domestic violence access to justice
  • Concerns about Minors Councils/GAL’s Representation.
  • Judicial Accountability, Courts following Domestic Violence protocols.
  • Financial and Legal Abuse -a. -High ticket Divorce b. Bankruptcy  c.   Ugly Divorce
  • Federal Funding to the State Courts and Social Services fueling the war on women and children.
  • Corruption and Violations of Rights of Litigants due to Gender bias

With in the last 50 years family law moved from child centered “The Tender years doctrine”, to a more Father friendly family law remedy with pressure from the Father Rights Movement, California Legislation adopted  - Child Support Carrot/visitation incentives, Best Interest standard was adopted, The growing opportunities in Family Law brought about Criminal law strategies to protect pedophiles and abusive fathers including Dangerous Junk Science PAS,  In an article by Safe Kids international Power to Protect  they sums up the underlying problem of a patriarchal system that rewards the abusive parent most often the father.  A legal system created by men fails to address the criminal activities, power and control a male dominated society creates.  When women are unrepresented in courts, the Judges fail to uphold their constitutional rights.  In a country that continues to the cycle of dominance over women by unequal pay, unequal representation, we fail not only the women but the children too, who lose custody of their primary attached parent, as a result of legal and financial abuse.

Legal abuse refers to abuses associated with both civil and criminal legal action. Abuse can originate from nearly any part of the legal system, including frivolous and vexatious litigantsabuses by law enforcementincompetent, careless or corrupt attorneys and misconduct from the judiciary itself.[1][2]

Legal abuse is responsible not only for injustice, but also harm to physicalpsychological and societal health.*[3]

Not only do mothers face legal abuse but also Financial abuse.  Many aggressive fathers who have money can force mothers into joblessness and homelessness while mother tries to protect herself and her parental rights.  Legally kidnapped in Napa could be demonstrated with stories of mothers who are falsely accused of alienating the father after the child reports abuse and the mother tries to provide protection.  One such mother was told the father was entitled and would destroy her and take her child.  Unaware of the systemic failure to protect victims of Domestic Violence and their children, Mother lost custody.  This Failure to protect the rights of women as victims of crime  in family courts begin with law enforcement, CPS, The District Attorney, Napa Emergency Women’s Services and end with civil court proceeding that are driven by court orders filed and paid for by litigants.  After years of citizen driven taskforces in Napa County and countless training’s that began with Seth Goldstein He served as the investigator and Project Director for the Child Abuse Vertical Prosecution Unit of the Napa County District Attorney, Napa, California for four years in Napa  He founded the Child abuse forensic institute and is an advisory board member for the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence.  With all this training and access to good information about Domestic Violence and Custody, the court and the county continue to get it wrong.

Napa Courts like courts across the country have been called Pay to play.  If you have money you can use the system to legally kidnap and devastate the other litigant in Family Courts. These ‘For Profit Courts’ have created  Moral and Ethical dilemma for our culture. What about the litigant that can not afford representation?  Are their rights not represented in State Courts?  For Mothers who can go the distance find that men will still outspend and exhaust them financially and emotionally. Like Kelly Rutherford, an actress in the Los Angeles Courts.  Once all of mothers funds are spent custody will go to the father.  Have the values of the Legal system been challenged by the pecuniary interest of the highly lucrative field; Family Law.  Can Despicable lawyers who’s only concern is billable hours put children’s lives at risk? How can Judges who are responsible for the welfare of young children ignore evidence of abuse and concerns of protective mothers.  In Sacramento Judge Sharon Lueras did caused the death of Mathew when she ignored credible evidence.  How can we hold the Attorneys and Judges accountable when the Judiciary council and the bar association fail to so????

For profit courts fail to find fathers responsible for abusive behaviors (who is paying for the loyalty of court professionals who look the other way?)  Why does State and County Services step back when Victims of Domestic Violence Divorces seek help?  because:

1. No financial incentive to support women and children. No motherhood.gov 2. Federal Funding from fatherhood initiative fund state courts, as vendors for services 3. Angry men with money will return to court repeatedly creating billable hours for legal system 3. Secondary Training of Court professionals WhistleBlower Judge Speaks Out 
About Family Court’s Failure to Protect Children
Former Judge DeAnn Salcido says Family Court is a “circus”. 4. Our Patriarchal Culture- Women and children are Property of the Husband. The blame game….we blame victims, when women and children disclose we consider them liars, and not intelligent enough or valuable to believe as a Culture we idolize men for their physical aggression, arrogance, and achievements and money. Father’s know best interest Standard.

