Mandated Reporters Fear Retaliation

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M.C. Moewe received a BA in journalism from the University of North Texas and has written several award winning stories, such as one on people who are lost overboard on cruise ships and another on domestic violence, MC Moewe has included a series of stories about the crimes committed against children in family courts and the reforms necessary to improve outcomes.  http://www.dailykos.com/blog/MCMoewe

MC Moewe’s most recent report about Mandated reporters is spot on.  We hear from coast to coast mandated reporters, and schools that experience retaliation for reporting or are bullied into not reporting.  This fear of reprisal is accurate.  As we increase awareness of child sexual abuse and pass expanded mandated reporter laws to hold more and more adults  accountable with stricter guidelines and prosecution for not reporting.  There is a need for holding administrations and entities responsible also.  We must also pass legislation and uniform trauma informed child abuse and neglect training’s across the country to provide better protection for our nations children. Additionally, Whistleblower protection is mandatory to protecting children.  Imagine being a mandated reporter and your own child reports to you or a colleague, it seems unimaginable but what has regularly happened is the protective parent with this special training becomes the target and is not only subject to prosecution, termination of employment but loss of custody is the ultimate punishment for believing a child.  Such whistleblower protection will encourage more brave adults to report abuse while  protecting them from reprisal by the angry accused.

‘Mandated Reporters Fear Retaliation, and Their Fear is Legitimate’: Tom Ridge

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After two preschool children indicated their father was abusing them and one child tested positive for a sexually transmitted disease, a health care professional treating the youngsters followed her state’s mandatory reporting law — but now she’s the one in trouble.

“They act like I made it all up,” the professional, who agreed to be interviewed on the condition of anonymity, said of her state licensing board. “I have lost business and I’m having trouble getting back into a couple of insurance networks.”

She’s confident she made the right decision to report the suspected sexual abuse but is baffled why a state agency has joined the alleged abuser in questioning her motives. “Less than five percent of children who report sex abuse are telling lies,” said the professional.

Child psychologists and others who work to protect abused children say this is a common scenario — they report abuse and suffer retaliation when the alleged abuser files a complaint against them. They say the actions taken to punish them by government agencies speak louder than the mandatory child abuse reporting laws.

In Pennsylvania, where former Penn State football coach Jerry Sandusky escaped detection for years while molesting multiple children, several politicians have pointed to the state’s treatment of Dr. Jim Singer as part of the reason why. “As a concerned psychologist and mandated reporter, Mr. Singer spoke out,” Pennsylvania State Sen. John N. Wozniak wrote on March 5, 2013, to State Attorney General Kathleen Kane. “What happened to him after he did might certainly have had a chilling effect on the reporting of child abuse and allowed perpetrators like Jerry Sandusky to remain unchallenged.”

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/07/14/1313785/–Mandated-Reporters-Fear-Retaliation-and-Their-Fear-is-Legitimate-Tom-Ridge

Child Rape may not be a crime in Connecticut, USA

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Judging from the stats, child rape might not even be a crime in CT given that the state probably prosecutes more victims than predators. Were waiting for stats to confirm that…” A.S.

 

Much of the reform necessary in the Victims Rights Movement is the way these attorneys aggressively work to undermine the evidence and betray the victim, Wendy Murphy’s statements need repeating and put serious thought to what are these Policies that prevent the fair and reasonable exploration of the evidence?, how discrediting the children as weak or incompetent should be addressed.” its policy, not lack of evidence is often the reason cases against child predators often do not go forward, “Contrary to popular myths peddled by perpetrators, claims of crimes committed against children, especially sexual abuse crimes, are not difficult to prove because the law in every state says that the word of a child is sufficient evidence to convict even under the strictest legal standards.”…“Unlike adults, kids make excellent witnesses because they not skillful liars. We need to stop using the innate weaknesses of children as excuses to disbelieve them, and start using FAIR tools to assess their credibility – especially when they report crimes of violence.”  Without  oversight the guardian at litems minors counsels and the judges will continue making decisions based upon relationships with the defendants attorneys, or influence of the GAL/Minors council on the court to help access federal funds to the court and opportunities to increase billable hours .

 

If only we represented Victims of Abuse with the same veracity as the criminals!, and begin uniformly prosecuting child sexual abuse cases with the intention of protecting the society and truly representing the Peoples Interest.   Pedophile and other Violent criminals must be put away from society for life.  We must stop slapping them on the hand for these vile crimes against humanity which will be repeated. This era of professionals cashing in on crimes against children will end when we start to hold then in contempt, prosecute them, take their licences to practice, and charge the court entities with Rico, fraud, and other corruption crimes, including failure to protect. Including the Prosecution of corrupt Judges, Recalls and Impeachment.  Feeding on the innocent must end.

 

GAL appointed in Glastonbury child rape shares mutual interests with defense

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Anne Stevenson, Communities Digital News

 

 

HARTFORD, CONNECTICUT — Hartford Superior Court Judge Julia D. Dewey granted the request of an accused rapist to appoint a GAL to assess whether it is in the best interests of the now 8-year-old victim to testify against him.

Judge Dewey’s decision this week to appoint a GAL with conflicts of interest could silence the victim at the expense of the taxpayers and public safety.

State Rep. Ed Vargas played a key role in convincing his colleagues to unanimously pass reforms to the State’s unregulated GAL industry while sitting on the Judicial Committee’s family court reform task force.

Contacting  Vargas for his response to the appointment, he said:

“If what you are describing to me is accurate, it sure seems like Judge Dewey selected an inappropriate GAL who should not have accepted the appointment” said State Representative Ed Vargas (D-Hartford). “Even the appearance of a conflict of interest should be enough for a judge or GAL to recuse themselves from participating in a case, and the Glastonbury case seems to have certainly exceeded that description.”

Read more at http://www.commdiginews.com/life/gal-appointed-in-glastonbury-child-rape-shares-mutual-interests-with-defense-21723/

Power to Protect #SafeKids

Safe Kids International 

Safe Kids International through its Facebook presence is committed to raising awareness while working with many other organizations including the mothers who march and do courtwatch from Mothers of Lost Children.  They believe in taking ACTION to save as many children as possible from Court Licensed Abuse/Court Ordered Abuse. This Court Ordered Abuse occurs when judges dismiss and conceal critical evidence of abuse and give custody of children to abusers. Often the children are taken away from their protective parent (usually the mother) which results in the silencing and continued abuse of the children.  Safe Kids brings attention to the Judges who are routinely giving custody to known perpetrators. Safe Kids community of supporters come from many different advocacy groups who choose to work together to address this dangerous trend.   It is through the efforts of these courageous victims of Legal abuse,  online advocacy and media opportunities that the word is getting out.

Safe Kids International has launched a writing challenge to the community of activists working in the area of Civil and Human Rights in our courts on behalf of Mothers and their children.  This most recent article is an excellent review of the dynamics of power and control in the family courts and in this Judeo/Christian patriarchal society. Many of us have been sharing the same ideas and are beginning to pinpoint the real issues.  In this third wave feminism world wide advocates for women and children have recognized the hiccup in the movements that set up the ‘rig’, as our friend Aleah Holland, author of ‘A Little Lynched’, would call it. This trap set in place to falter the progress is disguised within the movement itself. To acknowledge and address the underlying issues of violence and control will take everyone working together to dismantle what we have grown accustomed to.

The power elite are fine architects of a dissension containment, infiltrating organizations and creating false starts and turtle like movement. The coercive control in the courts, family and society keep women fighting each other creating a gender war (as it does the race war) that satisfies the puppet masters for as we are all looking the other way or fighting each other more and more children are handed over to batterers and molesters.  Average citizen’s act as silent observers and ignore these behaviors which  reward the bullies, the pedophile apologists and the fathers rights supporters.  Such ignorance only serves to protect the criminals and makes one complicit in this evil act.  

Predators need their prey. These Predators-Criminals-terrorists who have a one track mind, to get theirs and protect it. Long gone is the nosy neighbor who peeked through the curtains to watch the kids in the street.  This entrenched Silencing, ‘Mind your own business’, it ‘family’, has creates a dangerous environment with little checks and balances.  We are lulled into believing that women have equal rights and our government is concerned with the welfare of our children.  Unfortunately, we are living in a society that regards men as powerful and women as weak. Children have become commodities, not just to the drug cartels now moving children, but to old white men in politics, making people wealthy while destroying the fabric of our society.  Unaware taxpayers are supporting this war on women and children with our federal programs that are funding dangerous fathers.  Creating the illusion of the missing father as imperative to the outcome of the family.  Making men the answer  to the issue of poverty in the family.  In a patriarchal society it is,  in a society that still pays men more money, to rescue families, instead of empowering women to care for their children. It has become an institutional belief that father know best and women lie about abuse, which further victimizes the mothers experiencing the various forms of abuse they left the marriage in the first place for.  With the take over of protective agencies and courts there is no refuge for victims of abuse who have been targeted and maligned.  Its not just the money but we must follow the money and use it to shift the power structure while upending it.  The stakes are high and getting it and doing something about this imbalance in power is imperative to saving the children and the generations to come.

What needs to be said is that Power elite rigged the system to trap children who are sexually abused.  They now have power over the men who rape and access to the children, some believe for the purpose of child sexual images, and the creation of good soldiers/citizens and a very lucrative worldwide business which the US is the front runner.   Further by uniformly rigging cases to place the protective parent on supervised visitation and no contact so there would be no further disclosure by the children. Getting custody of a witness to a crime should be considered witness tampering, and that’s the goal to stop the child from reporting.  The fact that “the system” forces mothers to file civil court orders to protect children instead of the criminal court system addressing the criminal acts of sexual assault against all humans including children and their right to be protected under the law says a lot about our priorities and how the system is institutionally failing to protect, and failing on purpose. Frankly, how can we incentivize or reeducate Law Enforcement, and Courts to protect society from continued abuse  if they are determined to continue the failing.

As a society we must address the issue: is it wrong to rape? If we declare that rape is wrong and rape is rape: rape an act of War, that America has been in a state of war/terror using these crimes to intimidate and control, to break down humanity, than we as a Civil society will no longer tolerate such actions. No, really we have to stop looking the other way or we will lose the war for humanity.  1 in 3 Adults have disclosed abuse in childhood.  This is a National Health risk and should be considered a National security problem as well.  Currently we are looking at the reasons for federally funded studies by researchers like David Finkelhour who is claiming a decrease in child sexual abuse.  If we skew the statistics then the light will be off the problem and back to business as usual. Right?

We must look at all the power structures that entrap and enslave and profit from the demoralizing of human beings. That raping children related to you, known as incest, will no longer be protected in a polite society or will we continue to make speaking about it intolerable? When will ‘Whistleblowing’  no longer be considered treason against the machine, punishable with jail, or isolation, but rather the necessary check and balance of a free society and true patriotism offering real care taking for the welfare of the society.  Isn’t that what the Good Parent does?  Give direction, model love and moral behavior and bring into correction- protect.

If we want power we must be brave and bold and take that which is ours and create strong ally’s. Women as leaders cannot duplicate the male model of power, it doesn’t work or suit us. Our lack of representation has continued to allude us of the very thing we have been fighting for in the suffrage movement to have equal voice, to direct our own lives, to protect ourselves and our children. All of us need to stand up, demand justice and vote like a mother!

