A National Scandal: American Mothers March to Defend Motherhood and Children’s Human Rights

Mothers of Lost Children march from the U.S. Capitol to the White House in Washington DC to protest children being taken from safe mothers and given to battering or sexually abusive fathers through family courts.  This governmental cover up is similar to Penn State and the Catholic Church cover-ups. Mothers will protest at the Department of Justice and Demand Equal Rights for Women and Protection in Courts across America for whistle blowers who have the right to Defend Childhood.  Mothers are bringing attention to child trafficking in the Courts, and  States Judges who fail to Protect.  Help us send a mother from each state to represent the rights of mothers and abused children.

Is family court really a “kids for cash” business?

An estimated 58,000 children a year are court-ordered for custody or unsupervised visitation with reported abusers. That means in many cases, children are being ordered to live with their rapists. Child custody courts are generating approximately $50 billion dollars a year from the business of exploiting families in crisis and putting children in direct harm’s way. Adverse childhood experiences are the most basic cause of health risk behaviors, morbidity, disability, mortality, and health care costs. In fact, it costs taxpayers $500 billion dollars a year in health care related costs due to adverse childhood experiences. SURGEON GENERAL’S WARNING: FAMILY COURT IS BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH- by Patrice Lenowitz, co-founder of Children’s Justice Campaign.  

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This year we rise with One Billion women for Justice – Mothers of Lost Children will Rise, Dance, and March- Join the Revolution

Join the Revolution! Hold up a sign and wear a shirt that Reads Mothers of Lost Children – Where’s my Motherhood.gov? Tell them why you are Rising for Justice! Join or Create a March, A Dance, A Silent Vigil, Rise Mothers Rise!!!!!  

Join the Revolution – If you want to be anonymous film your spot Holding a Sign while you Rise for Justice – Wear the shirt, hold the sign get our message out there everyone.

ONE BILLION RISING FOR JUSTICE is a global call to women survivors of violence and those who love them to gather safely in community outside places where they are entitled to justice – courthouses, police stations, government offices, school administration buildings, work places, sites of environmental injustice, military courts, embassies, places of worship, homes, or simply public gathering places where women deserve to feel safe but too often do not. It is a call to survivors to break the silence and release their stories – politically, spiritually, outrageously – through art, dance, marches, ritual, song, spoken word, testimonies and whatever way feels right.

Mothers from across the Nation should Join One Billion rising for Justice Events in your community – Wear a shirt that says Mothers of Lost Children – Tell them why you rise for Justice. You can stencil a white shirt with black letters that are easy to read MOTHERS OF LOST CHILDREN in Black, and we are adding WHERE’S MYMOTHERHOOD.GOV?

Join or Create an event in your community -http://www.onebillionrising.org/events/#!/0/0/1/

Last Years in DC -Mothers March on Washington DC to end Child trafficking through the courts

A Special Place in Hell! Reserve their space

The darkest place in hell

Mothers are losing custody of their children to an abusive partner and corrupt courts/CPS who are “legally kidnapping” and trafficking our children.

In the lives of Mother’s who have lost custody there is a cast of characters who have either failed to act, looked the other way or enabled the court in the Court Ordered Abuse and Rewarded the Bully.  For many it keeps us up at night.  The court professionals who are profiting off the trauma and feeding off the demise of you and your children, there is nothing short of disbarment, public flogging or stockades could suffice.

The Character assassinations and stalking from the ex and his ‘Gang’ were designed to destabilize and discredit you.  The “Ugly Stepmothers’ are opportunistic and helping to poison your children and discredit you in public and private spaces.  They too have a financial incentive to help the bully get custody and shut you out of your child’s life.  So often it starts with them being coerced, and in time its a matter of priorities and self loathing a training to hurt other women. So easily others family members and false friends are drawn in …we call them the flying monkeys…so eager to do their bidding.

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When we are in court we just imagine the women who have made it to the top, the Judges, the female lawyers and elected officials will recognize the need to adjust the sails, to address the injustice, the inequity and understand the subtle and not so subtle tactics in court intended to undermine the mother.  Making examples of Mothers who dare to report abuse while suppressing the witness statements of innocent children who will soon become property of the perpetrators is their duty. While it is true that courts recognize the unintended bias toward pro se litigants who are so often also women.  They do little to adjust their position to ensure that due process is served.  They do little to ensure safety.  So few court professionals have good training in DV and child-abuse and lack the first hand experience or empathy for other women or care or compassion for children.