U.S. judges routinely force abused children to live with their abusers.

California Stolen Childhood Commission has received reports from counties across the State from -/Sacramento, San Diego, from protests and Demonstrations at court houses in  a Tricounty Area Taskforce- Solano, Napa, Sonoma, Contra Costa, El Dorado, San Fernando, Los Angeles, San Jose, Orange Counties on Family Court Failures. In Solano County, Protective mother, Jennifer Green protested the legal Kidnapping of her three daughters to a registered sex offender.  She initiated a recall event to remove a Dangerous Judge Daniel Healy from Vallejo Superior Court.

The common theme from these reports state concern for issues related to Due Process, Victims of Violence who’s Rights are violated in family courts, Systemic failures: Law enforcement, CPS, DA, and Family and Dependency courts that violate rights of parents and children. Reports include concerns of Rico issues, State and County Services misappropriating Federal Funding to Visitation Centers, DV programs, court services.  Litigants report concerns of extortion in a Pay to Play system where Justice is Green and provides unequal services for Parents of both gender.  CSCC considers California Courts recognition of Judicial Gender Bias, and “Unintended Bias towards self representing litigants as an omission of problem and demand the State remedy the problem for the welfare of female litigants and their children.

In 2013, Damon Moeltor a teenager, trapped in the system posted his story on You Tube and lit a match that would ignite an unprecedented media coverage of Children Lost in the System highlighting stories from Los Angeles County, Orange and San Diego.  His Mother, Cindy Dumas Executive Director of Safe Kids International, has helped lead the charge in new legislation that will address the failure to protect.  Damon’s Law will bring some sanity to this broken system that more times than not fails the child.

The State of California Courts acknowledges these constitutional rights violated in California Family Courts. Yet, the Court has failed to remedy the problem and provide equal access in the court rooms where the most important life issues are decided.  The most egregious event that is taking place in courtrooms in California and mirrored nationally are the child victims of abuse being placed with their identified perpetrator. The Systematic failures start with law enforcement and child protective services and Domestic Violence services that fail to protect Victims of Abuse once in court Judges violate Domestic Violence laws intended to protect mothers and children from on going abuse.  In El Dorado County, CA this group did courtwatch for a Mother who tried to provide safety for her child.  The DA represented the abusive father.

Mothers of Lost Children fight Court Ordered Abuse

Mothers of Lost Children fight Court Ordered Abuse El Dorado County Superior Court House, DA, for the record represents the people vs the protective mother a victim of abuse

Recommendations for Reform include -

  • Best Interest Standard must be amended  to include Safety being the highest Priority, The court must provide safety for the child in the area of physical and sexual safety.  The court must recognize the emotional well being and development of the young child and their attachment to a primary parent, recognizing an approximation rule and continued care and transition in divorce to be as fluid for the child as possible.  Changing custody, schools, and environment must be addressed as major health issue for children and consider the Adverse Childhood Experiences of Domestic Violence.
  • Gender Bias must be addressed
  • Due Process
  • Accountability and reform for Representation for the child
  • Trauma informed courts; mediation/orientation/dv specialist for family court/ family risk assessments,
  • Example - Social Justice Solution   Trauma Informed Policies California Bill address toxic stress childhood brain
  • Improved Domestic Violence and Child Abuse Training of all State Employees in Social Service all mandated reporters

Finally what must be understood is that Mothers fighting for their right to parent are concerned about the welfare of their children.  They fight for the rights of the children to have a nurtured safe childhood.  While the pain and loss is excruciating for a ‘Mommy’ to lose custody, it is equally if not more life changing for a young child.  In this report our concerns are confirmed for the health and welfare of the attached child.  Family violence and separation from parents is the greatest injury to juveniles.