Vote like a mother-Mothers of Lost Children

Vote like a mother-Mothers of Lost Children

Implementing the demand of justice

Safe Kids writes-

“Court licensed abuse” is fundamentally about power. The epidemic of Family Court judges granting custody to, i.e. licensing, violent or sexually abusive fathers, while severely punishing “protective mothers” with loss of custody, visitation, jail, sanctions, etc., is principally about power—the power that the Power Elite confers upon fathers through judges. Any activism not focused on correcting this disparity of power cannot ultimately result in any significant numbers of children protected, as it is overwhelmingly mothers who are powerless to protect children.

Although there are certainly other problems in family courts, none come close to causing the amount of damage as this systemic male entitlement. Financial corruption most definitely fuels court licensed abuse, but is secondary and has, for the most part, sprung from the many strategies employed to maintain paternal power, such as government funding and court-appointee profiteering. If efforts for change are focused on symptoms such as these, rather than the core cause, the plague of children being court-ordered to live with their abusers will continue virtually unabated.

Some readers and activists may object to this analysis as not being “gender neutral”, but, as politically incorrect as it may be, there is no epidemic of judges taking kids away from loving, protective fathers, giving them to violent or sexually abusive mothers, while severely punishing fathers with loss of custody, visitation, jail, sanctions, etc. California Protective Parents Association has documented over 5,000 cases of court licensed abuse, with only a handful involving “protective fathers”. There is an active international community of protective moms on Facebook, whereas there is no such male counterpart. When fathers do lose custody to violent mothers, it is relatively rare and happens for different reasons, certainly not systemic female entitlement. Although it is just as horrible for protective fathers and their children when it does happen, it is important to concentrate our efforts on ending the actual epidemic, as that will protect the most children. Some of the solutions that will be proposed will actually help protective fathers as well.

In order to understand why the Power Elite would have an agenda to empower fathers to abuse their children, it is important to take a historical perspective.

Mothers of Lost Children fight Court Ordered Abuse

Mothers of Lost Children fight Court Ordered Abuse

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/07/13/1313194/-The-Power-to-Protect

http://www.safekidsinternational.org/

Dear Innocence Project Elsa Newman has served 12 years

Elsa Newman an Innocent Mother

Mothers of Lost children-Elsa Newman an Innocent Mother

Dear Innocence Project,

Thank you so much for the work you do on behalf of innocent people falsely accused and imprisoned in the United States.  It has come to our attention that you have changed some of your protocols regarding your representation.  We have sent many requests and heard that the candidate must be on death row.  A mother falsely accused and separated from the children she was trying to protect from further abuse may as well be on death row.  This crime that Elsa committed is not unlike the mothers across america who leave Dangerous Marriages and discover their children are being sexually assaulted.  I’m sure the Innocence Project has seen this before: a whistle blower falsely accused to prevent them from continuing the campaign to prevent an injustice. The following was written by Elsa Newman explaining what happened in her case.  Additional information  can be found on her website which is maintained by a committee to Free Elsa Newman http://www.thepetitionsite.com/5/Free-Elsa-Newman/ Please review the expert testimony on Justice for Elsa website and help defend an innocent mother.

The Mission of Mothers of Lost Children is to bring public awareness to the fact that children who report abuse, particularly incest, are regularly given into the custody or unsupervised visitation of their identified perpetrators. Mothers who strive to protect their children are commonly removed partially or completely from their children’s lives.  58,000 Child victims a year are taken from safe mothers and placed with known perpetrators.http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/med/PR3.html

 

Please consider Elsa a candidate for the Innocence Project, she is innocent of the crime that she was incarcerated for.  All the evidence in the matter support an acquittal or pardon. Elsa sent her petition to represent her matter in court.  Thank you again for your fine work on behalf of the innocent.  Mothers of Lost Children

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From Elsa Newman,

Elsa Newman 
921975
P.O. Box 535 
Jessup, MD 20794

I went through a divorce where my former husband severely abused our children when they visited him. I earned the enmity of the family court judges and lawyers, including the one who represented me, because I sought ardently to keep my children safe from abuse. No one wanted to do anything about the child abuse, and my ex used the unlawful tactic of suing for custody despite the Matrimonial Code of Ethics. Every expert said the child abuse was real.

Although I never spoke of my feelings about my ex and his abuse of the children, one time, after the children had complained more than ever, talking of pornography, I unburdened my heart a bit to tell my lawyer’s secretary what I felt, that I wished he were dead. One would say this is an eminently normal comment in these circumstances, but any protective parent who has been through the family court gauntlet knows ill will abounds toward the protective parent and is easily ignited.

The abusers, the spouses who are perpetrators of domestic violence, are rarely seen for who they are. Instead, the protective parent, usually the mom—is under siege, vilified for her support of the children’s complaints and criminalized. I was constantly castigated by my ex’s lawyer, by the appointed lawyer for my children and by the judge himself. The judge called me a disgrace to the legal profession despite my impeccable 20 odd year career as an attorney for the government. I had clerked for a judge, was an arbitrator and a mediator for federal district court, an Assistant Attorney General, a prosecutor, and a litigator for the FLRA Solicitor’s Office. Naturally, my divorce lawyer exploited my innocent remark to his secretary. He outright lied about it—far beyond exaggeration—in court after I asked the judge to remove him because he obscenely overbilled and did nothing constructive. Stephen Friedman, Esq. , knew he could get away with a retaliation made of lies. It fit with all the other wholly false accusations I constantly faced in the divorce case. Maybe Friedman was just burned out from representing a pariah, but I think he knew all along he had the losing side and was angry that his client—me—had the nerve to expect him to win.

A year or more later, still in the throes of the divorce, my ex’s lawyer and the lawyer for my children eagerly brought the lies of my former divorce lawyer to the police and the state’s attorney when Margery Landry broke into my ex’s home and found him with my child, both unclothed. The ex was shot in the leg and Landry was beaten up and bitten. I was at  my niece’s wedding when this happened, waiting and hoping their father brought my children there, too. Landry wrote and testified I was not involved.

The prosecutor, Doug Gansler (recent candidate for governor), made sure the media exclusively reported Friedman’s lies. I was convicted in the media pretrial. Stephen Friedman’s lies were needed since no evidence whatsoever, and this statement was made by the highest court of Maryland, connected me to the crime. Only Stephen Friedman’s lying words gave the necessary support to a conspiracy conviction. Although Friedman’s words were thrown out on appeal, they live on the media. The prosecutor repeated them even after the high court ruling threw them out of the case. I was again convicted in the media prior to the second trial.

With no evidence against me in the second trial (Isn’t this really double jeopardy when the first trial was eviscerated for using inappropriate evidence?), the state exploited a ruling by the trial judge. The trial judge refused to admit the evidence of child abuse. Every expert involved stated I was in no way influencing my children’s complaints. Yet, the prosecutor repeatedly told the jury I made up the abuse complaints; I reported all of them; and  the abuse was only in my head because I was the stereotypic vindictive spouse. The truth, according to social service records: I made none of the reports. Reports of my children’s abuse were made by doctors at D.C. Children’s Hospital after examining the children, police, social workers, teachers and other parents. The jury totally misunderstood the case and convicted after deliberating for days and asking questions.

I ask you, with all due respect, to tell my story and guide your readers to the website my supporters started for me. There is a petition for readers to sign, and I ask that they please sign. I have now spent more than 20% of my life behind bars for a crime I did not commit, for a crime I was pigeonholed into because I aroused the fury of the powerful family court members when I asked them to protect my children from their father’s abuse, and I complained publicly when they, instead, punished my children and me.

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Additional information about Elsa-

http://jewishtimes.com/judaism-behind-bars/#UmpythBwrto

http://friendsofelsanewman.blogspot.com/

 

Prosecutors drop the ball after DCF rescues boys from Glastonbury House of Horrors

George Harz - Douglas Wirth - Glastonbury Police Department

“Prosecutors drop the ball after DCF rescues boys from Glastonbury House of Horrors”By , Communities Digital News

GLASTONBURY, CT, July 11, 2014 -  The successful efforts of Connecticut’s top child welfare agency to rescue nine children from ongoing sexual abuse has run afoul of the State prosecutors. A policy of refusing to meaningfully track or prosecute Connecticut’s most dangerous child sex predators leaves them without protection.

The case centers on George Harasz and Douglas Wirth, a married couple who adopted nine boys. George Harasz, 48, was charged with sexual assault in the first degree, two counts of injury to a minor, aggravated sexual assault, sexual assault in the third degree and cruelty to persons. Douglas Wirth, 43, was charged with sexual assault in the third degree and injury to a minor.

Meanwhile, the public’s safety may be at risk while the industry professionals involved continue to turn a buck off the victim’s misfortune as the case drags on at the taxpayer’s expense.

Soon after Joette Katz took the helm as Commissioner of Connecticut’s troubled Department of Children (DCF) in the winter of 2010, she became concerned for the welfare of nine Glastonbury boys after the agency received credible reports that they were being abused and/or raped by their adoptive fathers.

By February of 2011, the police had opened an investigation and DCF removed the children from their alleged attacker’s care.

“We didn’t wait for the arrests,” said Katz, stressing the agency’s focus on child welfare and public safety.

By the fall of 2011, Douglas Wirth and his romantic partner George Harasz faced dozens of criminal charges for physically, sexually, and emotionally assaulting the alleged victims, who were determined to have their day in court to tell the justice system about the house of horrors they grew up in.


http://www.commdiginews.com/life/glastonbury-child-rape-harasz-wirth-plea-21436/#o8XE0rwCdyZEWw6O.99

Custody for Cash

Custody for CashWilkes-Barre Scranton Independent Gazette

 

Custody for Cash

 

 

 

 

Fighting for Justice in Lackawanna Family Court: Law License of GAL Temporarily Suspended | Parenting Abused Children: Hope, Healing & Insight says:

This is the second in a series of reports by theIndependent Gazette chronicling the judicial systems and child custody practices of Lackawanna, Luzerne, and surrounding counties in Pennsylvania. The Gazette, through exclusive interviews, begins to paint a picture of a legal — not justice — system run amok, fueled by greed, kept intact through intimidation, and veiled in secrecy. A complex web has evolved in which the abuse of power is rampant, and lawyers routinely close their eyes to misconduct to avoid being blackballed. The fear of being severed from the “money feeding tube,” as one court insider observed, is a very real dynamic.

Jurisprudence victims, court officers, police, lawyers, and civil employees will often come forward only under the protective cloak of anonymity, out of concern of retribution directed at themselves and their families from the powerful and well connected. Reports of bizarre behavior unbecoming of judges are kept under wraps, lest swift and damaging retaliation befall the whistleblower. Theirs is a legal system run afoul, where justice is often based not on facts, but on “who you know,” and delivered only to a select few, it would seem.

http://wilkesbarrescrantonig.com/2014/03/01/testimonials-flood-in-on-custody4cash-scandal/Wilkes-Barre Scranton Independent Gazette

A Dangerous societal trend “Father know’s Best”

Joan Meir

Joan Meier is a Professor of Clinical Law at George Washington University Law School, and the Founder and Executive Director of the Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment and Appeals Project (DV LEAP). Joan Meier has been a clinical law professor for 22 years at the George Washington University Law School, where she founded three pioneering and nationally recognized interdisciplinary domestic violence clinical programs. She has published widely on domestic violence, particularly relating to custody and abuse.


