A National Scandal: American Mothers March to Defend Motherhood and Children’s Human Rights


Mothers of Lost Children first marched in May 2010, from the U.S. Capitol to the White House in Washington DC to protest children being taken from safe mothers and given to battering or sexually abusive fathers through family courts.  This governmental cover up is similar to Penn State and the Catholic Church cover-ups. Mother’s return each year to bring our message to Department of Justice Demanding Equal Rights for Women and Protection in Courts across America for whistle blowers who have the right to Defend Childhood.  Mothers are bringing attention to child trafficking in the Courts, and  States Judges who fail to Protect.  Help us send a mother from each state to represent the rights of mothers and abused children. 


 This year we encourage mothers to organize marches in their home state. Mothers of Lost Children invite Mothers and Supporters to Protest or organize a Silent Vigil on Saturday May 9th at 6pm.

California – Please join us for the third annual Mother’s of lost Children prayer vigil in Benicia California. Mother’s of lost Children prays for children suffering from Court Ordered Abuse to be home safe with their protective parent. Court Ordered abuse occurs when a judge illegally gives a child unsupervised to a parent with documented history of physical abuse, sexual abuse, and battery. In domestic violence cases the batterer uses the courts to continue their abuse of the victim, by stealing their children.- Community Congregational Church, UCC  1305 W 2nd St, Benicia, California 94510

Bring your Silent Vigil to your faith community to pray with you, or to your town plaza…it only takes one candle to light up the dark.

Start planning it’s one month away! – it can be as small as a single candle and sign. Or put it on the calendar at the newspaper. Please message us on facebook and let us know what you are planning in your state and where.

If we can’t get all of you to Washington lets bring Washington to you. Lets have vigils across America, Mothers in Solidarity across the world praying for our Children.

Child at the Silent Vigil

and Join Mothers of Lost Children in Supporting the Battered Mothers Custody Conference –BMCC 2015 Hands Across the Water!

The BMCC is an annual conference that addresses the pattern of serious legal injustices encountered by battered women who approach the family/divorce court system seeking protection for themselves and their children from an abusive spouse or partner.

May 15th, 16th, and 17th, 2015 in the New York City Metropolitan Area

Look who’s coming to present at the BMCC XI!

BARRY GOLDSTEIN
Author/Editor of four books on battering and custody
www.barrygoldstein.net


KELLY RUTHERFORD
Actress, Protective MomChildren’s Justice Campaign
RIANE EISLER (by Skype)President, Center for Partnership Studies,
Author of The Chalice and the Blade & other best sellers
SAM VAKIN (by Skype)
Expert on Narcissism,
Author of “Malignant Self-Love”
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com
ALAN ROSENFELD
Expert Child Custody Attorney
http://www.alanrosenfeld.com/
TOBY KLEINMANAttorney, professor, speaker, DV shelter founder

MICHAEL LESHER
Journalist, Co-Author of
From Madness to Mutiny

GARLAND WALLER
Professor; Producer, Small Justiceand No Way Out But One
DR. AMY NEUSTEIN
Co-Author, From Madness to Mutiny, Protective Mother
www.amyneustein.com
WENDY MURPHY
Author, law professor, victims’ advocate and TV commentator
NANCY ERICKSON
Attorney, law professor, author

MARILEE MCLEAN
DV Advocate, Author,Prosecuted But Not Silenced

Is family court really a “kids for cash” business?

An estimated 58,000 children a year are court-ordered for custody or unsupervised visitation with reported abusers. That means in many cases, children are being ordered to live with their rapists. Child custody courts are generating approximately $50 billion dollars a year from the business of exploiting families in crisis and putting children in direct harm’s way. Adverse childhood experiences are the most basic cause of health risk behaviors, morbidity, disability, mortality, and health care costs. In fact, it costs taxpayers $500 billion dollars a year in health care related costs due to adverse childhood experiences. SURGEON GENERAL’S WARNING: FAMILY COURT IS BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH- by Patrice Lenowitz, co-founder of Children’s Justice Campaign.  

-Its time to demand Justice – Join us in asking-

 


Past Years in DC –Mothers March on Washington DC to end Child trafficking through the courts

Shattering The Silence Tour

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FACSA FOUNDATION

FAMILY AND FRIENDS FIGHTING AGAINST CHILD SEXUAL ASSAULT

Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project

The FACSA Foundation (Family and Friends Fighting Against Child Sexual Assault) has been traveling the U.S.A. and Canada on a 115 city, Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project filming a documentary on survivors stories from across the nation, conducting research on how child sexual assault is affecting our local communities, and hosting free public education prevention conferences across the nation, on prevention of child sexual assault and human trafficking.

1) We are providing safer environments for children,
2) Changing the social stigma of child sexual assault, changing public policies, and
3) Have created a paradigm shift for Shattering The Silence of rape, child sexual assault, and human trafficking with The Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project.

You can help a child through the resources we provide, by providing this service for communities, parents, and grandparents to use, by changing public policies, and educating communities on prevention of child sexual assault, by teaching people the most effective tools and resources to heal from trauma, and how survivors can thrive, rather than merely exist. We can make a difference together!

A selection from the Mother of Lost Children/To the Moon and Back presentation to the MoM’s Museum is highlighted in the May Issue of the Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project, at http://joom.ag/xhLp (starting on page41)

to the moon shattered Mom by Karen Hen Ninger

For more information go to FACSAFoundation.org and Join the Tour!!! Help support the Tour, and share your stories.  Contact Connie Lee.

THE UN ADDRESSES GENDER EQUALITY AND CHILDREN’S RIGHTS IN FAMILY LAW

UN international day of family

International Day of Families

May 15, 2015 Observance

United Nations Department of Economic and Social Affairs Divisions for Social Policy and Development

Men in Charge?

Gender Equality and Children’s Rights in Contemporary Families

UN Secretary General Confirms: Family Courts Cause Violence by Maintaining Gender Inequality: “Discrimination Built into Family Law”

“[D]iscrimination against women and disregard for children’s rights remain built into family laws…Discrimination and neglect often lead to violence, threatening women’s and children’s health…[L]et us stand united for women’s and children’s rights in families.”
– UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon

United nations social policy

GENDER EQUALITY AND CHILDREN’S RIGHTS IN FAMILY LAW

Fair legal frameworks to ensure gender equality and fulfil

children’s rights within families and beyond form basis of just

societies and are indispensable for the achievement of development goals.

Family laws govern family relations and seek to protect the

vulnerable family members, including women, children and older  2

persons. Fair family law frameworks are especially vital to ensure

gender equality and tackle various forms of violence in families.

Nevertheless, in some regions, discrimination against women,

often perpetuated at the family level, is built into legal frameworks

and government policies. Family laws may actually codify

discrimination against women and girls and place them in a

subordinate position to men in families, replicated at the community

and society level.

Men in Charge Un event

On this International Day, let us resolve to change legal and social norms that support male control over women, reinforce discrimination and prevent the elimination of violence against vulnerable family members. As we shape a new sustainable development agenda and strive for a world of dignity for all, let us stand united for women’s and children’s rights in families and societies at large.

From: “Men in Charge?”: Gender Equality and Children’s Rights in Contemporary Families

http://www.un.org/esa/socdev/family/docs/IDF2015/backgroundnote.pdf

 

..[U]rgent family law reforms and policy initiatives are still needed to ensure better protection of women and children from various forms of violence and abuse.

Custody and inheritance laws, in particular, are in need of urgent reform.
…[N]ational family laws should comply with international standards and ensure the rights of all family members. Yet, “despite progress in reforming laws, discrimination against women in the law remains pervasive in several areas, particularly in the area of family law.”