“The most beneficial action a court can take for a child exposed to domestic violence is to end the exposure and support the protective parent” says Lynn Hecht Schafran 


“We are now recognizing in medical science and practice that there are real and significant effects when children grow up with toxic and persistent stress,” said Robert W. Block, MD, past president of the AAP, in an interview. “Those effects take a toll on the ability to learn in school and informally.”

The ACE Study findings suggest that certain experiences are major risk factors for the leading causes of illness and death as well as poor quality of life in the United States. It is critical to understand how some of the worst health and social problems in our nation can arise as a consequence of adverse childhood experiences. Realizing these connections is likely to improve efforts towards prevention and recovery.



The following are Legislative plans and Remedies for the Broken system that puts children at risk and fails to protect.

Assembly Member Tim Donnely and AB-1828 Child Welfare Bill – Sammy’s Law providing tape recording with Social Workers.  http://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/billNavClient.xhtml?bill_id=201320140AB1828

Damons Law making Juries in Sexual Assault cases mandatory-  http://www.safekidsinternational.org/damons-law.html

Dangerous Judges – Safe Kids International- http://www.safekidsinternational.org/judicial-complaints.html

The ‘Silent Scandal’ of Courts Putting Children With Their Abusers

California Family Courts Helping Pedophiles, Batterers Get Child Custody

Complaints have flooded in about  Parents losing custody to abusers-

As a result of the complaints California Protective Parents Association initiated a study.   The Leadership Council reports that High conflict families are disproportionately represented among the population of those contesting custody and visitation. These cases commonly involve domestic violence, child abuse, and substance abuse. Research indicates that…

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Parents Losing Custody to Abusers: Leadership Council Reports – High conflict families are disproportionately represented among the population of those contesting custody and visitation. These cases commonly involve domestic violence, child abuse, and substance abuse. Research indicates that that custody litigation can become a vehicle whereby batterers and child abusers attempt to extend or maintain their control and authority over their victims after separation.Although, research has not found a higher incidence of false allegations of child abuse and domestic violence in the context of custody/visitation, officers of the court tend to be unreasonably suspicious of such claims and that too often custody decisions are based on bad science, misinterpretation of fact, and evaluator bias. As a result, many abused women and their children find themselves re-victimized by the justice system after separation.Meier, J. S. (2003). Domestic violence, child custody, and child protection: Understanding judicial resistance and imagining the solutions. American University Journal of Gender, Social Policy, and Law, 11, 657-731.Joan Meier surveyed the 2001case law and identified 38 appellate state court decisions concerning custody and domestic violence. She found that 36 of the 38 trial courts had awarded joint or sole custody to alleged and adjudicatedbatterers. Two-thirds of these decisions were reversed on appeal. These cases included a case in which the perpetrator had been repeatedly convicted of domestic assault (In re Custody of Zia, 736 N.E.2d 449 [Mass. App. Ct. 2000]); in which a father was given sole custody ofa16-month old despite his undisputed choking of the mother resulting in her hospitalization and his arrest (Kent v. Green, 701 So.2d 4 [Ala. Civ. App. 1996]); in which the father had broken the mother’s collarbone (Couch v. Couch, 978 S.W.2d 505 [Mo. App. 1998]); had committed “occasional incidents of violence” Simmons v. Simmons, 649 So. 2d 799, 802 [La. App. Ct. 1995]); and had committed two admitted assaults (Hamilton v. Hamilton, 886 S.W.2d 711, 715 [Mo. App. 1994]) . More such instances can be found in the article.

  • False Allegations -

Neustein, A., & Goetting, A. (1999). Judicial Responses to Protective Parents, Journal of Child Sexual Abuse, 4, 103-122. http://www.haworthpressinc.com/store/SampleText/J070.pdf (go to page 109 of pdf) This study examined judicial responses to protective parents’ complaints of child sexual abuse in 300 custody cases with extensive family court records. The investigators found that only in 10% of cases was primary custody was given to the protective parent and supervised contact with alleged abuser. Conversely, 20% of the cases resulted in a predominantly negative outcome where the child was placed in the primary legal and physical custody of the allegedly sexually abusive parent. (see p. 108). In the rest of the cases, the judges awarded joint custody with no provisions for supervised visitation with the alleged abuser. The Voices of Women Organizing Project (VOW). (2008). Justice Denied: How Family Courts in NYC Endanger Battered Women and Children. Brooklyn, NY: Battered Women’s Resource Center. (Executive Summary) EXCERPT: 80% of women said their abuser threatened to take away their children and used the court to follow through with that threat. 10% of women said they stopped reporting abuse for fear of losing contact with their children. Mothers were told by their lawyer, the law guardian or the judge not to oppose visitation, even when they felt it was unsafe or when their children protested.