Joan founded DV LEAP in 2003 to provide pro bono appeals in domestic violence cases, particularly those involving custody. DV LEAP has filed nine “friend of the court” briefs in the U.S. Supreme Court, on the constitutional rights of accused batterers, mandatory arrest statutes, and the Hague Convention on International Civil Abduction, among others. DV LEAP has also represented friends of the court and survivors of domestic violence in state court appeals all over the country and in the District of Columbia on a wide array of issues including criminal prosecution of batterers, enforcement of civil protection orders, custody, and other issues. DV LEAP and Professor Meier have also provided numerous trainings for judges, psychologists, lawyers, domestic violence coalitions, and others on best practices in adjudication of domestic violence and protective parent litigation. 

DV LEAP and Joan have received several awards, including among others, the American Bar Association’s first ever “Sharon Corbitt Award for exceptional service and leadership in improving the legal response to domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault and/or stalking;” and the “Outstanding Leadership” Award from Justice for Children in 2007. Joan received the Cahn Award from the National Equal Justice Library for her article on domestic violence and welfare reform. She was featured as a commentator in Breaking the Silence: Children’s Voices, the PBS documentary that aired in October 2005. She publishes widely on custody, domestic violence, teaching, child abuse, and related issues.

She graduated magna cum laude from Harvard University in 1980, cum laude from the University of Chicago Law School in 1983, and clerked on the Seventh Circuit Court of Appeals.

Joan Meir’s Recently published a much needed commentary :

The Huffington Post

Lies, Damned Lies, and Statistics

Father knows best

Wilcox and Wilson’s infamous op-ed “One way to end violence against women? Married dads”, in The Washington Post‘s new online “Post Everything” section, may be a poster child for why a (heretofore) serious newspaper should not feature un-edited, un-reviewed opinion pieces. Like a background paper for the 1950s TV showFather Knows Best, the piece touts heterosexual marriage and biological fathers as the safest places for women and children. Since it was apparently posted without meaningful editorial review, it apparently falls to me to show why this piece epitomizes Twain’s famous warning about the perils of blind reliance on statistics.
While numerous critics have attacked the piece’s bizarre claim that women are safer from violence if they marry (just some are linked herehere, and here), W&W make another, even more problematic claim — that children are safest with their biological fathers. This, they say, is the conclusion mandated from objective research data. Hmm.

First they assert that the National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect shows that girls and boys are significantly more likely to be abused when they are living in a cohabiting household with an unrelated adult — usually their mother’s boyfriend. Let’s see what that study actually says:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joan-meier/lies-damned-lies-and-stat_2_b_5518776.html

DV Leap

http://www.dvleap.org/

DV LEAP believes that real and lasting change in legal and social responses to domestic violence requires great patience and persistence. DV LEAP provides victims with the continued support needed – often for years – to take a case through the appellate process, in order to advance justice and achieve both system and perpetrator accountability.  

 DV LEAP is excited to announce that we have brought on a new Executive Director to expand the capacity of the organization, while our Founding Director, Joan Meier, assume the role of Legal Director.

 

Prosecuted but not Silenced Mothers of Lost Children

Maralee Mclean

Author, Speaker, Domestic Violence, Child Abuse Advocacy
Denver, Colorado

Media Experience

CNN International News, 7 news Colorado, Rocky Mountain News/ Denver Post, Womens Day , Television, Print, Radio, Online

 

Maralee Mclean is a child advocate, speaker, expert witness, and author of PROSECUTED BUT NOT SILENCED. Maralee’s passion developed over a two decades of living a mother’s worse nightmare. Fighting the system both body and soul, she gained the insight that this was not her nightmare alone.  She has been involved in legislative work and testified before Congress, she speaks at law schools and conferences in several states, and is with RAINN speaker bureau.

Her degree is B.S. in science but has spent 25 years in social issues concerning child abuse. She is expert witness in courts on “PAS” Parental Alienation Theory” and domestic violence. She has been covered by local media coverage and internationally on CNN. Several radio shows and recently two articles published. ABA Child Law Journal, Vol. 32 no. 6 June issue 2013, and Women’s E-News Jan 9, 2014 “Courts Need to Open Eyes and Ears to Child Abuse” by Maralee Mclean  Currently working on a documentary.

Courts Must Open Eyes and Ears to Abused Children

Thursday, January 9, 2014

My story is a case study of what is happening in many courtrooms where good mothers are having their children taken from their arms and handed over to their abusers. We must change our system so protective mothers and abused children are treated fairly.

(WOMENSENEWS)– My long involvement in our often archaic and biased judicial system is a journey that should never have been necessary in the face of abuse that should never have occurred.

Not much has changed since my battles began, and the myth that mothers make more false allegations of abuse than fathers during divorce and custody battles still holds sway in too many courtrooms. This remains true even though the American Bar Association reports fathers are far more likely than mothers to make intentionally false accusations (21 percent compared to1.3 percent). Change, dramatic change, is needed now, to end these tragic outcomes.

Legal Remedies

  1. Move cases like this one to criminal court since sexual abuse and assault are crimes. If one adult does this to another, we call this a crime; why not when a parent rapes and molests a child? Do not let this be addressed in family and child custody courts.
  2. Ensure “safety first” for children who report abuse, including safety from those about whom there are reports of sexual and other physical abuse.
  3. Bring in multidisciplinary teams and forensic interviewers to videotape the children’s testimony and/or descriptions of the abuse they are experiencing.
  4. Recognize parents who are acting in good faith.
  5. Completely discontinue parental alienation syndrome and similar arguments.
  6. Require the courts to consider past and/or present domestic violence, the abuse of the protective parent herself.
  7. Build effective oversight and accountability for judges and training in this arena.
  8. Require continuing education taught by experts in child sexual abuse and domestic violence for all court professionals and judicial officers. Include exams to certify passing these courses.
  9. Develop a system to more easily remove incompetent, poorly trained professionals, including judges and custody evaluators.
  10. Require disclosure of conflicts of interest on the part of all involved in these legal processes at all levels. Require      judges to receive training about psychopaths and how they can manipulate the legal processes and family courts.

http://womensenews.org/story/in-the-courts/140108/courts-must-open-eyes-and-ears-abused-children#.U8DCG_ldWBQ

Maralee Mcleans book

A powerful documentary about a mother and daughter’s tragic involvement with the judicial system when there were allegations of child sexual abuse. This riveting book is a must read for all those working in the fields of domestic violence, child abuse, or child trauma so they can realize what does occur even today. It is important to ensure that all judges, attorneys, mental health professionals, medical personnel, child custody evaluators, and social workers are trained in the dynamics of such maltreatment so that there are no more situations like what happened to Maralee and her daughter.’

Robert Geffner, Ph.D., ABPP, ABN
Founding President, Family Violence & Sexual Assault Institute
Co-Chair, National Partnership to End Interpersonal Violence Across the Lifespan
Former President, Trauma Psychology Division, American Psychological Association

‘Most sexually abused children are victimized in their own homes. The family court is the gatekeeper of their safety. May Ms. McLean’s painful story energize its readers and spark a tsunami of accountability and scrutiny for those judges, custody evaluators, guardians ad litem, and lawyers whose misguided, and often misogynistic, nonsense jeopardizes generations of children and compounds their misery.’

Richard Ducote, Esq.
Pennsylvania and Louisiana Bars
Ducotelaw.com

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“Prosecuted But Not Silenced” Author Maralee Mclean on Revolution Radio’s Cancel The Cabal Show

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TQOYZxP5zqM#t=24

Scan NAASCA.org

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Ugly Shoes Mothers of Lost Children Wear

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Ugly Shoes Mothers of Lost Children Wear

Ugly Shoes – Dedicated to Mothers of Lost Children & Trauma Survivors

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.

Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.

Yet, I continue to wear them.

I get funny looks wearing these shoes. They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.

To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.

But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.

Some women are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don’t hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think
about how much they hurt.

No woman deserves to wear these shoes.

Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.

I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child. – Unknown

Posted by Coral Anika Theill

Mothers of Lost Children

Mothers of Lost Children

Author, Advocate, Speaker & Reporter

Memoir: BONSHEA Making Light of the Dark

Website: www.coralanikatheill.com

“The price for my own safety and freedom in 1996 was an imposed, unnatural and unwanted separation from my eight children. The injustice committed against me is not just the physical separation from my children, but the willful desecration of the mother-child relationship and bond, a sacred spiritual and emotional entity.

“On March 10, 1996, I was forced, by an Order of the Court, and by my ex-husband, his attorney, his family and religious supporters, to do something that raged against my good conscience, my common sense and against all my motherly instincts. After a temporary custody hearing, a Court Order signed by Judge Albin Norblad forcibly removed my nursing baby and two youngest children from me. I obeyed the Court Order and gave my children over to my ex-husband. I drove to the hospital, rented a breast-pump and later collapsed and went into shock. I could not understand what had happened and why. I have not yet recovered from the shock; perhaps I never will….

“Forcibly taking a mother’s children, and then controlling her emotionally by withholding contact must be publicly recognized as one of the greatest forms of ‘mis-use’ of the American justice system and one of the greatest hidden vehicles for wide-spread socially approved physical and emotional abuse and control.

“In her book, Necessary Losses, Judith Viorst speaks of a young child’s experience of prolonged maternal separation. Separation from the mother gives rise to profound feelings of despair and finally, detachment, as the child becomes apathetic and shuts down loving feelings. If in early childhood, especially during the first six years, we are too deprived of the mother we need and long for, we may sustain an injury equivalent to being doused in oil and set on fire. The pain of such deprivation is unimaginable. The healing is hard and slow. The damage, although not fatal, may be permanent.” – Coral Anika Theill, BONSHEA Making Light of the Dark

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Don’t Call CPS if you’re a Protective Mom

Women's Justice Center, Centro de Justicia Para Mujeres

“The best way to protect the non-offending parent and the child victim from the inherent risks and abuses of the CPS system is to stay as far away from CPS as possible,”  Maria De Santis.  

We would add that recording all interactions with both law enforcement and cps is vital to protecting your rights.

The following tip guide to how to report Child Abuse and warnings is the best we have seen.  Maria De Santis at Women’s Justice Center Gets it! Sadly everything she advises is true and it is an important warning to mothers that no other Domestic Violence agency including our  National Ally’s offer.  This may be the difference between the private funding and supported programs who’s agenda is to protect women and children vs federally funded programs.

Please read thoroughly the advise is very important and the insight into why cps gets it wrong is in the protocol itself.  CPS is not law enforcement and they do not investigate family law matters nor does CPS have the power to prosecute perpetrators. The only significant power CPS has is the power to remove children from one or both parents.  The non offending parent risks being considered a co perpetrator and now instead of protecting your child you are now defending your rights and navigating the system that has stolen your child.  