These Characters in the farcical theatre called, ‘Family Court’, have shifted the Best Interest Standard to the Best Interest of the Father….Entitled men.  Helping to ensure patriarchal rule in the face of a feminist movement.  They are the same women who appose the ERA; who undermine equality, autonomy, equal pay and reproductive rights in this country.

Frankly, the money available and power and control these women crave is far too enticing to worry about things like morality or ethics.  ‘Women are harder on other women’, they are used as tools in the patriarchal system to keep other women in control.  Their loyalty is rewarded with higher pay and a sense of privilege that so few women have.  They get this power by crushing other women, they are taught to destroy the mothers without regard for the children.  They have no remorse or empathy.  We call them gatekeepers.  In the slave trade there were managers receiving more food or better quarters, in modern human trafficking their called the Bottom girl – A female appointed by the trafficker/pimp to supervise the others and report rule violations. Operating as his “right hand,” the Bottom may help instruct victims, collect money, book hotel rooms, post ads, or inflict punishments on other girls.  These women are giving them exactly what they want, ‘blame the mother’.Madeleine Albright a special place in hell

For these women we are going to hold a special place for them on our wall, in their honor.  We welcome you to send us your list of women who’s place in hell should be reserved –  Give us the State, and County Court House, the Judges Name, GAL, Minors Council, Therapist…. you can send their picture.

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Wouldn’t it be nice to see the Name of the Judge who damned you to hell going up in flames

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Maybe it deserves a special ritual of your own making, to recognize what they have done to you.  Send us their names.  Write them down,  and toss them in the fire.  They have taken so much from you and they really don’t deserve another minute of your time.  But  we want to document the crimes and warn other mothers.  We want to recall Judges and file Rico charges across the country and work towards disbarment. Nothing short of totally dismantling of the system will do and we will do it together.

Don’t forget send us your list, were not kidding (well it will be fun) its going on the Wall!

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Love wins : A protective Moms wisdom and perseverance

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Wisdom and perspective: A Protective Mothers Journey

“Well…I can honestly say that I’m one week closer to my kids finally coming home…

No! I do not mean this in the literal sense, as the American Family Courtroom seems to have a legal license to steal your kids. And if that is not punishment enough continue to subject you to cruel and unusual punishment for merely wanting to be a part of your own children’s live’s. Meanwhile, if you are fortunate, you may be able to escape if you pay your CS on time. Have myriads of extra cash to pay attorneys to ensure your freedom and your rights. But, there seems to be a catch. It never seems to end. And if that isn’t enough, your children end up damaged and you end up having to pay enormous psychological costs to ensure that you may be able to save your kids more anguish and pain along the way. And let’s not forget you. You will have to pick up all of your broken pieces and mold them back together again to make sense of your broken state. Then just maybe, you may get to be a small part of their life.

This is the life of a loving protective parent. A parent that would do anything in their power to stop all of this nonsense in the blink of an eye. Only, there are too many obstacles standing in the way. Justice can not be obtained at any cost. And to be frank, the cost seems to spiral with each battle. Emotionally, physically, financially and even tests your spirituality. One can only be left to wander why they ever believed in justice in the first place.

My friends, this is my world. I am not alone. I know many of you have preceded my journey. Some with happy endings after all, despite the pain and relentless, sleepless nights without your kids. I still hold on to hope and faith that the good we have done and still hope to achieve will out rule the evil doers. That despite our suffering, we have come together unified and stronger than ever. That in time all of our children will see the light and the truth will be unveiled.

Tonight, I felt I was one step closer to that day. And even though I have so greatly despaired along the way, I have learned that laughter and just enjoying and living in the moment is one more reason to carry on.

So we laughed so hard we almost cried. She said, I get my confidence from you, mom. And he said, I love you not once, not twice, but three times. And so I believe I am winning even when the stakes seem to be so low. I know that winning isn’t everything. Because, you have to lose once or twice, to know how good it feels to win. And sometimes, we are blinded into thinking winning is just one way. But, no two journey’s are the same. And winning is all in the eye of the beholder. And in my eyes, I have already won. Because love conquers it all. And this my friends is what it is all about.” 

Melonda Gary,

United States of America

This kind of wisdom and hard-earned perspective is like a nugget to be shared.  Our path as protective mothers is like a windy river, it will take many turns and there is no real road-map, it’s a white knuckle ride and a testament to how big a mother’s heart is.