See also a list of gender bias reports from 43 states and 7 federal districts athttp://www.legalmomentum.org/our-work/njep/njep-task-forces.html a. Official State Reports New Jersey was the first state to give prominence to the goal of raising awareness of gender bias in the court system. Since the establishment of their gender bias task force, forty-five states and a number of federal circuit courts have established gender bias task forces, including: Alaska, Arizona, Arkansas, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, North Dakota, Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, West Virginia, Wisconsin, District of Columbia, and Puerto Rico. These task forces were initiated by a variety of institutions and organizations, including the state supreme court, judicial council, and bar association. Thirty-four have published reports. A number of state task forces collected and analyzed data on the experiences of women in family courts. Read entire report at: http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/dv.html

Organizations working on the issues of Court Ordered Abuse- Child Justice Campaign- Kelly Rutherford Center for Judicial Excellence California Protective Parents Association Help the Greens- Saving Lexi- Little Voices Project Berkeley’s family court Appellate project Marin County – Safe Quest, Solano County Justice for Women, Sonoma County Kidsafe taskforce; court watch and initiative, training Family Court Judge Deane Salsido -Whistleblower Judge- San Diego Parents group-Orange County Fogerty CPS Law Suit, – Dangerous Judge – Southern CA, Katie Kagel- Dangerous Judge – Sonoma County, Daniel Healy
Like other mothers there were threats that she would be charged with crimes if her allegations continued. The price for my own safety and freedom in 1996 was an imposed, unnatural and unwanted separation from my eight children. The injustice committed against me is not just the physical separation from my children, but the willful desecration of the mother-child relationship and bond, a sacred spiritual and emotional entity. www.coralanikatheill.com


Marissa Alexander and Elsa Newman Jailed for protecting their children

Victims of Domestic Violence Jailed for trying to protect their children

American courts punish women for reporting abuse and defending themselves.  Judges fail to provide safety.

When will women and children be allowed to  live without violence and fear in the United States

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  • Two mothers; Victims of Domestic Violence,  Marissa Alexander serving 20 years for defending herself and her children and Elsa Newman a Victim of  a Domestic Violence Divorce loses custody to an abuser and is falsely accused served 12 years of a 20 year sentence.
  • Need and Innocence Project for Protective mothers falsely accused.
  • When will the courts protect the rights of mothers to defend themselves and their children?

Marissa Alexander denied new Stand Your Ground hearing

Florida’s controversial Stand Your Ground law will once again be no refuge for Marissa Alexander, the Florida woman who fired what she said was a warning shot near her abusive husband, Rico Gray, and his two sons.

On Friday, Circuit judge James H. Daniel denied her request for a new hearing to seek immunity from prosecution under the law, finding that the legislature’s June revision to include such warning shots ”cannot be applied retroactively” for a new Stand Your Ground hearing.

One of her attorneys, Buddy Schulz, said in a statement to msnbc, “We’ve received Judge Daniels’ order and are in the process of reviewing his decision. We deeply appreciate the time and thought that Judge Daniel continues to give to the numerous complex and difficult issues in Marissa’s case.”

Alexander was denied immunity from prosecution at her first Stand Your Ground hearing, where a judge found ”insufficient evidence that [Alexander] reasonably believed deadly force was needed to prevent death or great bodily harm to herself.” She was later convicted of aggravated assault and sentenced to twenty years.