Additionally, the most significant problem for the child of a divorcing family is that CPS has a protocol for closing cases marking them unfounded or unsubstantiated while referring mother to family court.   This is where is goes upside down.  Expecting the protective mother to fight privately in a civil court proceeding instead of the District Attorney fighting to protect the child.  CPS will recommend getting a TRO and changing custody orders to protect the child.  Once mother brings issues of sexual abuse up in family court the Judge will review the CPS file and consider the mother a liar or coaching the child to interfere with custody order.  Its Rigged!

Part 2: Tips for Avoiding the Abuses of Child Protective Services for non-offending parents, advocates, and mandated reporters

 

A. Tips on How and Where to Report Child Abuse

NOTE: If you are a mandated reporter outside California, please check your state’s mandated reporting law to determine if your law, like California and many other states, allows mandated reporters the option of reporting to law enforcement rather than to CPS. 

* Whether you are a mandated reporter, an advocate, or a non-offending parent who suspects child abuse, DO NOT report to child protective services unless other options have failed. (see above note.) Make your child abuse report to police or other law enforcement agency, at least initially.

The best way to protect the non-offending parent and the child victim from the inherent risks and abuses of the CPS system is to stay as far away from CPS as possible. If you are a mandated reporter, or any individual wishing to make a child abuse report, we highly recommend that you choose to make your report to law enforcement (i.e. to police or sheriff), and not to CPS.

Remember, most state laws give mandated reporters a choice of where they can make their mandated reports. Contrary to widespread mistaken belief, mandated reporters in these states do not have to make their reports to CPS. (To see the text of California state law and earlier discussion of this point go to:
In California and Many Other States,
Mandated Reporters Do NOT Have to Report to Child Protective Services
.)

Here’s an abbreviated review of why we strongly recommend that you make child abuse reports to law enforcement rather than to CPS. (For more discussion of these points go back to Part 1here.)

  • In broad summary, the criminal justice system responds to family violence, including child abuse, as crime. The criminal justice system aims to hold the offender accountable for the acts of child abuse, and to do so using a rigorous standard of evidence. At the same time, the criminal justice system does not and cannot assert any authority or control over the non-offending parent’s life because under the criminal system the non-offending parent has not committed any crime. The criminal system strives to remove the abuser from the home, and not the child victim. Thus, by reporting to the criminal justice system, the primary response will be an effort to hold the perpetrator accountable. There will be virtually no risk that the non-offending parent will be investigated. And there will be a lower risk that the child will be removed from the non-offending parent, thus avoiding an event that is extremely traumatic and unjust for both the child victim and the non-offending parent.
  • In contrast, the CPS/juvenile court system is not designed to treat child abuse, or any family violence, as crime. The CPS system does not seek to hold the child abuse offender accountable, and has virtually no power to do so. CPS does not have the power to open, nor to carry out, a criminal investigation, does not have the power of arrest, nor does CPS have the power to prosecute perpetrators. The only significant power CPS has is the power to remove children from one or both parents.Furthermore, the CPS system, unlike the criminal system, will frequently target the non-offending parent; i.e., will likely investigate the non-offending parent for non-criminal behavior such as ‘failure to protect’, ‘knowing or should have known’, ‘instability’, ‘parental alienation’, ‘failure to cooperate’, and other such vague, arbitrary, and non-criminal accusations. CPS will likely mandate the non-offending parent into a host of programs, and will do so using the threat of taking the child from the non-offending parent, or of not returning the child, which determination the CPS system makes on the lowest judicial standard of evidence with minimal due process protections for the parent. In general, the CPS system is geared to treat the non-offending parent more as a co-perpetrator than as an additional primary or secondary victim of the abuser. So, by reporting to CPS, there is no possibility CPS will hold the perpetrator accountable, and a serious risk that the child victim will be removed from the home and/or from the non-offending parent, and that the non-offending parent will be unjustly put under CPS investigation, controls, and threat of losing their child.
  • The victim assistance programs in the criminal justice system provide social and counseling services to the child and/or the non-offending parent only when the non-offending parent wishes to receive these services. The criminal system victim assistance programs never force the child or non-offending parent to participate in any program, and never threatens to take a child if the non-offending parent chooses not to participate in social or psychological services offered.
  • In stark contrast, CPS frequently mandates that the non-offending parent participate in a whole set of social service programs and tasks under an accompanying threat to take the child, or to not return the child. In this regard, again, CPS is treating the non-offending parent more as a CO-perpetrator of the abuse, than as an additional primary or secondary victim of the abuse.
  • The criminal justice system never mandates or pressures that the non-offending parent or child meet, mediate, or reunite with the perpetrator. Nor does the criminal justice system order the non-offending parent to stay-away from the perpetrator. The criminal justice system has no power or jurisdiction over the non-offending parent because under criminal law the non-offending parent and the child victim are not suspected of committing any crime.CPS regularly mandates non-offending parents and/or the child to meet, mediate, co-counsel, reunify with, or stay away from, the perpetrator, and to do so under threat of CPS taking the child, or of not returning the child, to the non-offending parent.
  • The police-criminal justice process does not take action unless it has developed sufficient evidence to substantiate facts of abuse. Nor does the criminal system investigate family matters beyond what is relevant to the immediate question of who perpetrated the abuse and how. The criminal system cannot take punitive action against an individual until the individual has been afforded the most rigorous standard of due process. The CPS/juvenile court system develops evidence of the abuse at the most minimal standard of evidence. At the same time, the CPS system extends the reach of its investigation over the whole family as far and wide and as deep as CPS wishes. The CPS system can move to remove a child from the non-offending parent at the lowest judicial standard of evidence on vaguely defined non-criminal accusations with only the weakest system of due process in place to protect this parent from CPS abuses.

NOTE 1: If you make your child abuse report to police, it may be that at one point or other the police themselves may call in CPS to participate in handling the case to one degree or another. However, even if CPS does begin to take a role in the case, the non-offending parent and the child will still generally be much better off than if you had only made your report to CPS. This is because the criminal system will generally continue to take the lead in the case. In addition, even in the eventuality that the criminal system cannot produce enough evidence to obtain a criminal conviction, the police investigation, by itself, will often produce much evidence that’s useful and protective to the non-offending parent in dealing with CPS.

NOTE 2: Yes, the criminal system can be just as abusive as the CPS system. But, in general, the criminal justice system is very unlikely to target the non-offending parent. In addition, any criminal justice abuses against the non-offending parent would be an individual officer failing to follow established policy. As such, this abuse would be easier to correct. The abuses of the CPS system against the non-offending parent, on the other hand, are built into the CPS system. When CPS unjustly targets the mother as subject of investigation, accusations, and threats to take the child, these abuses are difficult to correct with advocacy, because they fall within the scope of standard CPS policy and practice.

NOTE 3: According to a large array of studies, child abuse and domestic violence coexist in the same family in from 30 to 50% of cases, and in the vast majority of these cases it’s the same parent that is the perpetrator of both the child abuse and the partner abuse. Because this is such a common dynamic, an effective strategy is to report both the child abuse and the partner abuse to police. This greatly increases the likelihood that police will be able to get a conviction on at least one of the counts.

And remember, also, that most perpetrators of family violence are committing an array of related of crimes such as threats to kill, vandalism, false imprisonment, sexual violence, etc. If there’s not enough evidence on one crime, there’s likely plenty on the next. So don’t just report the child abuse. Report any and all the domestic violence related crimes you suspect have been committed.

NOTE 4: State laws require that mandated reporters make their child abuse reports to authorities in writing. But even if you’re not a mandated reporter, it’s still a good idea to make your initial report in writing as well as to report verbally. Don’t forget to keep a copy for yourself.

NOTE 5: In the civil rights case of Nicholson v. Scoppetta a number of experts testified that the trauma to children of being removed from the non-offending parent by a child welfare agency can be as severe or more severe than the trauma of witnessing domestic violence. The trauma to the child of being removed from the non-offending parent, according to these experts, is, in fact, exacerbated when there has been abuse in the home. (Nicholson v. Scoppetta was a class action civil rights lawsuit brought by mothers, domestic violence victims, who had their children removed by New York child welfare agencies for the sole reason that the mothers had ‘failed to protect’ the children from ‘exposure’ to domestic violence. The case resulted in a settlement in favor of the mothers and an injunction against New York child welfare agencies forbidding the agencies to remove children from non-offending parents solely because they were victims of domestic violence.)

Watchdog the Police Response.

If you make your initial child abuse report to law enforcement, it may be that the police officer will willingly take your report, work hard to investigate the case, and then pass it on to a prosecutor who will also work hard to see that justice is done and that the child victim and other non-offending family members are safe. Things are getting better, however slowly that may be.

But be aware. A significant number of police and prosecutors themselves still hold to the mind set that family violence should not be treated as a crime. Some of these officers will say and do whatever they can to get rid of you and the case, despite the fact that US state laws require that police treat family violence as crime. These officers may refuse to take the report, tell you to go elsewhere to make the report, shelve the report, fail to fully investigate, discourage the victims, lie to you and the victim, or use any one of hundreds of other ways they have of getting rid of cases they don’t want to work.

There are a number of resources available on our website to help you evaluate whether or not you’re getting a proper criminal justice system response, and to help you press for corrections if needs be. See Advocating for Women in the Criminal Justice System

Here we give just a couple tips on what to watch for at the starting point as you attempt to make your initial report to police.

    • If for any reason the officer tells you you have to make your report elsewhere, the officer is wrong. An officer might tell you that you have to make this kind of report to CPS. Or, they may tell you that you’re making the report to the wrong jurisdiction and that you have to go to another department. They may tell you that what you describe is not a criminal matter. They may tell you that since the child is too young to testify, police can’t do anything on the case, etc., etc., etc..None of these statements justify police refusal to take a child abuse report, and they’re usually incorrect to begin with. Under most state laws, as in California, police are obligated to take your report.Here again is the section of text of the California law that mandates that police take your report. We have bolded the sections that pertain to this point.

California Penal Code Section 11165.9
11165.9. Reports of suspected child abuse or neglect shall be made by mandated reporters, or in the case of reports pursuant to Section 11166.05, may be made, to any police department or sheriff’s department, not including a school district police or security department, county probation department, if designated by the county to receive mandated reports, or the county welfare department. Any of those agencies shall accept a report of suspected child abuse or neglect whether offered by a mandated reporter or another person, or referred by another agency, even if the agency to whom the report is being made lacks subject matter or geographical jurisdiction to investigate the reported case, unless the agency can immediately electronically transfer the call to an agency with proper jurisdiction.When an agency takes a report about a case of suspected child abuse or neglect in which that agency lacks jurisdiction, the agency shall immediately refer the case by telephone, fax, or electronic transmission to an agency with proper jurisdiction. Agencies that are required to receive reports of suspected child abuse or neglect may not refuse to accept a report of suspected child abuse or neglect from a mandated reporter or another person unless otherwise authorized pursuant to this section, and shall maintain a record of all reports received.

Remember, the reason California and so many other states have felt the need to pass a law mandating that police take child abuse reports is precisely because there are still so many police who wrongly continue to try to dump these cases in order to get out of doing these cases.