…It is important to demonstrate how reforming discriminatory
family laws; challenging of social norms that support male control
over women and justify or condone violence against women or other vulnerable family members and eliminating violence against children and children’s exposure to various types of family violence may contribute to the achievement of sustainable development goals.

…As prevailing discriminatory attitudes and social norms permit
violence, strategies must also aim at changing such attitudes and
norms and a variety of interventions have to take place at family and community level.

Prevention is seen as the most cost effective strategy to
address different forms of violence in the family. Prevention of
violence in families would contribute to gender equality and better
outcomes for children, contributing to the achievement of
development goals.

http://www.un.org/en/index.html

A FUNDAMENTAL RIGHT AND DUTY AS A MOTHER

Nelly never without my daughter

MY ADDRESS AT THE 11th international Battered Mothers Custody Conference in New Jersey :

Tonight again, like so many mothers on this planet, and like every night for a year or so, I am going to tuck my daughter into bed, kiss her tenderly and wish her “good night”. She is going to smile at me and I am going to see thousands of stars dancing in her eyes, little stars which will carry me away in an enchanted land. That land is the paradise of blessed mothers, the mothers who leave their children’s bedrooms every night, reassured that they can protect them. Those blessed mothers have no idea what a priviledge it is. Saying “good night” to Noluenn is a privilege for me considering the New York court decisions which gave custody to my ex despite his abusive personality. So tonight, again, when I close Noluenn’s bedroom door softly, I will think of one person particularly, the Rennes Appeals Court judge who saved my daughter’s life by refusing to order her return as the US State Department asked my country to do. This letter is written to that extraordinary Judge and also to the one who recently confirmed his decision by giving me sole custody, granting only 2 hours supervised visit to my ex every two weeks and placing his name on the list of Wanted People in Europe.

Your Honor, first of all, I would like to let you know about the child whose life you saved. Noluenn celebrated her tenth birthday two months ago and she is doing really well. I know you haven’t forgotten this exceptionally mature french-American girl who looked at you straight in the eyes and asserted firmly that nobody, not even you, would force her to return to her dad’s in the US, and that if you were to order her return, she would make sure she’d stay in France next to me by committing suicide. You probably don’t know this, but Noluenn had told her therapist a few days ago that if she wanted to die in France, it is because she wanted me to be able to visit her tomb, which I would not have been allowed to do in the US considering her father had obtained an arrest warrant against me.

The resilience capacities of a child who gets back into a stable and loving environment after being abused are incredible: I am not saying that sometimes Noluenn is not burdened by her feeling of shame or guilt but Noluenn’s suicidal ideation is well behind, I am stunned every day at what a different child she’s become: humor, laughter, lightness are part of her every day routine. Her dolls who used to be sad and mother deprived are happy and blossoming too. In fact, I have to laugh at times because her dolls nowadays live in a whirlwind of parties and celebrations! She owes this change, this blossoming, to you, Your Honor, since you very exceptionally refused her return to the United States under the Hague Convention on children’ international abduction.

Your Honor, I would like you to know that you saved a child’s life. If Noluenn eats, sleeps and plays normally, it is because after 8 years of insane struggle to protect my child, 6 years in the US, 2 in France, I have been conforted in my NATURAL AND FUNDAMENTAL RIGHT AND DUTY AS A MOTHER to protect my child from an abusive father by the Quimper Regional Court, which gave sole custody and only 2 hour supervised visitations to the father.

Why did you, Your Honor, decide to go against this international trend, this fashionable stereotype, of considering mothers as alienating figures? Because you saw through my ex, you realized how scary he was, and because you did not believe I am an alienating mother as you wrote in your decision.

Yet the Parental Alienation Syndrom has been exported in the European courts with some success. For 6 years, my child has complained about severe physical and emotional abuse, which even caused her to have hallucinations, which were confirmed by her therapist and a seasoned court-appointed psychiatrist, but I was never able to protect her because her father had managed to turn the tables, to erase his personality as an abuser from the Courts agenda by accusing me of parental alienation. It seemed to me that Parental Alienation was the worst crime a parent could commit against a child in the United States, forget rape, incest, physical abuse, even murder… Parental alienation was the only thing that mattered. Then one day, it was too much for Noluenn. She came back from her vacation at her father’s lifeless, and confessed that she had wanted to fly away through the window to escape the constant terror at her father’s. How could a mother protect her child when her attorneys keep telling her “Don’t denigrate the father, don’t say anything bad about the father because if the judge thinks you are are alienating the child you will lose custody!” The concept of parental alienation is a dream for abusive parents.

How does a society force a mother to witness her child’s destruction without reacting ? Why does a society refuse to acknowledge that behind an abusive husband there is an abusive father ? BECAUSE THIS SOCIETY HAS BEEN INDOCTRINATED INTO BELIEVING IN THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROM.

By wanting to preserve the untouchable, almost deified figure of the « pater familias », our modern societies have lost sight of the carnal, archaic, and fundamental bond between a mother and a child, that « love second to no one » celebrated by our poet Victor Hugo. Listening to the folly of gender equality and the syndrome of delusional paternity, legislators are passing laws that cut a child in two and rips the child from his mother to give that child to unstabled fathers. Every week, in the United States, we hear about a man who killed his wife and children because she wanted to leave him. We never hear about a woman who murders her husband and children because he left her. Children need their mother and mothers need their children. As a French Family Court judge, Edouard Durand, is saying right now in numerous campaigns against domestic violence, TO PROTECT A CHILD, SOCIETY NEEDS TO PROTECT THE MOTHER.

Again, violence against women is the heart of the problem, the issue judges must never lose sight of because things become very straightforward: a situation where there is violence against women cannot be a “conflict” or a “high conflict”. It is a situation of unilateral abuse with only one abuser, not conflict which would mean that there are two abusers. Sometimes, the words that are used can blur a situation. Unilateral abuse becomes conflict or bilateral abuse. Protecting the mother means protecting the child and let’s face it even it is not fashionable nowadays, sometimes it is essential to put some distance between a child and an abusive parent to protect that child like you, Your Honor, understood.

Since I came back to France I have been working with French mothers associations. We have come to the conclusion that if we are to contain this plague, we must unite and build an international movement of mothers, psychiatrists, legislators, pediatricians, judges like Eduard Durand on both sides of the Atlantic. A movement which would reassert that mothers are the most vital components of society, the ones responsible for humanizing children into adulthood. A movement that reasserts that men’s violence is a plague all over the world and that fathers are men! (Not all men thank God are violent of course!) And it is not because a man becomes a father that he stops being abusive. We need to build a European-American movement that will stop this human catastrophe.
Nelly JOUAN


 

 

If your Child reports Abuse Don’t call CPS

The best way to protect the non-offending parent and the child victim from the inherent risks and abuses of the CPS system is to stay as far away from CPS as possible,”  Maria De Santis.

For those unaware of the Governmental Policies and Biases that work against reporting mothers/protective parent, this comes as a shock and you may find it hard to believe, that by reporting abuse you could lose custody that the very agency you grew to believe was there to protect your children will in fact fail them.  The first thing that goes through your head  of course when dealing with an abuse issue is you should call CPS they are there to protect children………Wrong….to date CPS fails as many children as they protect maybe more.  CPS/DHHS may be contributing to the growing ‘Child Trafficking’ through foster care and the courts, and increasing medical kidnappingsand legal abductions in our country. It makes no sense.  For many this advise comes a little too late.  Please, share.