"Trapped in the dark": Marissa Alexander and how our twisted legal system re-victimizes domestic violence survivors

He assaulted me, shoving, strangling and holding me against my will, preventing me from fleeing all while I begged for him to leave. After a minute or two of trying to escape, I was able to make it to the garage where my truck was parked, but in my haste to leave I realized my keys were missing. I tried to open the garage but there was a mechanical failure. I was unable to leave, trapped in the dark with no way out. For protection against further assault I retrieved my weapon; which is registered and I have a concealed weapon permit. Trapped, no phone, I entered back into my home to either leave through another exit or obtain my cell phone.

 – Marissa Alexander


Free an Innocent Maryland Mother wrongfully incarcerated for 12 years for protecting her children

Seeking Justice for Elsa Newman

-Liberate Elsa Newman & Other Moms

I am part of a group called Citizens for Fairness and Justice which has as its purpose to support Elsa Newman and to speak out for justice in her case.

Many note-worthy individuals are part of the group. Together we  exercise our freedom of expression to seek legal means to expose and correct the systemic failures that led to Elsa’s wrongful conviction and incarceration.

The petition and website contain excerpts from many decent citizens about the severity of the injustice done Elsa and others like her. This is posted with the purpose of freeing Elsa Newman and educating the public about a problem that affects thousands of American children.


In April 2012, the U.S. Department of Justice authorized a report from Dr. Daniel Saunders which laid out how badly the state family court system mishandles the 1000’s of cases like that of Elsa Newman. Brave children who speak out against the abuser and honest moms who seek to protect their children are trashed and even criminalized, like Elsa.
Unfortunately, abusive fathers who perpetrate severe abuse in the name of power and control are amply rewarded. We have seen this in the military but must look closer at the family court system because a reprehensible abuse of processes is rampant and mothers and children suffer in unimaginable ways as a result.

List of Saunders’ References: see below

“Elsa Newman’s case is the most incredible miscarriage of justice I have personally witnessed during my 24 years in the Legislature, and beyond.”  

- Former Maryland Delegate Joan Pitkin



Judaism Behind Bars

October 24, 2013

Incarcerated Jews struggle to maintain religiosity in prisonElsa Newman (with her late mother) was convicted in 2002. She is serving 20 years.

Elsa Newman was an extremely dedicated Jew before her incarceration. She kept kosher, considered herself knowledgeable about rituals and holidays and made sure her two sons received a Jewish education at Congregation Beth El in Bethesda. She once worked on a kibbutz in Israel and spent many summers at Camp Ramah, a Jewish summer camp in the Poconos.

“There are so many ways that Judaism is a positive influence for me,” Newman said. “It’s a positive, amazing religion.”

But Newman, 61, who grew up keeping kosher and celebrating Shabbat every week, can’t go to synagogue, has trouble observing the High Holidays and is no longer keeping kosher. She is serving a 20-year sentence at the Maryland Correctional Institute for Women (MCIW) in Jessup for conspiracy to murder her former husband and related charges. Newman maintains she is innocent and has a group of people who are advocating on her behalf. Among them are two rabbis, including Rabbi William Rudolph of Congregation Beth El.





Pediatric Safety Series – How to talk to your children about Sexual Abuse

Pediatric Safety Series – One Ouch is Too Many

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This month, Stefanie Zucker, the Managing Director at http://www.pediatricsafety.net and all the fine folks there are running a series of ours focusing on the protection of all children from sexual predators.

Editor’s Note:

This is the first of a two part series on sexual predators written by David Pittman, the founder of Together We Heal, Inc. – an organization dedicated to helping survivors of childhood sexual abuse (CSA). We are running “How to Talk with Your Kids About Sexual Abuse” now, right in the middle of back-to-school, because now is when many of us may need a reminder the most. As we hand our children over to teachers and coaches and after-school caregivers and tell them to “listen to the teacher” and “do what the coach tells you”, we NEED to make sure we have first taught them when it’s ok to say NO. That secrets are not ok…that their bodies are their own and no one can touch them without their permission. We need to remember that 90-95% of CSA occurs at the hands of someone that is known, trusted and often loved. Hopefully by sharing this now, we will keep one more child safe.

See Part I: http://www.pediatricsafety.net/2014/09/predators-sexual-abuse/

Please be sure to view their amazing site that has so much important information on keeping all of our children safer. And what they offer isn’t just about sexual abuse, it has to do with all matters concerning child safety. So please do yourself a favor and look at the material they provide and pass along to ALL parents or guardians you know! Pediatric Safety is an AMAZING organization doing GREAT work!