  • If an officer outright refuses to take your report, or attempts to get you to make your report elsewhere, the best thing to do is to immediately call the officer’s supervisor, or call the police agency’s on-call sergeant, or the head of the family violence unit. There’s just no sense continuing to deal with an officer who has already shown he or she is willing to violate the law to get out of responding even minimally to child abuse.But even if an officer does seem to be taking your report, you should still make sure the officer properly categorizes the report as a crime case report, and not just an informational report. The way to do this is to ask the officer for the crime case number after the officer has taken your report. One of the first things a police officer does when they begin to write a report is to obtain the assignment of a crime report number for the case from the main office. Crime report numbers are a matter of public record, even in child abuse cases. So if an officer refuses to give you the crime report number for the case that you’re reporting, that’s a pretty good indication things are headed in the wrong direction right from the start. Once again, it’s time to make a phone call up the ranks.
  • Don’t feel shy about calling police supervisors or the on-call sergeant Remember, any officer that doesn’t properly take a child abuse report is not simply violating the law. That officer is also attempting to deny protection and justice to the most vulnerable in society. Remember, too, your taxes pay these officers to do their job right. So don’t be shy. Make that phone call up the ranks until you’re assured the your report is properly taken.

NOTE 1: With the possibility of encountering obstructions and resistance when reporting child abuse to police, you may be asking yourself, why should I even bother? Especially when CPS is more than willing to take the report without any fuss?

That’s an easy question to answer. It’s much like the question, why should women in the 19th century have bothered with the struggle to get admitted into universities when they could so easily be admitted to finishing schools with no hassle at all? Clearly, the answer was that the real education was in the universities, and that education was worth fighting for. For the same reason, it’s worth a possible extra effort to get police to handle your child abuse report properly, because the real powers of protection and justice for women and children are in the criminal justice system, and not in the CPS system

 

B. Tips for Dealing with CPS if CPS has already opened a case regarding abuse of your child.

(These tips, as with the entirety of this text, are designed to support the needs and rights of the non-offending, nonviolent parent.)

Introduction:

If you are the non-offending parent and CPS has already opened a case regarding your child, you probably already know you are in a difficult situation. First, you’ve likely been dealing with a violent or abusive family member for some time. Now, on top of that, you’re dealing with CPS.

It would be nice to believe that you’re finally connected to an agency that really wants to help you. But you may have begun to sense the frightening reality that CPS is a powerful government agency that is plowing through the most intimate details of your life with the very real possibility they can take your child from you. Or perhaps CPS is ordering you into a complex of social programs under threat of taking your child if you don’t comply. Or CPS may have already taken your child, and is setting conditions you must follow in order to get your child back. Instead of feeling helped, it seems the height of injustice that suddenly it’s your behavior that’s being judged, and your parental rights that are being threatened, even though everyone agrees you’re not the one who perpetrated the abuse.

Before anything else, understand that the intense fears and sense of betrayal you may be feeling as you deal with CPS are natural reactions to the unpredictable and often abusive exercise of power by the CPS/juvenile court system. CPS really can hurt you. CPS really can impose extensive controls over your life. And CPS can take your child using only the most flimsy of accusations against you, and based on virtually no evidence at all, with only the weakest mechanism of due process to protect you – even if you have done nothing wrong.

The reason it’s so important that you know your anxiety is a normal reaction is so that you don’t start feeling worse about yourself, or start feeling that you’re going crazy, or thinking that you’re the only one this has happened to. In order to get CPS out of your life and get your children back home securely in your custody, you’re going to need to think clearly, and keep yourself from panicking. You’re going to have to pay close attention, and learn how this system works. And you’re probably going to have to keep up this struggle for some time. You just can’t do that if you’re feeling down on yourself, defeated, and in despair. At the very least, try to keep in mind that there is a growing awareness of the injustices and near tyranny of the CPS system, and increasing efforts to correct these injustices, particularly as they pertain to the non-offending parent. You are not crazy for feeling victimized by CPS, and you’re not alone in your fight.

Because decisions made by the CPS system are so arbitrary and unpredictable, there are no guarantees that you can prevail. But if you follow the tips below, if you recognize that it’s going to take some time, you can give yourself and your child the best possible chance that CPS will do more to help you than to hurt you. It will probably take a while. So get ready for the long haul. Step by step you probably can get CPS out of your life, and your children safely and securely in your home. So don’t give up in despair.

The tips that follow should help you do this as smoothly and as gently as possible.

1. Learn as much as you can about how and why the CPS system poses serious risks to you, the non-offending parent.

The better you can understand why and how CPS is so prone to target the non-offending parent, the more you’re going to automatically know how to handle yourself and your case with CPS. So as a number one step to protecting yourself as you deal with CPS, learn as much as you can about how this system works.

Here are some information sources on the CPS/juvenile court system:

Read Part 1 of this text if you haven’t already done so. It will help you understand where and how the CPS system poses risks to you. It’s fairly long. So even if you don’t have time to read all of it, try at the very least to read the topic headings. In addition to the Part 1 section, there are a number of links to other informative guides and documents that can help answer your questions along the way.

One particularly helpful document that gives step by step explanation of the CPS/Juvenile court process is this one, A Family’s Guide to the Child Welfare Service System. It’s very clearly written and well organized so you can quickly get the information you need.

Another document you might find useful as you go through the process is the policy manual of your state’s child welfare agency. Many states have their child welfare agency manual on the web. You can probably find it by going to the web site of your state’s social service department and following links from there. Or, you can ask your CPS worker how to locate a copy. Remember, CPS is a government agency. So you have a right to see any and all CPS documents. All CPS documents, except for materials pertaining to other people’s cases, must be made available to you on request.

It can also be very helpful if you’re willing to look up your state laws that govern the CPS/juvenile court process. In California all of this law is in searchable form on the net. For California law governing CPS, go to www.leginfo.ca.gov/calaw.html , click on the Welfare and Institutions Code, and begin your search.

Still another very helpful source of information is a Yahoo Groups Email list called‘childprotectionreform’. There are many people on this list who are going through the same kind of experience as yourself. And there are also people on the list who are very informed about the process, and willing to help others with their cases. But remember, these people are not professionals. So don’t blindly trust the information you get.

There are a number of additional informative web sites and Email lists that can be helpful in guiding you through the CPS process. But, as with everything you read on the Internet, be careful. One particular problem you should look out for in CPS information sites is that some of these sites are put together by child abusers who are upset with CPS for very different reasons than your reasons.

2. In all your dealings with CPS, even if your worker seems friendly and helpful, always keep in mind that the CPS system is NOT your friend, NOT your counselor, and NOT your advocate. Understand that you are in an adversarial (oppositional) relationship with CPS, that you are being evaluated and investigated by CPS, that CPS can take your child, and that every thing you say can and often will be used against you.

The very words ‘child protective services’ sound so humanitarian, and so in tune with what mothers want, especially those mothers who are dealing with a violent partner, that women frequently make the serious mistake of thinking that CPS is their friend. Or they think that CPS will at least by on the same side with them, or that CPS will naturally work to support their needs and interests. This mistaken belief is even easier to fall into when the CPS worker is friendly or tells you directly that she or he wants to help you. In fact, your worker may truly believe that he or she is there to help you. CPS workers themselves are often blind to the underlying dynamics of the system they work for.

The reality is that CPS system is a government agency armed with the enormous power to take your child, and to do so on only the most minimal pretext, with only the smallest sliver of evidence, and minimal due process rights for you. The CPS system is set up to investigate and judge whether or not you are a fit parent, even when everyone knows you are not the one who abused your child.

So, if you are a non-offending parent, in all your dealings with CPS, remember, CPS is not your friend! CPS is not your counselor! CPS is not your advocate! If you always keep this in mind, it will help you avoid some common and tragic mistakes. It will also help you to take basic, but critical steps to protect yourself from CPS abuses of power along the way.

Here are the kinds of mistakes so many women fall into when they believe that CPS is on their side. Women often pour their hearts out to CPS. They open their homes and family life to CPS, and give CPS all kinds of intimate information that CPS then can, and often will, use against you. Another big mistake women make when they think CPS is on their side, is that they trust that CPS is looking after their interests. They let their guard down. They don’t pay attention to what’s going on. They don’t prepare and protect themselves. And, all too often, they don’t wake up until it’s too late.

Example: Here’s just one example of the kind of tragedy that occurs over and over again when women think CPS is on their side. An exhausted mother has been coping with an abusive husband for years. One day her 10-year-old daughter tells a teacher that the reason she’s late to school is because her father got in a fight with her mother after breakfast and he started beating her mother. The teacher reports this to CPS. The CPS worker tells the mother she wants to help the family. The mother bares her heart to the worker. The mother tells the CPS worker how stressed she has been. How much trouble she has sleeping. How fearful she is in the home. She tells CPS that a year ago she went to a shelter, but soon returned to the abusive husband because she didn’t think she could make enough money to feed the children. She says she tries to warn the children against being around the father when he gets in that mood. She says she doesn’t know what to do.

Then one day the mother gets a copy of the written CPS report. She is stunned to read that the worker has written that ‘this mother is out of control, can’t cope, is mentally unstable and unable to protect the child’, and that, furthermore, the mother is ‘alienating the children from the father’. And that based on this, CPS is petitioning the court to remove the child from the mother.

It happens like this over and over again. So right from the beginning, understand that CPS is geared up and empowered to protect children against parents. CPS is not working on your behalf. Even if CPS lines up a whole set of programs for you to attend to help you keep your child, you need to realize that if you don’t comply with these programs to CPS satisfaction, CPS holds the threat of taking your child. This does not constitute a friendly relationship. Even though every one agrees that you did not abuse the child, you are in an adversarial (oppositional) relationship with CPS, and a particularly precarious adversarial relationship at that.

The proof that you are in an adversarial (oppositional) relationship with CPS is that (in most states) the juvenile court must assign you an attorney to represent your interests and protect you from CPS powers when you’re in court with CPS. This is a huge clue that even the courts recognize that you, the non-offending parent, are in an adversarial relationship with CPS and that you need legal protection from CPS powers.

Another way to look at this is to understand that the only special power authorized to the CPS/juvenile court system is a power that can hurt you badly, i.e., the power to take your child. CPS is not empowered in any special way to help you. It’s true that CPS can give you referrals to various social and psychological services, but those are all things that you can do for yourself. Worse yet, when CPS gives you these referrals, they are usually mandated referrals given under threat of losing your child if you don’t comply. But in terms of any unique governmental power designed to help you, the non-offending parent, CPS has nothing. CPS is not empowered to hold the perpetrator accountable, is not empowered to obtain justice for either you or your child, and is not empowered to protect you.

It’s critical that you understand that once CPS opens a case on your child, even though everyone knows you are not the abuser, you are being investigated and judged by the CPS system. And a determination is being made as to whether or not to take your child. This is not a friendly relationship. You are in an adversarial (oppositional) relationship with CPS.

It’s worth repeating. It does not matter how helpful, encouraging, or humanitarian your individual CPS worker might be, the CPS system is NOT your friend. They are investigating you. You are under threat of losing your child.

