American Mothers March to Defend Motherhood and Children’s Human Rights

Mothers of Lost Children will march from the U.S. Capitol to the White House in Washington DC to protest children being taken from safe mothers and given to battering and sexually abusive fathers. The family court cover up is similar to Penn State and the Catholic Church cover-ups. We will protest at the Department of Justice and Demand Equal Rights and Protection in Courts across America.  Help us send a mother from each state to represent the rights of mothers and children.

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In the Pursuit of Truth

Pursuit of Truth Film

You Silenced me once, now Adult Survivors of Sexual Assault speak out in the Pursuit of Truth Film
Hear Wendy Murphy JD, and Marci Hamilton Professor among other expert testimony, who champion the rights of victims and Statute of Limitation Laws to protect victims of abuse and help those who seek justice.
See Pursuit of Truth and order your film to share in your communities because, The Truth Matters.


  Pursuit of truth ribbon” It is a sensitive and sobering and truly needed comprehensive look at what the legal process is really like for survivors, from the moment of disclosure to wherever the legal system may come to a resting point.”


Most victims of child sexual abuse can’t ask for help. You can.  

CAPTA turns 40

CAPTA turns 40  What have we learned?


 By Melanie Blow

The Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA) turns 40 this year. It’s birth represented a milestone in our accepting of children’s rights and what is necessary to keep them healthy. After 40 years, CAPTA is still an essential tool to protect children, although newer research shows we’re harming children if we rely on it too heavily.

The Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA) was essentially the first piece of federal legislation to codify a novel concept- that all children had rights above and beyond being the property of their parents. Before CAPTA, there was a smattering of child welfare laws throughout state and local governments regarding “child cruelty”,  and things like rape and murder were illegal when done to a child or an adult (although the former was never spoken of). But the rise of medical technology was letting doctors learn more about the injuries that precede child fatalities. Most people agreed that children did not deserve to have their limbs wrenched until the bones splintered, that they did not deserve to be thrown and slammed until ribs broke and skulls cracked, healed, and cracked again.

CAPTA laid the basic groundwork for what states minimally need to consider to be abuse, for states to have central registers to receive reports of abuse, established that certain professionals who work with children must be trained in identifying abuse and be legally obliged to report it (mandated reporters), and laid down some ground rules for foster care of children removed from their homes.

It’s impossible to say how CAPTA affected child abuse rates, since we have no real baseline for them before it passed. And as pediatricians were studying patterns of fractured little bones, the feminist movement was brewing. A side effect of this was that rape was being discussed more, and with it the discussion of the rape of children. This topic rose high in the public consciousness in the ‘80’s and early ‘90’s. The mere idea of raping a child is abhorrent to most people, but it also seems unrelated to child fatality. Or so we thought, until a cardiologist in California proved otherwise.

In the mid-’90’s, Dr. Vince Felitti was studying why some of his patients would lose weight, but gain it right back. When he asked them if they were, in some way, attached to being overweight, he often heard “yes”, and this was often explained by discussion of abuse and other significant traumas they suffered as children.

This epiphany lead to the Adverse Childhood Experiences study, a massive body of research showing that survivors of any form of child abuse, neglect, major household dysfunction and parental domestic violence live shorter lives, experience more major physical illness and injury, and earn less money than people who don’t endure these things. It also showed the infrastructure for responding to abuse that CAPTA established was inadequate. Keeping physical abuse and neglect from escalating to a fatality- the basic goal of CAPTA- is laudable. But the ACE study showed that all child abuse is a matter of life and death.  To read more

For more Information on the ACE study by Dr. Vincent Felitti-  The bomb in the Brain with Dr. Felitti

Become a Believer and Stop Abuse Now


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I’m a Believer

Believers believe victims of child abuse and domestic violence and we strive to protect them.

We believe all children have the right to live their lives free from abuse and neglect.

We use the truth to expose the myth that women and children frequently lie about abuse, and the abusers and deniers who promote this dangerous myth.

Working together we will heal the victims and educate courts that deny or minimize their complaints.

Domestic Abusers cost the American taxpayer a trillion dollars every year. It is time to stop subsidizing domestic abusers and for us all to agree that a civilized society makes the health and safety of children the highest priority.

Department of Justice Report; court professionals inadequately trained


Dr. Daniel Sanders

Daniel G. Saunders, Ph.D.