Biden announces White House Summit on Civil Rights and Equal Protection for Women

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“You cannot have a conversation about human rights and human dignity without talking about the right of every woman on this planet to be free from violence and free from fear.” – Vice President Joseph Biden.

Have you received a letter from Joe Biden? In the letter detailing the progress of  VAWA and the efforts to end violence against women he announced a Summit gathering about civil rights and protection,”This past week, I announced that we’ll bring together legal experts, scholars, and advocates to convene a White House Summit on Civil Rights and Equal Protection for Women because we know bias against victims of rape and sexual assault still exist in our criminal justice system — and we must make clear every victim has a basic civil right to equal protection under the law.”

Join the conversation- Women are being prevented from protecting their children and often lose custody while seeking refuge.  “Greatest threat to women is when they leave, and the greatest damage you can cause a mother is taking her children”  More women are staying in abusive relationships to maintain contact with their children.  The State Courts are failing to protect women and children from further abuse. How can we provide better services to single mothers to protect their civil rights?

Please Send you letters to Vice President Joe Biden -The White House • 1600 Pennsylvania Ave NW • Washington, DC 20500 • vice.president@whitehouse.gov and call the White House – 202-456-1111 http://www.whitehouse.gov/contact  copy, to find -your representatives in congress and copy the Office on Violence Against Women- Bea Hanson Principal Deputy Director 145 N St., NE, Suite 10W.121  Washington, D.C. 20530   202-307-6026  Fax: 202-305-2589  Email: ovw.info@usdoj.gov and a friend to Civil Rights and architect of VAWA US Congressman John Conyers 2426 Rayburn H.O.B. Washington, DC 20515 202-225-5126 (Fax)202-225-0072 

Did you know that 58,000 children a year are taken from their protective mothers  and placed in the home of a batterer and molester?  Its true, American Mothers are reporting that they are losing custody of their children in family courts in every state across our nation when they report abuse.

20 years ago today:  Vice President Joe Biden info@mail.whitehouse.gov

The White House, Washington

Twenty years ago today, the Violence Against Women Act was signed into law. It remains my proudest legislative achievement — but it didn’t happen because of me.

It happened because, at a time when kicking a woman in the stomach or pushing her down the stairs was not taken seriously as a crime — and at a time when domestic violence against women was considered a “family affair” — something remarkable happened.

Incredibly brave and courageous women began speaking up.

Women like Marla, a model whose face was slashed by two men because she’d refused her landlord’s entrees, and who was questioned for 20 minutes during the trial about why she was wearing a miniskirt. As if she had asked for or welcomed this repugnant act of violence. Marla spoke out.

Women like Christine, who was raped in a dorm room by a friend’s boyfriend. Christine said she hadn’t even known she’d been raped, because she’d known the man. But Christine added her voice.

There were so many more. Women who had their arms broken with hammers and heads beaten with pipes, who were among the 21,000 women who were assaulted, raped, and murdered in a single week in America at the time.

All of these women are victims. But they’re also survivors.

And because they spoke up, the conversation changed and a national consensus formed to do something to protect them. Their stories — experiences shared by millions more women — put this issue front and center before the American people. The country was forced to see the rawest form of violence and acknowledge the culture that hid it. And they began to demand change as a result. Local coalitions of shelters and rape centers led the way. National women’s groups and civil rights organizations got on board. And a bipartisan group in Congress got the bill to President Clinton’s desk.

That’s how we got this law enacted.

And with each reauthorization, we added more protections. In 2000, we included a definition of dating violence. In 2005, we invested in health providers to screen patients for domestic violence and associated long-term psychological and physical health. And in 2013, we made VAWA services available to LGBT Americans and restored authority for tribes to prosecute non-Indian offenders. As a result, over the years, we’ve seen domestic violence rates drop significantly, fundamental reforms of state laws, and higher rates of convictions for special-victims units.

But we know our work here is never done. This past week, I announced that we’ll bring together legal experts, scholars, and advocates to convene a White House Summit on Civil Rights and Equal Protection for Women because we know bias against victims of rape and sexual assault still exist in our criminal justice system — and we must make clear every victim has a basic civil right to equal protection under the law.