Thank you mothers for sharing the ups and the downs, the sleepless nights, and the heartache. If we set our goal on the prize, being with our children, helping them to survive and thrive from this trauma, as good mothers do, then we have won. Winning the battles is such a small part, we want to win the war on women and children. Your victory big and small is Our victory too, and we are so grateful to your  voices and strength of character persevering through this darkness. Your children are so lucky to have you as their mother, as you are so fortunate to have the opportunity to encourage their resilience. Go Mama! Remember…Love Wins!

Mothers of Lost Children Melonda Gary and Linda Marie Sachs

Mothers of Lost Children Melonda Gary and Linda Marie Sachs see ‘Why I March’ by Linda Marie Sachs

“No one ever tells us to stop running away from fear…the advice we usually get is to sweeten it up, smooth it over, take a pill, or distract ourselves, but by all means make it go away. (5)”
― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heartfelt Advice for Hard Times

I am proud to know and work with true warriors, facing the fear, sitting with it, trying to understand it and from that pain, suffering and resolve – working towards peace for ourselves and our children’s sake. This courage is like the fireman who runs into the burning building. Women caught in this injustice: a struggle few have heard of or understand, their children held hostage.  These women are true warriors fighting a battle that they know from the onset they may not win but must persevere for the sake of humanity itself. Nothing worth fighting for has ever been easy. Don’t give up, love wins. Leave breadcrumbs so they know you love them this much. A nurtured childhood is worth fighting for.

Melonda Gary says, “That every moment shared with our children is worth more than fine treasure. This is a glimpse of my story in Family Court to encourage you to believe in today and never loose faith in what tomorrow may bring.”

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Mothers Erased: an Adult Child’s Memoir

I am worth fighting for

Reposting -A Message from Your Estranged Child

I am three years old.  You are no longer in our home and my world is shattered. I saw Daddy’s anger toward you and I will be careful not to make him angry at me too.

I am four years old and my visits with you are dwindling. Please do not give up your rights. Take what action you can, whatever action is right and necessary. Find those who can help you. Find those who will hold you up, because my world depends upon you not giving up. Do not believe Daddy when he says I am better off without you. I need you to know that is a lie.

I am five years old and you dare to show up on my birthday, to deliver a gift. I want you to know that I am so glad you are there, but I am afraid to say so. I see how agitated Daddy is by your presence. I want to tell you, beg you, to please keep coming back. But I cannot say what I need you to know.

My sister is angry at you and tells you not to come back. She says we have a new mother and we don’t need you anymore.   She doesn’t mean it. She will regret that moment in years to come. I will regret that you believed her.

I am eight years old. You have been erased from my life. My sister and I whisper about you in our bedroom at night, in the dark. We don’t dare speak your name, so we call you You-Know-Who. We remember you. Signs of you, a hidden photograph, a memory, they let us know you are real. They ignite something in me, too wounded to dwell in, but at the same time a place of truth and power that I will get to someday.

I am ten years old. If you somehow managed to contact me now, I would probably not respond. It would terrify me to respond.  But without a doubt, I would remember your efforts. I would know that you wanted me. I would know that you tried. This would make me want to find you again when I was ready.

I am fifteen. I don’t know who I am. I have been taught to deny the part of me that came from you. I am trying to fill the void where you were supposed to be. I think I can do this with boys, with teenage affairs, with affection from whoever will offer it to me. The void is deep and will need to be healed with truth, with love, with understanding. I don’t know this yet though, so I just keep trying to fill it with things that aren’t good for me.

I am sixteen. My sister and I sneak away to visit you. Of course we don’t tell our father. I am numb and my sister is still angry at you, questioning you. Where were you? Why did you have that affair that made our father throw you out? How dare you? Why didn’t you come looking for us later?

I am numb, mute, perhaps in shock at seeing you again. You cry and say you love us, have always loved us. I don’t fully take in your words. I am confused. If this is true, where have you been? I’m not sure if I can handle knowing how forcefully our father pushed you away. You don’t tell me this, not directly, and maybe that is good. Perhaps I am not prepared to face this yet and you instinctively know this. I need to hear you say that you want to stay in touch. My wounded teenage heart needs to be reminded of what I knew as a baby, as a toddler, as a three year old: that you love me. You’ve had obstacles, huge obstacles in the way, but I need to know that indifference was not one of them.