 

http://mothersoflostchildren.org/2014/07/dont-call-cps-if-you-are-a-protective-mom/

Kelly Rutherford among the speakers at the 11 annual BMCC

Kelly Rutherford for CJC eventPress Release: Actress Kelly Rutherford among speakers at the 11th annual and 1st International Battered Mothers Custody Conference in Secaucus New Jersey.
When: Friday, May 15 – Sunday, May 17, 2015
Where: Empire Hotel Clarion Meadowlands, 2 Harmon Plaza, Secaucus, NJ 07094 (201) 348-6900
Speakers presenting evidence-based solutions include Teaneck-based legal scholar Barry Goldstein, author of “The Quincy Solution.” His approach is saving lives and saving taxpayers an estimated $750 billion.
All of Europe is on the verge of adopting the solutions of “Coercive Control,” valued as “one of the most important books ever written on domestic violence.” Author, Rutgers Emeritus Professor and renowned forensic social worker, Evan D. Stark, will present Saturday night May 16th from 7 to 9pm.


Actress Kelly Rutherford along with Bergen County advocate, Patrice Lenowitz, attorney Wendy Murphy, and pediatrician Dr. Jen Trachtenberg will be presenting on a panel discussion introducing their national organization, the Children’s Justice Campaign, on Sunday May 17th 9:45-11:00am.  see this most recent article on CJC event in Los Angeles and Petition event to Bring Kelly’s Children Back http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-3079174/Kris-Jenner-Melanie-Griffith-support-Kelly-Rutherford-s-charity-event-Gossip-Girl-star-gets-100K-signatures-petition-bring-children-back.html

Kelly Rutherford and Patrice Lenowitz for CJC

The conference will include presentations by researchers, advocates, and survivors who will demonstrate how the standard practice of family courts and child protective services put innocent defenseless children at great risk for harm.

An award ceremony will be taking place on Sunday May 17th 12pm. Recipients include longtime domestic violence advocate, Senator Loretta Weinberg, Rutgers Emeritus Professor and author of “Coercive Control” Evan Stark, author, speaker and dv expert Barry Goldstein, and actress Kelly Rutherford.

We look forward to you joining us on our quest for justice, commonsense, and the protection of Americas most precious resource; our children.

Contact: Dr. Mo Therese Hannah, Ph.D. at mhannah413@aol.com, (518) 210-2487, or visithttp://www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/index.html

Children’s Lives Matter! Mother’s voices must be heard!

Aleah Holland Childrens lives matter

Author, Activist and Founder of Heal Network Aleah Holland

“Losing a child ‘through life’ is the most horrific way to lose a child. Until a couple of decades ago, nobody had ever lost a child in this way– at least not in mass numbers.  And, children didn’t go missing ‘legally’. No mother should ever have to lose a child through life. It’s not normal. It’s not natural. There is no closure. There is no end to the gut wrenching pain. The wound does not ever heal. In fact, it never even forms a scab toward healing. It remains perpetually open… The taking of living children from living mothers is something so terrible, so evil, that there is no way to really describe such a loss. Not really… However, I wrote a poem today trying to describe what it’s like to be the mother of a lost child/children.”

For Mothers of ‘Lost ‘ Children

by Robin Karr

It’s impossible to know that your child is still OK

To protect your child was your job, so you think you failed in every way

When your child is no longer with you and still so very young

You can’t help but think there must be more you could have done

You turn the music up and sob while in your car and the shower hides your tears

You know you can’t survive this kind of loss another day, another month, another year

Yet, the years go by and you realize you’re still alone

Although you did all you knew and could, your child did not come home

The child you carried and brought into this world has gone away

There’s nothing left to do but pray and pray and pray

How evil are those who desire nothing more than to destroy the mother-child bond

You continue to seek justice, but the gut wrenching pain goes on and on

No matter how huge the loss, you have no choice but to start another day

Without your child that gave your life meaning in every way

You lie down at night and think of your child and feel so all alone

There is nothing in this world you want more than for your child to just come home.

“The very last thing I said to Valeri Williams from WFAA when she interviewed me back in January 2000 was this: ‘I know Judge Pirtle would like for me to go away,” Robin finishes. “I know Ed would like for me to go away. I’m never going to go away. I have two babies. God gave me those babies and I love them. I’m not going away.” Robin Karr has not seen her two children in over a decade. http://motherswithoutcustodyworld.com/to_lose_a_child_through_life


Its hard to imagine good mothers unable to see their children,  children they birthed, they prayed for and tried to protect from harm.  Even on Mother’s Day no contact.  In an unnatural event mothers and children are being separated by courts that prefer fathering to mothering.  Courts that are getting it wrong, ignoring evidence, common sense, replacing science and physiology with junk science and myth.  Courts are heavily incentivized and influenced by lobbying groups and gender bias funding.  All this has added to a National Crisis, a Holocaust, children removed from safe-non-offending good mothers, whose voices are marginalized in this society quickly becoming a motherless America.

For the Motherless Child the confusion and pain can cause physical and emotional problems and untold challenges. Mothers who are fighting for their children are being misunderstood, their rights violated and the agony for the mother is the pain and suffering of their beloved child. 

http://www.peterhaiman.com/articles/effectsOfSeparationOnYoungChildren.shtml

by Peter Ernest Haiman, Ph.D. disusses decisions that too often result in short- and even long-term psychological damage to the individual.

“The CDC’s groundbreaking epidemiological study discovered a link between childhood adversity and the adult onset of chronic disease , mental illness, violence and becoming a victim of violence. The 10 adverse childhood experiences measured in the Florida research and the CDC’s ACE Study were: emotional, physical, and sexual abuse; emotional and physical neglect; and five types of family dysfunction: witnessing a mother being abused, household substance abuse, household mental illness, losing a parent to separation or divorce, and having an incarcerated household member.”

Family Violence, and Parental Separation or Divorce Highest impact on Juveniles in the system

http://acestoohigh.com/2014/08/20/florida-study-confirms-link-between-juvenile-offenders-aces-rates-much-higher-than-cdcs-ace-study/   http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/acestudy/

When Robin Karr and Janie McQueen wrote the story The Motherless Child Project, the pandora’s box was opened on the feelings of a young girl who was questioning everything…why she was a motherless child.  This tender story approaches the issues that few adults understand and helps the reader to digest the challenges that families are facing today.

The dangerous notion that fathers can replace mothers goes against nature itself and the failure to acknowledge the dangers of the deprivation of maternal contact is just ignorance and criminal.  While the need for attachment in Mother-Child relationship is Long understood in Healthy Human development and psychology, a dangerous trend of politics and ‘money’ has overshadowed common sense, this fact has impacted our society in areas that have causes a ripple effect. The removal of a child can lead to the child failing: failing physically, emotionally and some so effected by the depression and loss even commit suicide as Janie McQueen writes about in Burying Voices no more..  

For Mothers this event effects them in many of the same ways. “It’s among the most egregious acts of injustice in the American legal system. It’s happening from coast to coast, courtroom to courtroom, defying common sense and what’s in the best interest of safety, sanity and society: An estimated 58,000 children a year are taken away from safe protective mothers and court ordered for custody or unsupervised visitation with reported abusers”, says Patrice Lenowitz from Children’s Justice Campaign.

Removing a mother’s children from her, when she has committed no crime, is cruel and unusual punishment. The physical, mental, and emotional toll of surviving the negligence, abuse and trauma from these individuals lasts a lifetime.