NOTE: The CPS system was established in the middle of last century at a time when women’s and children’s rights within the family were not well established. Family violence was not viewed as a crime, i.e. was not viewed as a serious offense against society. A man’s home was his castle, and women and children were his legal inferiors. CPS was structured in a way to conform to these very patriarchal views, and, for the most part, CPS structure and operation remains legally locked into those outdated and oppressive modes today.

3. Because the CPS/juvenile court system is NOT your friend, and because you are in an adversarial (oppositional) relationship with CPS:

* Do not pour your heart out to CPS. Always remember that anything you say to anyone in the CPS system can, and often will, be used against you. So don’t pour your heart out to CPS workers, or to mediators, evaluators, investigators, court personnel, or anyone else. Think before you speak. Always be aware that, a) these workers are experienced at drawing out statements from you that you would not have given if you had time to think about it, b) they have the power to take your child, and c) your words can easily be misrepresented.

Also, be aware that even if you can handle yourself well in business and social situations, it doesn’t mean you’ll be able to handle yourself well in conversations with the CPS system. This is because the subject matter of your conversations with CPS is so near and dear and painful to your heart. This makes you very vulnerable to the slightest of manipulations. Many CPS workers don’t hesitate to play on this vulnerability.

* Decide carefully about when and how to assert your rights. Understand how you are in a double bind when you assert your rights with CPS. Once you realize the risks of saying too much in your conversations with CPS, you might conclude that your best bet is just not talk to CPS at all. After all, like everyone else in America, you have a right to remain silent. Indeed, if you were being accused of a crime in the criminal system, every attorney in the world would advise you to remain silent. ‘Don’t even talk to the police’, they would tell you. ‘Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law.’ Even a person accused of murder has a right to remain silent, and to refuse to cooperate with government officials unless ordered to do so by a judge.

Naturally, you have the same rights to remain silent in your dealings with the CPS system. Additionally, you have a right to refuse to let CPS into your home unless CPS has obtained a search warrant. You have a right not to cooperate with CPS. You have a right not to participate in any of the programs CPS says it wants you to go to. And you have many other rights as well. After all, you live in America, right? And no government agency can start ordering your life around, telling you to do this or that, or to go here or there, if they don’t apply due process and present solid evidence in a court of law proving you did something against the law. The only order you have to obey is a judge’s order!

But here’s the other half of the ‘damned if you do, and damned if you don’t’ dilemma you have with CPS. On the one hand, since you’re in an adversarial relationship with CPS, the best legal advice would be for you to assert your rights. On the other hand, CPS wields the ultimate awesome power of being able to take your child with the vaguest of accusations, the most minimal of evidence, and only the very weakest system of due process in place to protect you. And that right there is the catch. The double bind you are in. The terrible injustice and the near tyranny of CPS power.

The legal and evidentiary constraints on CPS powers are so minimal, that if you do assert your rights to CPS, the CPS worker can easily retaliate against you using the system’s virtually unchecked power against you. The worker can easily make vague and prejudiced accusations against you such as ‘instability’, ‘alienating your child from the other parent’, ‘failure to protect’, ‘should have known about the abuse’, or ‘engaging in domestic violence’ even though you’re the victim of the violence. (None of which accusations are crimes.) And then the worker can support that accusation against you in the juvenile court with the smallest tidbit of evidence, even the most bogus of evidence, or with evidence that wouldn’t even be admissible in a criminal court. And with that the CPS system can take your child.

(Remember, the CPS/juvenile court system operates on the ‘preponderance of the evidence’ standard, 51% of the evidence, the lowest judicial standard of evidence. This means that all CPS has to do is present to the court 1% more evidence on their side than you present on your side, and CPS wins. So once CPS makes an accusation against you, it is extremely difficult for you to defend yourself, and very easy for CPS to railroad the case against you.)

* So here are a couple tips for asserting your rights with CPS

All the above adds up to the fact that you have to make some very careful and difficult decisions about if, when, and how you want to assert your rights with CPS. The goal is for you to get the most benefit and protection from asserting your rights while at the same time remaining cooperative enough to keep from triggering CPS into making new accusations against you. Our general advice is that if or when you do assert your rights, be sure to do so in a tone that is cooperative, professional, and polite.

Here are some suggestions for different degrees of asserting your rights:

a. In a situation where a CPS worker intrudes on you and you want to temporarily back them down and keep the situation more under your own control.

For example, if a CPS worker knocks on your door and wants to come into your home, instead of saying, “Show me a search warrant or take a hike!”, try this. Give the worker a friendly greeting, and say, “I’m sorry but this time won’t work for me. I’m already late getting to an appointment. Please call me tomorrow morning and I’ll make an appointment with you.”

Or if a CPS worker calls you on the phone, tell the worker you can’t talk right now. Tell the worker you’d like to make an appointment later. Or if you’re asked a question you don’t want to answer, don’t say, “That’s none of your damn business,” no matter how offensive the question. Tell the worker you don’t feel the question is relevant, or that you’d like to answer the question at another time. Or, better yet, tell the worker you’d like to answer the question in writing. This gives you time to think through your answer. It guarantees your words won’t get misrepresented. And at the same time, it shows your willingness to cooperate.

Keeping meeting times under your control at least gives you psychological advantages as well as the benefit of being able to prepare for your interactions with CPS. It also sends a clear message to the CPS worker that you won’t be easily trampled upon. But remember that one rule to live by to make this work best for you is to always keep your manner of communication cooperative, professional, and polite.

Another rule to live by is this. Try not to get upset if the worker gets intimidating or threatening.

For example, if a worker says to you, “Either you let me into your home now, or next time I come back it will be to take your child,” don’t take the bait! Don’t panic. Don’t say, “Over my dead body!” Instead, take a breath. Be confident in standing your ground. And just repeat your position, “I’m sorry, I’m late for an appointment. Call me tomorrow and I’ll be happy to make an appointment! Remember, CPS workers are fully aware of your rights, so don’t let them goad you into relinquishing those rights, or into responding in a way that can later be used against you.

NOTE 1: Yes, there’s no doubt about it. It’s very difficult to keep your balance emotionally when you’re dealing with CPS because just the thought of losing your child strikes at the core of your being. And the thought of losing your child to an unjust abuse of power, ignites every cell in your body into panic and rage. Holding back your instincts in these moments is a near unbearable act of restraint. So you need to remind yourself again and again and again. The best way to save your child is to maintain your cool in all interactions with the CPS system.

NOTE 2: Always write up notes for yourself on these interactions with CPS right after they occur.

b. Set conditions on your dealings with CPS.

Another way of asserting your rights and shifting the balance of power a little more in your favor is by setting conditions on your dealings with CPS. One condition that we highly recommend is that you only meet with CPS if you are permitted to tape record the meetings. Another condition that we highly recommend is that you always have a support person accompany you in all your interactions with the CPS system.

Before you set such conditions, think it through ahead of time. Think it through a couple of moves so that you don’t get caught off guard. And so that you can keep things moving in the direction that most suits your needs. What do you want to do if the CPS worker says, ‘no, you can’t tape record the meeting’? Do you want to give in at that point and go ahead with the meeting? Do you want to go to the worker’s supervisor? Do you want to ask that the meeting be postponed until the issue gets resolved? Or do you want to simply walk away and refuse to meet? The only right answer to these questions is the answer you come to after thinking it over ahead of time.

If you want to protest a refusal of any of your conditions, do so in writing. Write a short note to the worker’s supervisor or other ranking official. Explain that you want to cooperate, but that you also want the worker to respect your rights. Keep it short. Keep a copy. And remember: cooperative, professional, polite!

NOTE: In California, you have a right to tape record in person meetings either openly or clandestinely, but you do not have a right to secretly tape record telephone conversations. Be sure and check the laws in your state.

c. In situations where you want to fully assert your fundamental rights, always try to do so in writing.

If you want to fully assert your fundamental right to remain silent, or to absolutely refuse unwarranted entry into your home, or to assert any other of the many rights you have, do so as much as possible in writing. Date, write, and sign a very short statement. Make copies for yourself to keep in a safe place. Then deliver, mail, or fax your statement to both the CPS worker and to the head of CPS.

There are a number of form letters on the Internet for asserting your rights with CPS. You can use those letters. Or your notification can be as simple as the following:

Dated

To CPS worker Nancy Wilson,

I am very concerned about my own and my child’s welfare. With that concern I am choosing to assert my right to remain silent in this process. I will not have any further conversations with you regarding this case.

Signed
Tricia Martinez,
Mother of Gabriela Martinez

4. Know precisely what you are being officially accused of, and the evidence being presented against you. Read all the paperwork CPS or the juvenile court gives you. Pay special attention to the CPS report(s).

Reading CPS and court reports can be difficult at first because much of the language in reports and court papers is unfamiliar. But don’t give up. Just keep reading. It doesn’t take long to start catching on to the lingo, particularly if you’re willing to keep asking questions along the way.

*** One of the very first things you need to look for, circle, and underline in these materials are the exact written words of the CPS accusations against you. If you don’t know the exact written words of the accusations against you, it’s virtually impossible to defend yourself. If CPS is preparing to put you through a program, or take your child, or hold your child, the CPS report will have a summary list at some place in the report that tells the judge – in writing – why the CPS worker believes it necessary to take the action against you. This list is the list of accusations against you. Find it!

One of the first things we ask women when they come to us with a CPS problem is, “What are the CPS accusations against you?” So many women say they don’t know, or they repeat something the social worker has said. But it does not matter what the social worker says. What the social worker says to you is not official, and it can change from one day to the next. What counts, what matters, what you need to know, is what the social worker (and evaluators, mediators, etc.) put into writing in their reports.

So always read what’s in the reports if you want to know the real deal of what your up against. Knowing exactly what you’re being officially accused of is the absolute essential first step to preparing a good defense.

*** Another thing to look for (and circle and underline) as you read the CPS report or court documents are any untrue written statements that are made, particularly untrue statements that reflect badly on you. It will be very helpful to you if you make a list on a separate sheet of paper of all the untrue or misconstrued evidence and statements that are being made against you. That list can guide your thinking as you develop a corresponding list of points and evidence to defend yourself.

NOTE 1: You have a right to see and get copies of ANY and ALL reports pertaining to your child’s case. This includes all court documents. If you are not automatically given copies of these documents as they’re generated, ask your social worker to get you a copy within 24 hours. If this doesn’t get a copy in your hands, immediately write a one page letter to the head of social services and to the judge on your case. Your up-to-date knowledge of what’s in these reports is just too vital to your future to allow them any leeway in providing you with your reports.

NOTE 2: Don’t wait until the day before the next hearing or meeting before you start reading the documents. Read everything as soon after you get it as possible.

NOTE 3: There’s no doubt that reading these documents can be very depressing and dehumanizing because of the strange and often distorted way that CPS workers write about your family. Unfortunately, the unpleasantness of reading these documents is one reason many women put off reading them until it’s too late to effectively respond. But you just can’t afford to let these documents go unread. So try asking a friend or supportive family member to sit down at your side and read the documents with you. Not only can a friend help you get through these documents emotionally, a good friend will often notice important points in the documents that you can easily miss because you’re so emotionally upset.