And if you need information and resources about how to respond and prevent sexual assault in our schools and on our college campuses, you can visit NotAlone.gov.

And if, God forbid, you’re experiencing this sort of violence or know someone who is, you can get help. You can do it right now. There is a network of passionate and dedicated folks all across the country who are ready to listen. It’s anonymous, and it’s safe. In fact, VAWA created the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which you can visit here,* or dial 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) right now for help and advice.

Twenty years after the Violence Against Women Act was enacted, I remain hopeful as ever that the decency of the American people will keep us moving forward.

They understand that the true character of our country is measured when violence against women is no longer accepted as society’s secret, and where we all understand that even one case is too many.

Thank you,

Vice President Joe Biden

Vice President Joe Biden


Council on Women and Girls

Child Abuse in the NFL addresses Violence Friendly Courts


 Are NFL players anymore violent with their spouses and children than the average man in America?  It is reported that 1 in 4 women experiences acts of Domestic Violence in their lifetime.  According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control, child abuse is a largely unreported crime that is difficult to prove, and may affect as many as 1 in 4 US children.  A growing trend in US courts to provide fathers access to their children has overlooked the issues of violence and its adverse affects on children.

-we are witnessing a paradigm shift in our culture. The NFL’s new position on domestic violence has been long overdue, and the positive effects will be far reaching. Lets keep up the conversation and extend the spotlight towards our U.S. family court system and criminal courts, who have routinely failed to protect adult and child victims, and instead protects perpetrators of violence as a “for profit sport.” Patrice Lenowitz

In an interview with Ann Stevenson, Patrice Lenowitz of the Children’s Justice Campaign, a New York based nonprofit which focuses on placing child welfare paramount to legal industry profits. Lenowitz says she is most concerned that to date no one has been arrested in this case, yet in the meantime Peterson has custody and access to other children. - “According to the warrants, the authorities have been sitting on medical reports, pictures, victim statements since last summer which show there’s probably a violent offender on the loose targeting children,”

“Is this case about public safety or football? Where is the accountability?”


Lenowitz points out that although the alleged incident happened in early summer, the warrant for Peterson’s arrest today comes in the aftermath  of public outraged sparked by another NFL cover up scandal. This week the Baltimore Raven’s decision to release Ray Rice after TMZ released video tapes of the player spitting in his child’s mother’s face and knocking her out cold in an Atlantic City elevator last February.

We ask the question do our ‘For Profit Courts’ enable batterers and molesters in continuing contact with defenseless children?  Do wealthy male litigants have a greater advantage on the field of Family Court?  Is this a cultural norm,  Rewarding the Bully? Is the continued  practice of Patriarchal Rule at the expense of a growing culture of violence in our homes and on our streets in our combined best interest?  Is it time to have a federal oversight hearing on child abuse in america?  Yes, its time to adopt National Policies to reduce violence and protect children.

The state of our Nations children is Historically, at is very lowest.  Research indicates that the categories of Poverty, Hunger, Obesity, Death, Domestic Violence (Domestic Violence being the number 1 cause of fetal death), Death to Guns, Drugs, Illness, Depression, Suicide,  statistically have crossed into pandemic rates.  The rise of Violence in America, on TV,( TV has been proven to increase the violence in society) and in the streets is adversely effecting our children. After decades of research we have halfheartedly created federally funded national campaigns that do little more than lip service to address the real needs of our nation’s children.  We need a strategic plan to end violence in America, lets start in the home where it all begins,  and lets do it now.


Anne Stevenson 2Child abuse indictment highlights Vikings player’s ties to violence friendly culture

By , Communities Digital News

TEXAS, September 13, 2014 In the wake of the Ray Rice criminal assault cover up scandal, the failure of Texas authorities to arrest another NFL player charged today with felony child endangerment charges stemming from an incident that allegedly occurred last summer delay has some child abuse experts asking questions whether a formal inquiry into the NFL’s influence over the outcome of their more violent players’ criminal cases is needed to protect the public.

“You will be mad at me about his leg.”