A non-custodial mother remarks: “to lose one’s children in such a way would unmake any woman.” And it is true. Taking a woman’s children is the last great punishment an abuser can scar them with. To be publicly and permanently branded ‘unfit’ is a new scarlet letter. It can and will scar an entire family for life.

“Nurturing and loving mothers losing permanent custody of their children is such depressing subject matter. But we cannot indefinitely avoid depressing subject matter, particularly if it is true. “ says Coral Anika Theill from Oregon

“Many women grow up in homes in which they were conditioned and groomed to be victims. They marry sociopathic abusers, have children with them, and lose custody and contact of their children when they become stronger and choose safety.

“The price for my own safety and freedom in 1996 was an imposed, unnatural and unwanted separation from my eight children, including my nursing infant. The injustice committed against me is not just the physical separation from my children, but the willful desecration of the mother-child relationship and bond, a sacred spiritual and emotional entity.” – Coral Anika Theill, BONSHEA Making Light of the Dark  READ complimentary copy of Coral Theill’s memoir at: http://www.coralanikatheill.com/#!read-bonshea-making-light-of-the-dark-/c22am


 

This poem is dedicated to loving mothers who are without their child or children because of unethical custody battles and their children:
Another Mothers day has came and gone to pass
Another Mothers day without my beautiful precious child
Another Mothers day how much longer will this abusive cruel situation last?
For nine months God carefully formed you in my womb +psalm 139:13
Some days I was very sick, vomiting, headaches –it was all worth it for you
I would do it all over again
Two beating heartbeats in one human body
A miracle chosen for you and me
I gave you life–you gave life to me
The day you were born was like no other
How blessed I was to say “I am your mother”
From waking up in the middle of the night watching you roll over, crawl, giggle, break teeth
Were some of the best moments of my life
Many wonderful moments of you and me
Are etched deep in my heart and memory
At this moment you are not here with me
I want you to know I did not chose that to be
You see my dear child we live in a spiritual world
There is good and evil, God and Satan
Satan comes to steal and destroy
He wants no one to live with joy
One of his favorite tactics is to destroy a family
He will try to attack it
That is what he has tried to do with you and me
God knows all he will not allow that to continue to be
As you go through this journey called life
Hold fast to the good book it will teach you what is right
I want you to know I am so proud of you
God gave you a strong spirit to endure what you have been through
Know that I love you..always have, always will and I
Praise God for the day when you will be back with me again
People when you begin to pray please include our children everyday

by Veronica Hatton


stoirm Pyle Mothers day

from Stoirm I. Pyle


UGLY SHOES – ON MOTHER’S DAY MAY 2015 – Dedicated to Mothers of Lost Children and Trauma Survivors – May you all be given the strength you need for each moment, each day, each year.

Ugly Shoes

No woman deserves to wear these shoes.

I am wearing a pair of shoes.

They are ugly shoes.

Uncomfortable shoes.

I hate my shoes.

Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.

Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.

Yet, I continue to wear them. I get funny looks wearing these shoes.

They are looks of sympathy.

I can tell in other’s eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.

They never talk about my shoes.

To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.

To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.

But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.

I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.

There are many pairs in this world.

Some women are like me and ache daily as they try to walk in them.

Some have learned how to walk in them so that they don’t hurt quite so much.

Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.

No woman deserves to wear these shoes.

Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.

These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.

They have made me who I am.

I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.

http://www.coralanikatheill.com/#!Ugly-Shoes-Dedicated-to-Mothers-of-Lost-Children-and-Trauma-Survivors/c1q8z/1

 


 

 

aleah

OPEN LETTER to NEW YORK CITY MAYOR BILL de BLASIO

As a lifelong citizen of New York, a registered nurse for seventeen years and licensed childcare provider, I find myself asking “Does the de Blasio Administration support acts of corruption or will your administration be the first to finally stand up to protect children from family court supported-ACS corruption in New York City?”

From Lisa Steinberg to Elisa Izquierdo to Myls Dobson, I am appalled by ACS.

Since 2012, I have been working with nearly 10,000 mothers to create a movement to bring awareness to the need of ACS reform as a child protection agency in New York City. The family court system has become a multi-billion dollar protected empire built on seizing children and separating families. There is no accountability for hurting families in this system. There are thousands of proven cases where the caseworkers and social workers are repeatedly found guilty of fraud, withholding, fabricating, and destroying evidence, or seeking to terminate parental rights unnecessarily for the reward money.

Poor families whose only crime is being poor are often targeted. With a $3 billion budget, taxpayers are fed up with secrecy, incompetency, and familial destruction by this agency known as Administration of Children’s Services, which is responsible for the violent death of Myls Dobson and too many other children under its poor pitiful care.

Cases that can be resolved in less than 90 days are litigated as long as 9 years or more with children growing up in the clutches of this system. Just this week, I had a mother lose a child to a man that ACS knew was a child abuser. I met a mother who has been in court for 13 years and a father for who has been fighting for his children for 17 years.With the continuance of having no consequences for their tactless actions – along with caseworker negligence in regards to the children – ACS is in danger of continuing a never-ending practice that will only lead to more deaths, destroyed children and youth which leads to destroyed adults. I have never witnessed such immoral human beings dealing with the lives of children and families.

The Administration for Children Snatching business has grown accustomed to having these billions of taxpayer dollars to balance the budget of state employees, court investigators, lawyers, judges, court personal, therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, foster parents, adoptive parents, social workers, and on and on with a seemingly unlimited corrupt dependence on this legal kidnapping for money funded by the Social Security Administration Title IV grants and the Department of Health and Human Services.

As an upstanding member in my community and a member since 1997 of the largest church in Brooklyn Christian Cultural Center; I was unaware that this was actually happening to humans until I was captured in this child rigging custody for cash system. To have been victimized and criminalized by this system – which I thought I could trust – has been beyond devastating, definitely life shattering and left me with a sense of betrayal. I am convinced that a system that functions as criminally as this do not belong in society.

In order for family court supported, ACS corruption to end, there has to be a better way to create jobs without torturing families and children.

Asking the New York City Council to approve 376 more untrustworthy and unjust caseworkers that separates families for money is mind boggling and horrifying to me.Taxpayers already foot the bill for this child protection hoax and hustle that destroys family connections and heritage forever. Also bad business decision to throw good money after bad money. I urge you not to throw away billions of taxpayers money into ACS’ broken system. We must first address the humongous amount of fraud that has led to the deaths of four children in the first one hundred days of your administration. We must first address the removal of children and the lack the ability to protect children from their deaths.

It appears that more deaths of black and brown children is a bonus for this system because it leads the public to believe more money will fix the problems when actually that is false, this system creates more problems. There is no accountability or professionalism in this near useless child protection service agency.

My heart dropped as I learned more money would be put into this system that has been failing children year after year. The preventative service budget has been slashed or intentionally withheld from needy parents while ACS has doubled the number of children who will placed in residential mental health centers.

All I could think about was the Gestapo and more families being destroyed by this agency, more false-documentation to support their bad-misdeeds, more fraud-waste-and-abuse, more children they will neglect, maltreat, and allowed to be murdered, and 376 more incompetent- negligent- and fraudulent caseworkers to document whatever is needed to keep their jobs or get overtime, that is a truthful fact.

Time and time again, taxpayers have heard blanket statements by ACS that heavy caseloads is what caused them to “fake-document untruthfully leading to removal of children from good parents” or “pushed them to invent-fake visits which they were paid for to homes they never attended where children were endangered, injured, and murdered.” It’s no longer a secret that a large amount of ACS’s budget is misused in a litigious fashion against mothers and fathers who speak out against their unorganized, unfair, malicious, unusual and cruel proceedings; which goes as far as to invent evidence, manufacture facts, and create fake-issues to then strip good mothers and fathers of their children as a form of retaliation.