* If you don’t speak and read English well, insist on getting materials in your own language. Insist on it, as many times as is necessary. It’s extremely important. And if your CPS worker or any one else in the system is speaking your language poorly, ask for a translator. And ask again. If the worker doesn’t get you an interpreter after you’ve requested one, don’t pretend you understand what’s being said. Just the opposite, you need to keep indicating you don’t understand what’s being said. It’s just so critical to you that you understand everything that’s being said and written about your child’s case.

If your worker fails to provide you with proper language interpretation and written translations, try to find someone who can write out your requests and complaints. Your letter to the judge or to the head of CPS can be as simple as what follows.

Dated
To the Juvenile Court Judge,

CPS is looking into an allegation of abuse regarding my child. The social worker, Ms. Seri, has given me a report and other documents pertaining to the case. All these documents are in English.

I want very much to read these documents and inform myself so I can best respond in a helpful way. The problem is I don’t speak or read English well.

Three weeks ago, I asked the CPS worker to provide me with translated copies of the report. I also asked her to use a competent interpreter when discussing my child’s case with me. But to date she has not done so.

I am requesting that you postpone all proceedings on this case until I am provided with proper language translations and an interpreter.

Thank you,
signed

5. Get a notebook. Carry it with you everywhere. Write down brief notes on all your interactions, thoughts, and questions regarding the CPS case. Your notebook can win your case!

Being involved with CPS is a huge emotional strain in a system that is unfamiliar, threatening, and bewildering. Getting and keeping a notebook may seem like one more chore too many. But, the reality is this notebook can save you tremendous time and anxiety. It can put you in control. Your notebook can win your case. So get that notebook and carry it with you at all times! Some of your best thoughts and strategies on your case will come to you at the oddest moments.

And use it:

* Take notes at all meetings, hearings, and phone conversations.

* Write down names, questions, reminders, and thoughts on evidence.

* Carefully outline what you want to say, what you want to ask, and what you want to accomplish, before you go into meetings or court hearings. Take time in meetings to refer to your notes.

* Don’t forget to date your entries.

Also, get a big, secure folder where you can keep all your papers together in one place.

6. Consider making a report to police, even if CPS is already handling the case. Pursue the criminal case to the maximum extent possible.

This advice may seem a little off track. After all, you’ve already got more than you can handle with the CPS case. So why consider opening up another case with police?

But making a report to police, either of the child abuse or of domestic violence against you, or both, may be more help to you in your CPS case than anything else you can do. Our best advice is that you make a police report on the perpetrator’s abuse of the child, as well as a separate police report on any of the violence or threats of violence the perpetrator has committed against you. A strong criminal case against the abuser can often protect you against CPS in a number of ways.

* The existence of a criminal case against the perpetrator usually forces CPS to work in coordination with the criminal justice team. Since the criminal justice system only goes after the abuser and never goes after the non-offending parent, CPS is often forced to work more in that vein, too, and tends to move away from treating you, the non-offending parent, as a bad parent.

* Police and prosecutors (the criminal justice team) usually aim to protect the child from contact with the perpetrator. This often puts a damper on any attempts by CPS to mandate mediations, family conferencing, and family reunification with the perpetrator. And, of course, if the abuser is incarcerated by the criminal system, that further curtails CPS attempts to reunify the child with the perpetrator.

* Police and prosecutors will be much more rigorous than CPS in developing evidence against the abuser. Moreover, the evidence developed by police will be tightly focused on the abusive acts. By highlighting the perpetrator’s violent criminal behavior, the evidence developed by police exposes the risky and threatening situation you were in as the child’s mother, and the limited options you had for dealing with the situation. As such, the evidence developed by police can often be your best evidence for defending yourself from CPS accusations.

* The criminal justice system packs more weight and power than CPS. So the criminal justice usually calls the shots at critical junctures in the handling of the case.

The existence of a criminal case against the perpetrator doesn’t guarantee that CPS will stop targeting you, the non-offending parent. But at the very least, it usually does tend to shift the overall blame more onto the perpetrator where it should be. And in many cases the existence of a criminal case may shift things enough to keep the CPS/juvenile court system from taking your child from you.

NOTE: You may have to push a little to get police to take the report, particularly if CPS is already involved in the case. But if a family member has been violent with you or your child, police cannot refuse to take a report. And if you run into an officer who does refuse to take a report, go immediately over that officer’s head to the sergeant or to the head of the department’s family violence unit.

If you still have trouble getting police to take your case seriously, there are a number of resources in our Online Handbook Advocating for Women in the Criminal Justice System

7. Know the purpose of and prepare ahead of time for all meetings with CPS workers, mediators, evaluators. Read and reread everything that your CPS worker has given you.

Most of the time when mothers call us frantic about their CPS case, they are often unable to explain the status of the legal proceedings. And they often don’t know the purpose of the next meeting or court hearing. This is not their fault. The CPS system is complex. And most CPS workers do not consider it their job to keep you informed. Unfortunately, aside from an attorney who may be assigned to your case when you go to court, there is no one in the CPS/juvenile court system who’s job it is to act as your advocate. And, as will be discussed in more detail later, even if you have been assigned an attorney by the juvenile court, these attorneys are notorious for ignoring their clients needs.

It isn’t fair and it isn’t just. But you have to take on the responsibility of keeping yourself informed as to exactly what’s happening in your case.

You need to know the purpose of each meeting, evaluation, and each court hearing before you attend. What is the issue that’s going to be decided? What is the CPS position on this issue? Do I need to defend myself against the CPS position? How do I need to defend myself? You can’t prepare effectively without having that information.

Once you get in the habit of keeping yourself informed about the step-by-step status of your child’s case, much of your anxiety and panic will be alleviated.

8. Never go alone to meet with CPS, to go to Juvenile Court, or to meet with your attorney.

Having a smart, kind friend at your side makes you strong in so many ways. It lets the authorities know someone else is watching and cares about you. A friend at your side protects you from feeling intimidated, reminds you of questions you wanted to ask, helps you remember things that were said. Having a friend at your side discourages officials from mistreating you. Makes you feel stronger. Gives you someone to share the experience with before, during, and after. Makes you feel not so all alone.

So always try to have a friend at your side at all your encounters with the CPS/juvenile court system. Don’t wait until the last minute to make arrangements. Once you’ve found someone who will accompany you, inform your friend about the purpose of the meeting or hearing. Ask your friend if she or he would be willing to read some of the relevant documents. Talk with your friend about what role you would like her to play in meetings and hearings. Try to meet with your friend and go to the meeting or hearing together, rather than meeting up at the location. Treat your friend like gold. Say ‘thank you’ again and again.

9. Put it in writing! Put it in writing! Put it in writing! Don’t let your words get misrepresented, twisted, or denied. To the greatest extent possible, communicate with the CPS/juvenile court system in writing. In addition, tape record conversations whenever possible.

One of the most exasperating thing women experience going through the CPS system is having their words misrepresented, twisted, or denied. So to the greatest extent possible, communicate with CPS in writing.

For tips on putting together short, quick, effective written communication go to How To Write an Effective Letter to Make the System Work.

When dealing with the CPS system,

* Write short notes summarizing your understanding of conversations you’ve had from CPS. Notes such as the example that follows make it virtually impossible for the CPS worker to later deny they said. Because, if there was a misunderstanding, the worker should have cleared it up immediately after receiving the note. Regularly following up on phone calls and meetings with such notes also establishes a recorded time line of events. And, perhaps, most important of all, these notes serve to put the CPS system on notice that there’s no room for slippery slights of hand when dealing with you. All this, while at the same time, these notes convey a professional, cooperative tone. So write a lot of notes. And don’t forget to keep copies!


Example:
Date

Dear Ms. Janson,
I’m sending this note just to let you know what I understood from our phone conversation of June 2, 2007. I understood that you have given me permission to pick my child up from the group home and take my child to the pediatrician of my choice to remedy the rash on my child’s back. Thank you,

Signed,

* Always voice any complaints you may have in a one page letter that follows the format outlined on this page How To Write an Effective Letter to Make the System Work. Even though these complaint letters take a little more time to put together, this form is highly effective in obtaining quick remedy to your complaint.

* Always put your requests in writing. These written requests can be as simple as the note above for simple requests, or may call for a longer one page letter as suggested for the complaints.

* Similar to your requests, it’s always best to put your conditions and assertions of your rights into letter form.

And once more for quality control: Always keep copies, and keep all your copies in a safe place.

10. Follow all court orders to the letter. Many court orders given you in a CPS case will seem completely unjust. Many of these orders are, in fact, unjust, and, worse, many are often contrary to the well being and safety of you and your child. But you must follow these orders to the letter, even as you fight to do everything you can to get these orders changed.

There’s nothing that upsets the court more than someone who breaks a court order. Even child abuse doesn’t seem to upset officials as much as what they view as contempt for their court orders. So read and know what’s written in the court order and obey it to the letter. The last thing you want is for the system to retaliate against you and take your child just because you failed to comply with a court order to attend this or that program. So keep in mind that it can happen just as easily as that. And obey all court orders to the letter.

Another all too common occurrence you should watch out for is this. A CPS worker may tell you verbally that you don’t have to do this or that part of what’s written in the service plan which has been approved by the judge. Whatever you do, do not take the social worker at his or her word. Before you even think of changing any aspect of your compliance with the court orders or written service plans, insist that the social worker put any and all changes in writing! And that the social worker sign and date the statement. And that you have at least one copy of that signed statement in your hands. If the social worker fails to put the change in writing, continue to comply with the order and service plan as it is written.

And if a social worker, or any other member of the CPS system, tells you to do one thing that’s different from what’s in the written order, you should write up a dated, signed note of your own. Address it to the judge or the head of social services. Explain briefly that your social worker told you to do x, but that you know you are obligated to follow the written order until such time as that order is changed in writing.

Remember, what’s written in black and white is what counts. It’s worth repeating. Don’t get fooled or misled by something a social worker says verbally one day, and then forgets they ever said it the next. Don’t let abusers, evaluators, mediators, or anyone else influence you verbally into going against what’s written in black and white. Even something as seemingly minor as altering a visitation schedule can and likely will be held against you in court. Get it in writing! Get it in writing! Get it in writing!

Obey all written court orders as they are written!

11. Keep being your child’s mother. If CPS has detained your child, remember, you are still your child’s mother, and your child needs your mothering more than ever. Don’t violate any court orders. But within the constraints of those court orders, do all that you can to keep being your child’s mother. Be creative! Give thought ahead of time how to make the most of phone calls and visitations.

 

C. Tips for getting the best possible representation from your court appointed attorney.

If you’ve been appointed an attorney by the juvenile court, don’t trust that your attorney will properly prepare and present your case.

Many, many, many mothers wrongly lose their children to CPS, and the children wrongly lose their mothers, simply because the attorneys assigned to represent the non-offending parents often do little or nothing on behalf of their clients.

No one in any situation can sit back and trust that their attorney will effectively fight for their case. You have to partner with your attorney. You need to understand your case, participate in preparing your case, and most important of all, you have to watchdog your attorney.