“He got about five more pops than normal. He didn’t drop one tear! … He’s tough as nails.”

According to the warrants allegedly obtained by CBS Houston, those were the texts sent by Minnesota Vikings running back Adrian Peterson’s to the mother of his 4-year-old son early last summer explaining the cause of the extensive bruises, welts, lacerations, and open wounds found by doctors on the child’s back, buttocks, ankles, legs and scrotum following a visit to his father’s house in Texas.

Apparently, the 4-year-old was no match for the NFL star, who allegedly stuffed leaves into the boy’s mouth and forced him to pull his pants down to his ankles, then used a tree branch to make a whipping post out of the child’s backside following a scuffle with another child over a video game.

Peterson told the boy’s mother via text that he “felt bad after the fact when I notice the switch was wrapping around hitting I (sic) thigh” and thrashing the boy’s scrotum. “Got him in nuts once I noticed. But I felt so bad, n I’m all tearing that butt up when needed!”

Following the assault, Peterson put the injured boy on a plane from Houston back home to his mom in Minnesota, which Peterson said he would not have done had he taken the time to notice the extent of the injuries the child had incurred.

Upon the boy’s return home to Minnesota, his mother took him to a previously scheduled appointment with his pediatrician, who contacted the police with concern’s over the child’s safety in Peterson’s care. The heartbreaking pictures of the child’s injuries released by the Houston Police Department are pretty graphic, and even show the defensive wounds on the boy’s tiny hands.

Read more at http://www.commdiginews.com/breaking-news/child-abuse-indictment-highlights-vikings-players-ties-to-violence-friendly-culture-25771/#8Zr8MbclqYGiJY0k.99

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Why Joe Biden is Exactly Right its not Domestic Violence! its Terrorism!

Why Joe Biden Is Exactly Right About the Ray Rice Case

Vice President Joe Biden said something very important this week during this interview with the Today Show in response to the aftermath of TMZ’s release of the footage of Rice assaulting his wife:

“It’s never, never, never the woman’s fault. No man has a right to raise a hand to a woman. No means no. [...] The one regret I have is we call it domestic violence as if it’s a domesticated cat. It is the most vicious form of violence there is, because not only the physical scars are left, the psychological scars that are left. This whole culture for so long has put the onus on the woman. What were you wearing? What did you say? What did you do to provoke? That is never the appropriate question.”

Like Biden, I too reserve my concerns for the victims of violent crimes and the interests of public safety, but I could care less about Rice being able to keep his good name or his job, or whether my Sunday football experience will be the same without him. Rice chose to be a violent offender, and since he took that risk at the expense of public safety, Rice deserves to lose his good name and his prominent position within the NFL, and he should have done jail time.

Biden is right, it’s time to stop using court industry buzz words like “abuser” and “domestic dispute” to describe violent offenders and the crimes they commit. “Abuse” is not necessarily a crime so much as morally reprehensible conduct and a subjectively evaluated personal problem. The term “domestic abuse” is so vague that it is used to describe anything from a heated argument to a triple homicide, then imputes blame to the victim for knowing the attacker while concealing the inherent threat to public safety that violent predators like Rice pose to society.

Since the cops can only arrest the jerks who are also crime suspects, shouldn’t advocates should be teaching victims of violent crimes to use more specific descriptors like “violent offender” and “criminal assault” that accurately reflect the crime scenes where the predator targeted them? Why don’t they?


Judges and prosecutors are given a public salary to understand violent criminals and protect the public from them, the NFL is not.

Scott Benner wrote that nothing about the NFL’s handling of the cover up in the Rice case should be shocking given their history of putting violent criminals like Michael Vick on the field post-conviction. A PBS Frontline report about the NFL’s “concussion crisis” shows why the NFL is just a for-profit corporation with no meaningful obligation to protect their own player’s safety, never mind protect the public at large from their walking Sunday afternoon investments. That’s the justice system’s job.

At this point, I’m going to stop using the term “justice system” because I don’t think it applies to the New Jersey courts, as I’m unable to perceive a legitimate explanation for how public safety and justice was served when the court waived the law [that is supposed to apply equally to all New Jersey citizens] in order to let Rice off the hook without meaningful consequences.