Mothers and fathers spend years, and pay lawyers their life-savings for trying to save their reputation from being removed off the child abuse registry where they was placed as revenge for saying i dont agree with your tactics. For others who can not afford to pay they remian. Many of ACS’s baseless fraudulent claims remain in litigation in the family court system for numerous years with everyone benefiting from the fruits of the labor of the “custody for cash” business except the family that just needed a little help or no interference at all.

This system can formulate a different strategy of how to traumatize and destroy any family to get to reach their ultimate goals, goals of creating business which are different then what most parents of NYC think the system is there for, which is “The Best Interest of The Child.” ACS has clearly disregarded “the best interest of the child” for a long time now. It has demonstrated more of a “Custody for Cash” type module putting children in harm’s way and many bad actors from family court judges, social workers, attorneys, therapist, and psychiatrist and on will join in for the right amount of dividends or financial rewards they will let the games begin.

Children torn away from their homes or placed in to foster care fraudulently are growing up traumatized in a catastrophic broken system, because it is fixed this way. Children that are torn away from their homes demonstrating emotional sadness or depression are then placed on Psychotropic-Drugs by psychiatrist a part of the system fix, which is more pay for foster care agencies like children in Special Ed receive more funding from department of education.

As a registered nurse I know that in a hospital setting “mechanical restraints” such as psychotropic drugs is one of the last resorts into restraining a person, usually used a to prevent self-harm to self or to others, and if used abusively such as a form of control by a healthcare professional that we as professionals can lose our jobs, we can face criminal charges, fines, or we can go to jail.

Medicating children for hoax diagnosis most times tuns into real lifelong mental illnesess.

So, how loosely psychotropic drugs are used in this administration against the parent’s objection is perplexing as there is severe long term effect from using these drugs, even more severe as boys growing breast but creating irreversible mental illnesses, and death. This type of chemical weapon is severely destructive. Removing children first then placed on drugs is a depraved and immoral action.

Moreover, research has shown death of a parent is number one most traumatic event for a child triggering everything from depression to PTSD, severe mental injuries, physical illnesses, and learning disabilities.

Children constructively losing their good-loving parents not to a car accident, or a severe health event such as cancer, but to design by a court ordered answer and consequence as a result of homelessness, a sink full of dirty dishes, or something else of mediocre or false pretense must end.

To pay for a residence for a homeless-family for a year is around $20,000 or less for a good neighborhood. To litigate a homeless family and place a child in care, then the family in shelter could easily cost taxpayers $500,000 a year per child or more. I wrote the numbers out to really see the difference of taking a child and helping a child.

This system has clearly shown if they have no children…..

No children means no problems.

No problems=no business.

No business =no money.

No money=No Job.

These people in this system will false document anything for a job, erroneous billable hours, and bonuses.

When Amber Alerts are issued against parents trapped in this cruel, unusual, and untrustworthy custody-trapping system time after time, it’s time for reform and change. New York City children and parents should not be terrorized with fear for 17 years looking over their shoulders due to this administration scare-tactics. ACS caseworkers, lawyers, therapists, and judges can waste millions a dollars a year off of one child in the system off of bogus claims, which is a small fraction compared to what could have maintained and assisted in bringing optimal health, safety, security and keeping that family together.

I witnessed and wrote a book based on my true stories and others about ACS and the Family court system custody-rigging, along with aiding and abetting abusers with financial fraud, and other incentives while inventing false situations to steal children from their loving mothers, and good fathers. This agency over last twenty years changes its name but the waste, fraud, abuse and preventable endangering of children clearly remains the same. It is just further buried, and the name change is a distraction that is supposed to make people forget these murders and crimes of neglect to these children and families ever happened.

In order to prevent more senseless murders, and mitigate damages to families by this system, an intensive investigation into every case where children have been removed, or threats of children to be removed must be analyzed with parents voices included. Trust me you can’t trust what ACS caseworkers and supervisors say. I have proof of their fraud.

I wish I could be that good girl and turn a blind eye to this systemic atrocity of the enormous amount of wrong by this system, but I can’t. The only justified money is into a federal investigation into the fraud and trauma, and abuse in this system. We have to stop throwing poor and vulnerable children under the bus as a business.

This will be the only true and honest ways to get to the bottom of what is really going on in this rigged, corrupt, and racketeering failed system, where case by case demonstrates practices and policies easily based on false documenting, and poor documenting to invent a case.

I would like to meet with you to discuss changes that are needed.

POINT ONE: Confidentiality and secrecy within ACS protects the wrong people. The courtrooms must be open to the public including the news media. The Family Court system needs more regulation and more accountability.

POINT TWO: Aiding and abetting abusers under the “Father Rights” while stripping mothers of preventative services must end. Children have a right not be abused for incentives.

POINT THREE: Fraud waste and abuse must end in this system that promotes their child stripping business.

New York City is a model city for the world, and unfortunately what happens here sets the precendence for what happens EVERYWHERE in the country and even the world. Until you hold ACS accountable for the deaths and rapes of children in their care, your administration will continue to lose support of taxpayers and parents.

The Rig Is UP

Aleah Holland RN, Founder of Heal Network Inc.

HEAL Mothers & Children Coalition

Author of A little Lynched- Book on Family Court and ACS Corruption

http://www.amazon.com/Little-Lynched-Amber-Ordered-Kidnapping-ebook/dp/B00IYO8XI0

Mothers March for Peace

mothers-day-for-peace

A long tradition of Mothers marching for peace in the USA

Mothers’ Day Proclamation: Julia Ward Howe, Boston, 1870

Mother’s Day was originally started after the Civil War, as a protest to the carnage of that war, by women who had lost their sons. Here is the original Mother’s Day Proclamation from 1870, followed by a bit of history (or should I say “herstory”):

Julia ward howe
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Mother’s Day Turns 100: Its Surprisingly Dark History- Ann Jarvis Died Penniless fighting the commercialism of Mother’s day that diverted our attention away from the work of Mothers!

http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2014/05/140508-mothers-day-nation-gifts-facts-culture-moms/


Fast forward to Mothers Day 2010 When Mothers traveled from across the nation to bring a message to our President-“Why are good mothers losing custody?”….  “We want Federal Oversight Hearings!….Protect our Children Mr. and Mrs. Obama!….These are Civil Rights Violations, and Human Rights Violations and Human Trafficking through the Courts and After Hundred’s of Protest mothers are asking: Where’s My Motherhood.gov?

American Mothers at the Whitehouse framed

Mr. President

Love Mom? send a message to the Whitehouse today-
‪#‎Where‬smyMotherhood.gov? Dial 202-456-1111- president@whitehouse.gov.