Daniel G. Saunders, Ph.D., Professor
School of Social Work University of Michigan

Over the past 200 years, the bases for child custody decisions have changed considerably. The patriarchal doctrine of fathers’ ownership of children gave way in the 1920s and ’30s to little formal preference for one parent or the other to obtain custody. When given such broad discretion, judges tended to award custody to mothers, especially of young children. The mother-child bond during the early, “tender years” was considered essential for children’s development. In the 1970s, “the best interests of the children” became the predominant guideline, although it remains somewhat ambiguous (Fine & Fine, 1994). It was presumably neutral regarding parental rights. Little was known then about the negative impact of domestic violence on women and children, and domestic violence was not originally included in the list of factors used to determine the child’s best interest.

Daniel Sanders


Custody evaluators and other family court professionals are inadequately trained to properly offer opinions where domestic violence is a factor.


Child Custody Evaluators’ Beliefs About Domestic Abuse Allegations:
Their Relationship to Evaluator Demographics, Background, Domestic Violence
Knowledge and Custody-Visitation Recommendations

Final Technical Report Submitted to the
National Institute of Justice,
U.S. Department of Justice
October 31, 2011’BeliefsAboutDomesticAbuseAllegations_10-2011.pdf


False Allegations -

Brown, T., Frederico, M., Hewitt, L., & Sheehan, R. (1997). Problems and solutions in the management of child abuse allegations in custody and access disputes in the family court. Family and Conciliation Courts Review, 36(4), 431-443.
(Researchers reviewed court records of some 200 families where child abuse allegations had been made in custody and access disputes in jurisdictions in two states, observed court proceedings and interviewed court and related services’ staff.The allegations of abuse were usually valid. 70% were determined to involve severe physical and/or sexual abuse. The overall rate of false allegations during divorce to be about 9%, similar to the rate of false allegations in noncustody related investigations.)

Trocme, N., & Bala, N. (2005). False allegations of abuse and neglect when parents separate. Child Abuse & Neglect, 29(12), 1333. (PDF)
Using data from the 1998 Canadian Incidence Study of Reported Child Abuse and Neglect (CIS-98), this paper provides a detailed summary of the characteristics associated with intentionally false reports of child abuse and neglect within the context of parental separation. The national study examined abuse and neglect investigated by child welfare services in Canada.
When there was an on-going custody dispute the substantiation rate by CPS was 40% and an addition 14% were suspected but there wasn’t enough evidence to make a final determination. 12% were believed to be intentionally false. Allegations of neglect was the most common form of intentionally fabricated maltreatment. Substantiation rates varied significantly by source of report, with reports from the police (60%), custodial parents (47%), and children (54%) being generally most likely to be substantiated, while noncustodial parents (usually fathers) have a lower substantiation rate (33%), and anonymous reports being least likely to be substantiated (16%). Of the intentionally false allegations of maltreatment tracked by the study, custodial parents (usually mothers) and children were least likely to fabricate reports of abuse or neglect.


World Wide Pattern of Court Licensed Abuse

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Safe Kids International says there is a World Wide Pattern of Court Licensed Abuse-

1) Child discloses abuse, usually sexual abuse. Law enforcement does substandard investigation, says there is not enough evidence to give to D.A. and closes the case. Child Protective Services does a substandard investigation, labels it unsubstantiated and shunts it into family court as a custody case.

2) Family Court Judge appoints insider children’s attorney and/or psychologists to shift blame to the mother by fraudulently reporting that she is a liar/alienator and/or mentally ill and recommend custody to the father, who they opine is the “friendly parent”.

3) Judge minimizes, disregards and conceals evidence of abuse, finds the mother to be lying/alienating or mentally ill and gives custody to the abusive father.

4) Judge isolates children from the mother and anyone who might support the truth about the abuse while they are Stockholmed and brainwashed by the abuser, a “reunification/deprogramming” therapist or an out-of-state camp into forgetting about or recanting the abuse and agreeing to live with the abusive father.

5) Judge places mother on supervised visitation where neither she nor the children are allowed to speak of abuse, past or present. Supervision monitors report to the court if either speaks of the abuse and end the visits if they do.

6) Judge makes orders that prohibit children from seeing professionals who may support their disclosures, prohibits mother from taking children to doctors or therapists, and gives the perpetrator control over who they see.

7) Judge gag orders the mother so the public cannot hear about the abuse or the cover up of abuse and threatens that she will not see her children again if she does not remain silent and go along with the cover up.

8) Judge disempowers the mother by bankrupting her through the legal process and traumatizing her through separation from her children and enabling the abuse to continue.