But when you are the non-offending parent who has been assigned an attorney by the juvenile court in the CPS case, you need to multiply this advice by a factor of a thousand. As a rule, attorneys assigned to represent you in a CPS case are attorneys at their worst. They frequently fail to prepare, fail to fight back, fail to return phone calls, fail to meet with their clients, and often fail to know even the basic facts of the case. As a result, these attorneys frequently end up abandoning their clients to the most blatant abuses of CPS/juvenile court system.

Don’t let this happen to you. In order to effectively deal with an attorney assigned to represent you in a CPS/juvenile court case, it’s helpful to first understand why the CPS/juvenile court system brings out the worst in so many attorneys.

  • These attorneys usually have a very high volume caseload of clients who are in intense emotional pain and stress. Any discussion the attorney attempts to have with the clients is usually laced with the mother’s agony and desperation. With scores of these desperation cases to handle every day, many attorneys unfortunately take the easy route and shut the clients out. Many don’t return phone calls, don’t meet with you to prepare the case, and often don’t even meet with their clients before critical court hearings. This naturally increases the clients’ desperation, which increases the attorney’s effort to barricade against communicating with the clients, which leads to very bad lawyering for the mothers who need it most.
  • The attorneys assigned to these cases know that their clients are among the most powerless and voiceless in society; poor women who are caught in the most dire circumstances. Right from the start, most of these attorneys can’t even begin to imagine the kinds of circumstances their clients are going through. Nor are they likely to dig into the situation sufficiently (if at all) to unravel the complexities in search of the truth. Furthermore, these attorneys know their clients do not have the resources, (neither the time, money, nor standing) to mount a case of lawyer misconduct, no matter how bad a job the lawyers do.
  • Family and juvenile law have very low status in the legal profession. Many attorneys assigned to cases like yours are not really there as a first choice. They’re being rotated through the job. Or they took the job as a holding station while they look for better positions elsewhere. Or they simply need the easy money of a court assignment. Furthermore, they know that given the vague and flimsy legal standards of family and juvenile law, it’s difficult to construct an effective defense against whatever claims or accusations CPS puts forth. So, they figure, why put up a fight?
  • The whole CPS/juvenile court system operates in secret. No one is watching. Nothing is on the public record. Add to this the absence of rigorous standards and the attorneys know that no one in the system, including themselves, is likely to be held accountable for legal malpractice.
  • Most of these attorneys are given their assignments at the pleasure of the court. The attorneys know that if they smoothly go along with CPS and court rulings without raising a fuss, the court will continue to assign them cases. On the other hand, if they regularly battle with CPS and take up court time fighting and objecting on behalf of their clients’ rights, they know the chances are slim that the court will keep them around.

When you look at all these factors in sum, you can easily see why the attorney you’re assigned in the juvenile court system is so prone to doing a lousy job representing your interests. Fortunately, there are some things you can do that may perk up your attorney to a better level of performance on your behalf.

* Tips to increase the chances your attorney will fight your case effectively:

* Know what attorneys like. Most attorneys like to go into court armed with solid evidence. They like to look good in court, to win smartly, and to do all of the foregoing with the minimal of effort. Even better, they like to do so with no effort at all. What this means for you is that if you can arm your attorney with solid evidence that smartly answers the CPS case against you, and if you can do so by making the most minimal demand on the attorney’s time, you stand a good chance of getting your attorney to bat hard for you in court.

So…. 

* Be informed and be prepared. Know the written accusations against you. Know the exact purpose of the upcoming court hearing (i.e. what question is the upcoming hearing meant to resolve.) Then prepare yourself before you meet or communicate with your attorney, including before any phone conversations with your attorney. Make a brief set of notes to yourself on the main questions you want to ask, and the main points you want to communicate. Try to put these points in as condensed a form as possible so you can refer to them and read them at a glance.

* In all your communications with your attorney, stick to the legal issue(s) at hand. This can be very difficult given the heart wrenching emotions of your situation. And it can be near unbearable to realize that your attorney isn’t out there trying to move heaven and earth to make sure you don’t lose your child to CPS. But it’s very unlikely your attorney is going to be moved by your pain. If you vent your pain onto your attorney, it’s much more likely you’ll drive the attorney away rather than serving to draw the attorney into your cause.

Keep reminding yourself that the best way to keep CPS from taking your child is to get your attorney to fight effectively for you in court, and the best way to get your attorney to fight effectively for you is to stick to the legal issue at hand.

One way to help yourself do this is to imagine that you’ll only have five minutes with your attorney. Then in the days leading up to your appointment with your attorney, ask yourself, what are the most important questions and points I need to communicate in those five minutes. This should help you get very focused and clear about what you want to say and ask. As mentioned above, write these points down in a brief set of notes to yourself. Have these notes in your hand for easy reference at a glance when you meet or talk with your attorney.

* Prepare a one page written brief for your attorney.
 This one page brief should be a tight summary, ~ a point by point list ~, of the main points of information, evidence, and witnesses your attorney needs in order to successfully fight the upcoming legal issue at hand. In other words, in your thinking and preparation, you be the lawyer arguing your case.

The end product you give your attorney should all fit on one, or maximum two, page(s) . Remember, these attorneys are buried in these cases. They will read one sheet of paper. They will appreciate one sheet of paper. But if you hand your attorney a fist full of papers, it’s likely the attorney won’t even read the first page. If there are supporting documents you think your attorney should have, briefly describe the documents you have on your one page brief. Indicate that you’ve attached a copy, or that you’ll produce the documents when needed.

If you have additional information you could not fit on the one page, say exactly that as your last point on the page. For example, write something like, “In addition to the above, I have two additional witnesses who can attest to the bruises on my child from a year ago. I have a copy of my temporary restraining order petition from that time (in which I noted the threats of violence against me). Also, I can obtain a letter from the counselor I was seeing at that time who can attest to my fears for myself and my child.”

Write your information out in points (the same as this text), with the most important points at the top. Don’t forget to put your name, your phone number(s), the case number, and the date – and your attorney’s name – all clearly at the top of the page.

* Ask your attorney directly what he or she is going to argue and ask for in court. Don’t be shy about this. It is completely appropriate to the attorney/client relationship for you to be very specific in asking your attorney how and what they are going to argue on your behalf in court. It is also completely appropriate, in fact it is the core of the attorney/client relationship, that you tell your attorney in detail, how you want your attorney to represent you.

So speak up. Ask: “What evidence are you going to present in defense of the CPS accusation that I should have known my husband was abusing his stepdaughter?” “Are you going to present the letter from the counselor?” “Are you going to present the police reports of domestic violence from a year ago?” “Are you going to present the statement from my daughter’s friend?”

“What are you going to do if the judge will not return custody to me?” “I want you to ask for increased visitation.” “I want you to argue forcefully against CPS telling me to CO-counsel with my husband.” “I want you to argue against this based on the history of domestic violence.” etc.

Take notes on your attorney’s answers and responses to these questions. It may be that some of your requests are not legally viable for a particular hearing. But your attorney should give you full, accurate, and reasonable explanations if that’s the case. But bottom line, your attorney’s job is to represent your interests court.

* Always have extra copies of the brief for your attorney, and a set of notes for yourself, when you go to court. The sad fact is that even if you’ve given a copy of this one sheet briefing to your attorney a week before the hearing, there’s still a real chance the attorney will not have read it. So bring copies to court. Once at the courthouse, you can be pretty certain that your attorney will read it, or reread it, as he or she sits there in the courtroom or out in the hallway as they wait for the case to be called.

Waiting for a case to be called at court is often a very good time to catch your attorney’s attention to exchange last minute thoughts anyway because they’re pinned in place with nothing particular to do. But before you tap your attorney on the shoulder, as always, take a minute to jot down your points and questions.

The reason it’s so important that you have a set of notes for yourself when you go to court is because it’s so easy to forget even the most important points when you’re nervous and upset. The courtroom atmosphere can be very intimidating, chaotic, and confusing. So bring your written notes to yourself. Bring a copy of your notes to your attorney.

* Remember: Bring a smart, supportive friend with you to meetings with the attorney and to court hearings. And bring your notebook, too, so you can write down new points and questions that occur to you during the court proceeding.

* If, despite all of the above, your attorney fails you in court, does not present the evidence on your side, misrepresents your side, doesn’t object to lies and false accusations against you, etc., you have every right to speak up for yourself, either immediately or later. But it’s best to speak up immediately!

In court, once your case is called, you will be seated right next to your attorney. The reason you’re seated next to your attorney is because in order for you to have proper representation in court you must be able to communicate with your attorney as events unfold in court.

Do not hesitate to talk to your attorney during your court hearing! Do not hesitate to talk to your attorney even if it means the whole court has to stop and wait while you confer with your attorney. Do not feel pressured out of exercising this critical right to stop everything while you talk with your attorney, even if all you need to do is to ask your attorney the meaning of one action or another.

But if you see that your attorney is failing to present evidence he or she said they would present, or failing to accurately represent your position, it is absolutely essential that you turn to your attorney and say, “I need to confer with you for a minute.” When you do that, your attorney should then turn to the judge and say, “Your Honor, I would like to take a moment to confer with my client.” This is nothing unusual. It happens all the time in court that proceedings are stopped so attorneys and clients can take a minute or two to confer. So don’t be shy or embarrassed at all about turning to communicate with your attorney as many times as you feel you need to throughout the court hearing on your case. Remember, you are fighting to save your relationship with your child. And you have a right to proper, accurate, and complete legal representation.

If your attorney does not respond to you, if your attorney just rolls over your request and acts like he or she doesn’t hear you, you, yourself, have a right to speak up directly to the judge. It can be very hard to do this in open court, but do it. “Your honor, I need a minute to confer with my attorney.” This will work. The judge will stop everything and give you time to talk with your attorney, and more than likely, the judge will also give your attorney a dirty look. A look like, ‘why on earth did your client have to go through me to get to you?’

* Yes, you have the right to fire your attorney, even if your attorney is court appointed. If it is clear to you that your attorney is not prepared or not willing to properly represent your side of the case, you have a right to fire your attorney. Naturally, you should be sure this is what you need to do before you do it, since it will postpone court hearings and require that you be assigned a new attorney.

However, if your attorney has refused to meet with you, or if your attorney has not prepared, or is hostile to your case, or for any other reason, you feel your attorney is going to fail you in court, firing your attorney may be the best thing you can do to protect your rights.

If you’re going to fire your attorney, it’s a good idea to write a brief one paragraph statement to your attorney telling the attorney that he or she is fired. Fax this to your attorney, and bring a copy of the letter with you to court. When you go into court, be prepared to speak up to the judge when your case is called, and to give a copy of the letter to the judge. Don’t feel embarrassed or shy about doing this either. This is not unusual. Many clients fire their attorneys. Many court hearings of all kinds are put over to another date so that clients have time to find a new attorney or to be assigned a new attorney. Many attorneys have lived through the experience of being fired. They know how to save face in these situations. Your attorney will not have a heart attack when you announce it in open court. And the judge won’t be shocked either. They’ve all been through it before.

So speak up and exercise your rights. You deserve proper legal representation, especially when it comes to saving your relationship with your child.

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Women’s Justice Center,
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