Mr. President with$$$$$ 50 Billion a year in fatherhood.gov funding no wonder there’s a war on mothers- why are good moms losing custody? We need federal oversight! We need our Motherhood.gov!

send a letter-
The President
The White House
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue NW
Washington, DC 20500
send an email-
president@whitehouse.gov.wheres my mothers gov molc.org

 


 

Mother’s Day Proclamation

Mothers of Lost Children at the White House 2010

Whereas: Research by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention finds that children’s exposure to traumas such as child physical abuse, incest and witnessing domestic violence have severe negative effects that can last a lifetime and that childhood adverse experiences are the major risk factors for the leading causes of illness and death in the United States[1]; and

 

Whereas: Domestic violence is a strong predictor of child physical abuse, increasing the risk from 5% after one violent act to 100% after 50 violent acts[2]; and

 

Whereas: Child sexual abuse allegations are extremely rare in custody cases (2-6%)[3], are just as likely to be true as at any other time (two-thirds are substantiated)[4], and fathers are far more likely to intentionally make false allegations (21%) than mothers (1%)[5]; and

 

Whereas: Domestic violence, child abuse and incest may not become known until the child’s parents separate, and abuse may begin or escalate after separation; and

 

Whereas: Non-scientific theories such as alienation theories which assume that the children’s reports of physical or sexual abuse are coached or fabricated by the protective parent result in children being inappropriately ordered into unsupervised contact with their identified batterers and molesters[6]; and

 

Whereas: Violent parents (usually fathers) are much more likely to seek sole custody and are successful about 70% of the time[7]; and

 

Whereas: More than 58,000 children a year are ordered into unsupervised contact with physically or sexually abusive parents following divorce in the United States[8] and a growing number of children are murdered while in their violent parents’ custody and control[9]; and

 

Whereas: Children’s physical and sexual safety is fundamental to their health and welfare, and must take precedence over abusive parents’ claims to custody or unsupervised visitation.

 

Therefore: Be it resolved to call for:

  1. A Congressional Hearing on family court abuses and corruption.
  2. A complete investigation by the U.S. Attorney General into family court corruption in 6 states.
  3. A Federal Grand Jury citizen review panel to ensure that children live with safe parents.

 

Please contact your United States Senator (www.senate.gov) to call for Congressional Hearings

 

For information, http://mothersoflostchildren.org/, www.centerforjudicialexcellence.org, www.leadershipcouncil.org, www.childabusesolutions.com, www.distinctioninfamilycourts.com, www.protectiveparents.com, www.courageouskids.net

[1] http://www.cdc.gov/nccdphp/ace and http://www.acestudy.org

[2] Ross, Risk of Physical Abuse to Children of Spouse Abusing Parents, 20(7)Child Abuse & Neglect, 589-98,1996

[3] Thoennes & Tjaden, The Extent, Nature, and Validity of Child Sexual Abuse Allegations in Custody and Visitation Disputes, 14(2) Child Sexual Abuse & Neglect, 151-63, 1990

[4] Brown, Frederico, Hewitt & Sheehan, Revealing the Existence of Chidl Abuse in the Context of Marital Breakdown and Custody and Access Disputes, 24(6) Child Abuse & Neglect, 849-85, 2000

[5] Bala & Schuman, Allegations of Sexual Abuse When Parents Have Separated, 17 Canadian Family Law Quarterly, 191-241, 2000

[6] Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family, www.nnflp.org/apa/APA_task_force.htm; and unpublished research by Geraldine Stahly, PhD

[7] Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family, www.nnflp.org/apa/APA_task_force.htm; American Judges Foundation, Domestic Violence and the Court House: Understanding the Problem…Knowing the Victim, http://aja.ncsc.dni.us/domviol/page5.html; and unpublished research by Geraldine Stahly, PhD

[8] www.leadershipcouncil.org

[9] http://dastardlydads.blogspot.com/2010/02


 

 

1000-MOTHERS-MARCH-FOR-JUSTICE


mothers day peace march

mothers march


another Mother’s Day for Peace – by Ruth Rosen.

Honor Mother with Rallies in the Streets. The holiday
began in activism; it needs rescuing from commercialism
and platitudes.

Every year, people snipe at the shallow commercialism of Mother’s Day. But to
ignore your mother on this holy holiday is unthinkable. And if you are a
mother, you’ll be devastated if your ingrates fail to honor you at least one
day of the year.

Mother’s Day wasn’t always like this. The women who conceived Mother’s Day
would be bewildered by the ubiquitous ads that hound us to find that “perfect
gift for Mom.”  They would expect women to be marching in the streets, not
eating with their families in restaurants.  This is because Mother’s Day began
as a holiday that commemorated women’s public activism, not as a celebration
of a mother’s devotion to her family.

The story begins in 1858 when a community activist named Anna Reeves Jarvis
organized Mothers’ Works Days in West Virginia.  Her immediate goal was to
improve sanitation in Appalachian communities.  During the Civil War, Jarvis
pried women from their families to care for  the wounded on both sides.
Afterward she convened meetings to persuale men to lay aside their
hostilities.

In 1872, Juulia Ward Howe, author of the “Battle Hymn of the Republic”,
proposed an annual Mother’s Day for Peace.  Committed to abolishing war, Howe
wrote: “Our husbands shall not come to us reeking with carnage… Our sons
shall not be taken from us to unlearn all that we have been able to teach them
of charity, mercy and patience. We women of one country will be too tender of
those of another country to allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs”.

For the next 30 years, Americans celebrated Mothers’ Day for Peace on June 2.

Many middle-class women in the 19th century believed that they bore a special
responsibility as actual or potential mothers to care for the casualties of
society and to turn America into a more civilized nation.  They played a
leading role  in the abolitionist movement to end slavery.  In the following
decades, they launched successful campaigns against lynching and consumer
fraud and battled for improved working conditions for women and protection for
children, public health services and social welfare assistance to the poor.
To the activists, the connection between motherhood and the fight for social
and economic justice seemed self-evident.

In 1913, Congress declared the second Sunday in May to be Mother’s Day.  By
then, the growing consumer culture had successfully redefined women as
consumers for their families.  Politicians and businessmen eagerly enbraced
the idea of celebrating the private sacrifices made by individual mothers.  As
the Florists’ Review, the industry’s trade jounal, bluntly put it, “This was a
holiday that could be exploited.”

The new advertising industry quickly taught Americans how to honor their
mothers – by buying flowers.  Outraged by florists who were seling carnations
for the exorbitant price of $1 apeice, Anna Jarvis’ duaghter undertook a
campaging against those who “would undermine Mother’s Day with their greed.”
But she fought a losing battle.  Within a few years, the Florists’ Review
triumphantly announced that it was “Miss Jarvis who was completely squelched.”

Since then, Mother’s Day has ballooned into a billion-dollar industry.

Americans may revere the idea of motherhood and love their own mothers, but
not all mothers.  Poor, unemployed rmothers may enjoy flowers, but they also
need child care, job training, health care, a higher minimum wage and paid
parental leave.  Working mothers may enjoy breakfast in bed, but they also
need the kind of governmental assistance provided by every other
industrialized society.

With a little imagination, we could restore Mother’s Day as a holiday that
celebrates women’s political engagement in society.  During the 1980’s, some
peace groups gathered at nuclear test sites on Mother’s Day to protest the
arms race.  Today, our greatest threat is not from missilies but from our
indifference toward human welfare and the health of our planet.  Imagine, if
you can, an annual Million Mother March in the nation’s capital.  Imagine a
Mother’s Day filled with voices demanding social and economic justice and a
sustainable future, rather than speeches studded with syrupy platitudes.

Some will think it insulting to alter our current way of celebrating Mother’s
Day.  But public activism does not preclude private expressions of love and
gratitude. (Nor does it prevent people from expressing their appreciation all
year round.)

Nineteenth century women dared to dream of a day that honored women’s civil
activism.  We can do no less. We should honor their vision with civic
activism.

Ruth Rosen is a professor of history at UC Davis.
Reprinted with permission

 

Kelly Rutherford takes custody battle to the White House

Kelly rutherford and kids

Kelly Rutherford takes custody battle to the White House

WE PETITION THE OBAMA ADMINISTRATION TO:

The undersigned hereby implore the Obama administration to return Kelly Rutherford’s children safely to the U.S.A.