NOTE: The reason this pattern is portrayed as “gendered” is because it reflects the reality that about 99% of cases which involve these tactics being used to switch custody from a good primary parent to an abusive one in family court involves the mother as the protector and the father as the abuser. Most cases which involve abusive mothers are dealt with by CPS and they don’t usually have any problem taking kids away from them. There is no known world-wide pattern of punishing and silencing fathers who are trying to protect their children.

Lessons from the past – Take Action on behalf of others


Be an UPSTANDER (N): Someone who has taken action on behalf of others.

A person who stands up for his or her beliefs.
A person who does what they think is right, even if they are alone.
A person who is not a bystander.
People who spoke out against the Holocaust were upstanders.


Posted by Coral Anika Theill
Author, Advocate, Speaker & Reporter
Memoir: BONSHEA Making Light of the Dark

BONSHEÁ Making Light of the Dark shares my search for freedom and light in a society based on patriarchal religion and laws. It openly speaks about the ideas and beliefs in our society which foster sexism, racism, the denigration of human rights and the intolerance of difference. My documentation exposes the dark side of human nature when all people are not valued. A healthy society must have the courage to address these issues, speak about them, examine them and bring them to light. Indifference encourages, “silent violence”-the type of violence I experienced in my home, in the community, religious circles and judicial system. Nobel laureate, Elie Wiesel states, “The indifference to suffering makes the human inhumane.”

Most individuals prefer not to hear the story of how a cultured people turned a blind eye to consenting to the “kidnapping of children through America’s family courts” and how the majority of our society, consisting of cultured people, remained silent. Many women grow up in homes in which they were conditioned and groomed to be victims. They marry sociopathic abusers, have children with them, and lose custody and contact of their children when they become stronger and choose safety.

Nurturing and loving mothers losing permanent custody of their children is such depressing subject matter. But we cannot indefinitely avoid depressing subject matter, particularly if it is true.

As long as society, victim advocate groups and the judicial system, chooses to turn a blind eye whenever control and manipulation tactics are practiced by a custodial parent through courtroom litigation in order to separate child from mother (or father); and refuses to act against this lowest and most hateful form of spousal revenge, justice cannot be served. As long as those who hold the power fail to acknowledge and support the rights of non-custodial parents, justice cannot be achieved. – Coral Anika Theill, BONSHEÁ Making Light of the Dark

Kids of Divorce Speak Out

Center for Judicial Excellence

Kids of Divorce Speak Out “Divorce Corp.” The Untold Story

A new documentary called “Divorce Corp.” was released in 15 states in January 2014. The film effectively exposes some of the financial corruption that is rampant in our nation’s family courts but ignored the voices of the children whose lives are most impacted by the crisis. The Center for Judicial Excellence decided to invite a few young adult children of divorce to speak openly and candidly about the bad behavior of the family court therapists, judges and attorneys who refused to listen to them and attempted to destroy their childhoods, often for profit.

We applaud “Divorce Corp.” for effectively exposing the financial corruption and lack of accountability that so often fuels the $50 Billion divorce industry in the United States. Our organization was created nearly eight years ago to foster the sort of  judicial accountability that this film calls for, and we commend filmmaker Joseph Sorge for shining a bright light on the longstanding need for effective oversight of the judicial branch.

Because this harrowing film about family court corruption presents a somewhat narrow, adults-only perspective of the crisis, our organization determined that it was high time we talked to some of the kids of divorce, to help bring their voices and first-hand experiences into the national dialogue about family court reform.

Children of Divorce

The US violates the rights of Mothers and Children


Inter American Commission on Human Rights

Jessica Gonzales v. U.S.A.

In August 2011, the Inter-American Commission issued a landmark decision which found the United States responsible for human rights violations against Jessica and her three deceased children. Jessica Lenahan (Gonzales) v the United States is the first case brought by a domestic violence survivor against the U.S. before an international body. The IACHR ruling also sets forth comprehensive recommendations for changes to and policy pertaining to domestic violence. 


In the first case brought by a survivor of domestic violence against the U.S. before an international human rights tribunal, the Inter-American Commission on Human Rights (IACHR) found that the United States violated the human rights of Jessica Lenahan (formerly Gonzales) and her children. The decision underscores that the U.S. is failing in its legal obligation to protect women and girls from domestic violence.

In June 1999, Jessica Gonzales’ three young daughters, ages seven, nine and ten, were abducted by her estranged husband and killed after the Colorado police refused to enforce a restraining order against him.