At ages 2 and 5, Kelly Rutherford’s children were forced by a California judge to live in France with their German father, (nobody is French) after he claimed his U.S. visa was revoked, and he could not enter the U.S. The children’s appointed counsel said they should remain in the U.S., but the judge sent the children to France, solely because the father claimed he could not return to the U.S., even though NO evidence has been produced from any American official stating that the father was EVER denied entry into the U.S., and the father refused to request a visa. Instead, he filed court papers in Monaco, causing the children to be declared “habitual residents” subject solely to Monaco law. The father also recently filed papers seeking to strip Kelly of all parental rights.  https://petitions.whitehouse.gov//petition/step-and-prevent-monaco-gaining-jurisdiction-over-usa-kelly-rutherfords-california-child-custody-case

 

 

Actress Kelly Rutherford has taken her battle for her two children to the White House. A petition has been filed with whitehouse.gov seeking a federal order to allow her young children, who were ordered by a judge to live in France with her estranged husband, to move back to the US.

“This is a political issue now,” Rutherford told Page Six, adding that her children’s “constitutional rights should have been put before our parental rights,” meaning that as American citizens, her kids should not have been deported.

She explained she is appealing to the White House for “political support and help to bring my kids home.”

The “Gossip Girl” star famously lost custody of her kidsHermes, 8, and Helena, 5, to her German businessman ex-husband Daniel Giersch, who moved the children to France. He later took them to Monaco, where they have citizenship.

https://instagram.com/kellyrutherford/?utm_source=partner&utm_medium=embed&utm_campaign=photo

http://pagesix.com/2015/04/29/kelly-rutherford-takes-custody-battle-to-the-white-house/

Mothers of the Disappeared in America remember the Madres of the Plaza de Mayo

Madres of Plaza de mayo scarf

The white scarf of the Mothers, painted on the ground in Plaza de Mayo, Buenos Aires

April 30th, anniversary of the Association of Mothers in Argentina –

Abuela’s fighting for their disappeared children and grandchildren

Mothers of the Plaza de Mayo

Madres de plaza

Speaking Truth to Power
Madres of the Plaza de Mayo

Statements from some of the mothers:

“One of the things that I simply will not do now is shut up. The women of my generation in Latin America have been taught that the man is always in charge and the woman is silent even in the face of injustice…Now I know that we have to speak out about the injustices publicly. If not, we are accomplices. I am going to denounce them publicly without fear. This is what I learned.”
María del Rosario de Cerruti

http://www.womeninworldhistory.com/contemporary-07.html

“Becoming aware of all the terrible things the young people were enduring made us see the ferociousness of the enemy clearly. The ferocity of the enemy gives us the strength to face him. I mean, how are you going to allow him to go on? “
Hebe Mascia

“We realize that to demand the fulfillment of human rights is a revolutionary act, that to question the government about bringing our children back alive was a revolutionary act. We are fighting for liberation, to live in freedom, and that is a revolutionary act…To transform a system is always revolutionary.”
Madres of the Plaza de Mayo

madres scarves

Children who disappeared

                                                                                                   http://www.abuelas.org.ar/english/history.htm

History of Abuelas de Plaza de Mayo

Children Who Disappeared or Who Were Born in Captivity

The drama of children who disappeared in our country, the Argentine Republic, is one of the consequences of the National Reorganization Process enforced by the military dictatorship, which ruled the country between 1976 and 1983.

These children are the children of our children, who have also disappeared. Many babies were kidnapped with their parents, some after their parents were killed, and others were born in clandestine detention centers where their mothers were taken after having been sequestered at different states of their pregnancies.

We, the babies’ grandmothers, tried desperately to locate them and, during these searches, decided to unite. Thus, in 1977, the non-governmental organization called Abuelas (Grandmothers) de Plaza de Mayo was established, dedicated specifically to fighting for the return of our grandchildren. We also relentlessly investigated our children’s and grandchildren’s disappearances, in hopes of finding them.

As mothers our search is two-folded because we are demanding the restitution of our grandchildren while simultaneously searching for these children’s parents, our sons and daughters.

From the moment that our children (often with our grandchildren in their wombs) disappeared, we visited every court, office, orphanage, day care center, and so on, to locate them. We appeared before the courts, the successive military governments, the Supreme Court, and the ecclesiastical hierarchies, never obtaining a positive result. We finally directed our claim to international organizations such as the United Nations and the Organization of American States, again to no avail.

In 1977 we began our struggle with the claim for 13 children’s restitution. As of August 2004, over 400 children have been recorded as missing. However, we know that there are approximately 500 kidnapped children. In many cases, their relatives did not declare such kidnappings, either due to ignorance of the ability to do so or because they did not know that the mothers were pregnant at the time of their disappearance.

The disappeared children were deprived of their identity, their religion, and their right to live with their family, in order words, all of the rights that are nationally and internationally recognized as their universal human rights.

Our demand is concrete: that the children who were kidnapped as a method of political repression be restored to their legitimate families.

The Mothers of the Plaza de Mayo (Spanish: Asociación Madres de Plaza de Mayo) is an association of Argentine mothers whose children were “disappeared” during the Dirty War of the military dictatorship, between 1976 and 1983. They organized while trying to learn what had happened to their children, and began to march in 1977 at the Plaza de Mayo in Buenos Aires, in front of the Casa Rosada presidential palace, in public defiance of the government’s state terrorism intended to silence all opposition.

The Mothers’ association was formed by women who had met each other while trying to find their missing sons and daughters. Many of the disappeared were believed to have been abducted by agents of the Argentine government during the years known as the Dirty War (1976–1983); the “disappeared” were often tortured and killed before their bodies were disposed of in rural areas or unmarked graves. The 14 founders of the group were Azucena Villaflor de De Vincenti, Berta Braverman, Haydée García Buelas; María Adela Gard de Antokoletz, Julia, María Mercedes and Cándida Gard (four sisters); Delicia González, Pepa Noia, Mirta Baravalle, Kety Neuhaus, Raquel Arcushin, and Senora De Caimi. They started demonstrations on the Plaza de Mayo, in front of the Casa Rosadapresidential palace, on April 30 1977.

In that period, many people were highly fearful of attracting the government’s attention, as it was exterminating the opposition. Taking strength together by marching in public, with some coverage by the press, by the following year, hundreds of women participated, gathering in the Plaza for weekly demonstrations. They made signs with photos of their children and brandished their children’s names. The government tried to marginalize and trivialize their work by calling them “las locas” (the madwomen).[1]

Together with the number of disappeared, the movement grew and gained international attention during the years of the Dirty War. The mothers cultivated international attention, seeking to build pressure by other governments against the Argentine dictatorship by publicizing the many stories of the “disappeared”. In 1978, when Argentina’s hosted the World Cup, the Mothers’ demonstrations at the Plaza were covered by the international press corps in town for the sporting event.[1] Villaflor had been searching for one of her sons and her daughter-in-law for six months. The government arranged for her to be taken to the ESMA concentration camp on 8 December 1978.[citation needed]

The military has admitted that over 9,000 of those kidnapped are still unaccounted for, but the Mothers of the Plaza de Mayo say that the number of missing is closer to 30,000. Most are presumed dead. An estimated 500 of the missing are the children born in concentration camps or prison to pregnant ‘disappeared’ women; the babies were given in illegal adoptions to military families and others associated with the regime. Their mothers were generally believed killed. The numbers are hard to determine due to the secrecy surrounding the abductions.

During this period, Azucena Villaflor, Esther Careaga and María Eugenia Bianco, three of the founders of the Mothers of the Plaza de Mayo, were also “disappeared”. After the fall of the military regime, a civilian government commission held in 1984 put the number of disappeared at close to 11,000. Human rights groups and the Mothers believe the figure is much higher, because the military and security forces destroyed records before ceding power to a democratic government.[citation needed]

Unidentified bodies continue to be found related to those years. For instance, in January 2005, the body of a French nun was exhumed without an identity.Léonie Duquet, a supporter of the Mothers, had “disappeared” during the years of the military dictatorship and was feared dead. Her disappearance had increased international outrage towards the Argentine military government. DNA tests concluded on August 30, 2005, confirmed that the body exhumed in January was that of Duquet.[citation needed]

In mid-2005, a forensics team also identified the remains of Azucena Villaflor, Esther Careaga and María Eugenia Bianco, all pioneer Mothers of the Plaza. Villaflor’s ashes were buried at the foot of the May Pyramid in the Plaza on 8 December 2005.[citation needed]

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089460/

http://www.nytimes.com/movies/movie/227561/Las-Madres-The-Mothers-of-Plaza-de-Mayo/details

Mothers with the President of Argentina

The mothers with President Néstor Kirchner


Mothers of the Disappeared in America

A brief History of the Family Court Crisis and the Modern Day Suffragist Movement

1992 March to the US Capital – to bring attention to this egregious situation.  Children were being taken from safe mothers and given to dangerous fathers by family/divorce court Judges.  Several bills to help these endangered children, including HR 4526, died in Judiciary Committee

1994 Congressional Hearings scheduled on failure of family court and child protective services to protect children and retaliation against mandated reporters was postponed when Richard Nixon died.  I was never rescheduled.

The 1996 book titled The Hostage Child suggested the existence of a two tier system of justice. The overt system consists of well-intended, well-written laws, rules and policies to protect victims from abuse. The covert system ensures brutal men continue to own women and children by subverting the very laws, rules and policies designed to protect victims

Two Decades and One Million Children later

In May 2012, exactly 20 years later, a large crowd gathered a the Whitehouse and marched to bring attention to the fact that Batterers and Molesters were receiving custody in State Courts. The problem had gotten worse, despite well-intended, well written laws, rules and policies to protect child victims, were promptly subverted. With chilling regularity, children are taken from safe mothers and given to dangerous fathers. Mandated reporters who report suspected child abuse are viciously attacked.

Although Domestic Violence Shelters work well for women without children, mothers who flee domestic Violence are at high risk for losing their children. These DV services have little to offer the women in Domestic Violence Divorces, beyond filing restraining orders. Mothers are in a catch 22, if they leave they are likely to lose custody, with no money, no attorney, and a bias environment that prefers fathers to mothers, which no one tells these mothers, and mothers who stay will lose custody and be charged with endangerment.

2010 – Mothers continued to return to Washington Now wearing white tee shirts with Mothers of Lost Children in black inscribed on the front. This movement was patterned after the Madres of the Plaza de mayo in Argentina who began protesting in Buenos Ares in 1977. Mothers who’s adult children and grandchildren were taken by the government to be tortured and ‘disappeared’ by military police.

The contemporary Mothers of Lost Children in the US understand that their young children and grandchildren are also taken by the trafficked and legally kidnapped by the government and ‘disappeared’.

The specific branch of government that takes the children is not military. It is the family court division backed by local police force if mothers do not follow orders. The orders to turn their children over to the very batterers and molesters they fled. In dreadful irony, child protective service workers tell the mothers that if they do not leave, their children will be taken by CPS, a government branch backed by the police force.

The system has become a trap. Many children, including nursing infants, are ‘disappeared’ from their safe non-offending mothers by no contact orders because the mothers who reported their children as abused and said ‘bad things about dad’. Mothers are ordered no contact and gag orders to prevent them from speaking out about this abuse. The children are living in households that can best be described as torture camps where they are beaten and raped with impunity. When they are older and try to escape, their fathers may send them to camps such as the Judge Rotenberg Center to be tortured and electro-shocked until they stop saying they are being beaten and raped by their fathers.

Because the problem is getting worse, even though this horrifying Catch 22 has been described repeatedly to the President and elected representatives, one wonders if the authors of The Hostage Child are correct. Even if women can now escape domestic violence, a covert system ensures that brutal men will continue to own children and control women.


Mothers of Lost Children are Mothers who: Pray, Lobby and Protest, through nonviolent civil disobedience, court watch and meet with congressional leaders.  We use our voices to speak for the voiceless mothers and children who are separated and who’s human rights are being violated in America.  We are safe non- offending mothers who have lost custody in Domestic Violence Divorces after reporting abuse.

We areAmerica Mothers of the Disappeared. Like our sisters in Argentina, American children have been taken by agents of the government: CPS/Family/dependency courts, never to see one another again.      Mothers are struggling to protect themselves and their children and the right to parent after separation and divorce.  The landscape of the  America family has changed dramatically over the last 30 years.  In today’s courts, father’s know best.  It is reported that men who batter and molest receive full custody 85% of the time.  Mothers and children are being torn apart by a government that provides assistance to bullies and terrorists, as they profit from the collapse of the American Family.  Motherhood in America needs defending and  children need protection.

We’re Going to the Mom’s Museum please support us

 

We’re Going to the Mom’s Museum!!!- 

“We have been working on different kinds of campaigns to raise awareness. If you could share this with friends it could be so helpful in getting our story out and getting us into the museum, we will make history!
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Mothers of Lost Children was chosen to present at the http://mommuseum.org/cfp-mom-conference-2015/  and I couldn’t be more excited to have this opportunity to tell our stories.

I have been working with a dedicated group of mothers and advocates to bring attention to the family court crisis and justice issues mothers face when they leave dangerous homes and report abuse.  For many years I have fought for my parental rights and the rights of my child to have contact with her nurturing mother, to no avail.  Be it the failures of courts to understand DV by proxy or other cultural and political issues or perverse fatherhood funding. I have been stalked, beaten, my rights violated.  As a mandated reporter I was shocked by what happened after I reported abuse in good faith, I was fired, and went on trial.  I would eventually lose custody, go on supervised contact and ordered no contact with my little girl.  The court violated my constitutional rights and failed to listen to my daughter.  In the mean time my child is growing up Motherless, legally kidnapped. It is reported  that 58,000 children a year are becoming Motherless in America , trafficked through family courts.

We are concerned about  the adverse childhood experiences that are known to last a lifetime and cause tragic public health risks. http://mothersoflostchildren.org/cdcs-ace-studybraintraumaviolence-in-childhood/adverse-childhood-experiences-study-aces-too-high/

We intend to tell our story at the Mom’s museum Conference and bring our Art and pictures of:   What happens when Mama reported Abuse -Why Mother’s are Marching, and this Motherless Child  in America.

In our research we have discovered that this is one of the most pressing Social Justice issues of our time.  It’s a national crisis, and its time that other mothers wake up to these crimes committed against our nations children, created by dangerous gender bias policies funded by our tax dollars, before its too late.

Did you know that fatherhood.gov is a 50 Billion Dollar Program?  We need our Motherhood.gov.

Please help us cover some of the costs to travel, and display our Exhibit.  Please go to Mothers of Lost Children to see this sample-
http://mothersoflostchildren.org/2015/04/to-the-moon-and-back-domestic-violence-and-custody-art-exhibit/