Although Gonzales repeatedly called the police, telling them of her fears for her daughters’ safety, they failed to respond. Hours later, Gonzales’ husband drove his pick-up truck to the police department and opened fire. He was shot dead by the police. The slain bodies of the three girls were subsequently discovered in the back of his pickup truck. Read full stor

Susan Murphy Milano’s Legacy Lives On

Susan Milano

Document the Abuse, Susan Murphy Milano, Neil Schori, Sandra L. Brown

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit For Victims


The Legacy of Susan Murphy-Milano  lives on in the books and Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit she created.  Susan’s life was inspirational and her struggle with cancer revealed the strength that we are made of.  She moved from victim to survivor and taught us all how to be courageous.  She lived her life with bravery and she taught us how to fight back with grace.  We are grateful to her good work.  Susan is remember with love and respect, she left the world a little better for being in it.

Her publisher has announced that they are offering a special opportunity for people who do not have her book- 

NOW is the time to be sure your local library has a copy. Order and donate for the benefit of all victims of abuse. When they are gone, they are gone! Get it now for $3.99+shipping directly from publisher Ice Cube Press | Midwestern Book Publisher


The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit

by Susan Murphy Milano

An expert in the area of intimate partner violence and the prevention of homicide, Susan has created specific tools and procedures which the abused need to safely leave a violent relationship.

See example of video affidavit

An “Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit” and video has the additional psychological benefit of being forced to face reality and admit that the potential for the ultimate kind of violence exists…and that if it occurs the perpetrator will be held accountable.

Domestic violence or intimate partner victims now are able to provide information, in their own words, about the fears, dangers, experiences they have had at the hands of their abuser. The” Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit” or “EAA” records victim’s stories, histories, and experiences which are preserved and stored on their behalf. These videos will provide answers to the many questions, allegations, and fears that arise when a person has disappeared, gone missing, or been found dead.

Recent cases, such as missing mother Susan Powell of Utah, Renee Pernice of Kansas, Kelly Rothwell of Florida, Jacque Waller of Missouri and women like Stacy Peterson, where the victim’s police officer husband is the person of interest, is the classic example of the benefits of this type of evidence. If Stacy Peterson, or any woman found murdered or is missing, had done an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, ON TAPE, from following the information in the “Time’s Up” book ,they would be able to describe:

  • threats made against her life or wellbeing, including details of how the perpetrator would carry out the threat
  • incidents of past abuse that the victim has endured
  • admissions or comments made to her about other victims or people abused
  • where evidence or weapons would or could be located
  • possible alibis that the perpetrator would make up in his defense (including identification of people who could be co-defendant’s or co-suspects)
  • portray visible injuries or marks

Read more here

Purchase Susan Murphy Milano books on escaping domestic violence safely here




Extreme Mens and Fathers Groups Promote Hate Crimes

Southern Poverty Law Center Says Extreme Mens Groups and Fathers Groups are Hate Groups

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Leader’s Suicide Brings Attention to Men’s Rights Movement

-It’s not much of a surprise that significant numbers of men in Western societies feel threatened by dramatic changes in their roles and that of the family in recent decades. Similar backlashes, after all, came in response to the civil rights movement, the gay rights movement, and other major societal revolutions. What is something of a shock is the verbal and physical violence of that reaction.

-Ball’s suicide brought attention to an underworld of misogynists, woman-haters whose fury goes well beyond criticism of the family court system, domestic violence laws, and false rape accusations. There are literally hundreds of websites, blogs and forums devoted to attacking virtually all women (or, at least, Westernized ones) — the so-called “manosphere,” which now also includes a tribute page for Tom Ball (“He Died For Our Children”). While some of them voice legitimate and sometimes disturbing complaints about the treatment of men, what is most remarkable is the misogynistic tone that pervades so many. Women are routinely maligned as sluts, gold-diggers, temptresses and worse; overly sympathetic men are dubbed “manginas”; and police and other officials are called their armed enablers. Even Ball — who did not directly blame his ex-wife for his troubles, but instead depicted her and their three children as co-victims of the authorities — vilified “man-hating feminists” as evil destroyers of all that is good.

-This kind of woman-hatred is increasingly visible in most Western societies, and it tends to be allied with other anti-modern emotions — opposition to same-sex marriage, to non-Christian immigration, to women in the workplace, and even, in some cases, to the advancement of African Americans. Just a few weeks after Ball’s death, while scorch marks were still visible on the sidewalk in Keene, N.H., that was made clear once more by a Norwegian named Anders Behring Breivik.