I am eighteen. I am free to contact you or visit you, but I am still very much afraid of displeasing my father. I need you to be strong and healthy and to remind me, somehow, that you are waiting. I have wandered so far from that place in my heart that holds us together. It will take patience and persistence on your part. I need to see that you love yourself, so that I can allow myself to love you too.

I am twenty-two. I will want to hear your story. I need to hear your story. And I will believe you. I am not sure what to do with this yet, how to let you into my life. I will have to figure this out. I am angry that you weren’t able to stand up to my father and therefore I was robbed of a mother. I am angry, so angry at my father but still afraid to tell him so, to face him with my truth. This will take time and clumsy attempts, but I will figure it out.

I am every age. I am four and twelve and fourteen and twenty-nine. I am every age in between. Pray for me and for our reconnection. If you don’t believe in prayer, then believe in the power of your own mind and heart. Know the power of your thoughts. Know that you can reach me and hold me in your mind’s eye. Find a way to rise above the negativity and the pain and let love sustain you. Believe that there is some purpose to this mess and that we will both be okay.

I will find my way back to you. It may be when I remember I am your daughter or it may be when I find that bigger part of me, the authentic self who is neither my father’s daughter nor my mother’s daughter, nor a victim; the Self that is whole and empowered and was never lost, never abandoned, never hurt. This could be a long, slow process, or it could happen in a moment, in a word I hear, in a prayer I feel, coming from you.

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Bella turns 5! Praying that she and her sisters will be returned before another Birthday.

Wishing you a Happy Birthday for Bella! Sending you love and hugs to our friend Jennifer, praying for the day that Bella comes home…Bella you are so loved, by friends and family, near and far, who will never stop until you are home safe, in the arms of your mother.

“Today was my daughter Bella’s 5th birthday. I love you and miss you baby girl. Everyday I pray you are safe and home soon.”  (Mama Jennifer)

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“Happy birthday Bella, I can’t believe another year has gone by without seeing you! I pray your day is amazing and we get to see you soon! Happy 5th birthday baby girl!”

“When we cleaned out Jennifer’s apartment in Canada I ran out of clothes for V so I borrowed Bella’s tutu. We thought Jennifer’s girls would be back in no time, little did we know years later another girl would be added to the family and ready to wear Bella’s tutu and she still hasn’t come home with her sisters”  Auntie

“Happy birthday Bella. We all love you and miss you. We can’t imagine how horrible it is for an innocent child to be ripped from the arms of their mother and forced to live with a cruel abuser. We pray for you and your sisters every day. We’ll never give up fighting for you girls.”  Help the Greens on facebook

During this Domestic Violence Divorce Jennifer went to the courts and domestic violence services for help.  This nightmare began in San Diego County under the supervision of Deanne Salcido who failed to protect Jennifer and her girls, she turned to Solano County that provided the support and protection she needed until 2012, when Judge Daniel Healy failed to follow the law and provided access to the father despite substantiated physical and sexual assault.

Jennifer’s children were removed from her and placed with the perpetrator and now Jennifer visits with her children in a monitored/supervised visitation center, we call the “kiddie jail” as so many other mother of lost children have faced after reporting abuse.   Jennifer tried to protect her children and has since become an advocate for court reform and  children’s rights.  Please, read Jennifer’s story and help her to ‘Visit Her Children”.

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“Yesterday was my youngest daughters birthday. She turned five. I miss my babies so much.
I’m running out of $ for my visits. I’ve asked to combine two visits in one weekend so I can pay 1/2 the travel. So far I haven’t gotten a response.
Love you girls!”  Mama Jennifer


My girls were illegally given to a known and documented child molester.   Please help me fight to bring them home.

Solano County Judge Gave Full Custody of 3 Little Girls to A Father Who Has A Documented and Substantiated History of Sexual And Physical Abuse Against the Children, Domestic Violence, As Well As An Untreated Methamphetamine Addiction

I no longer have an attorney.  All funds raised are going to paying for the cost of self-representation and my visits with my girls.  To follow this case and see what fundraising efforts you can help with, please go towww.facebook.com/HelpTheGreens or @HelptheGreens on twitter.

All children deserve to be safe.  Please help bring my girl’s home.

Please pray for my children to be safe and home soon.

Thank you,

Jennifer Green

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In 2009, I left my ex due to physical violence perpetrated against my children (two daughters ages 5 and 3, I was pregnant with my third) and myself. I had a restraining order against him until 10/2010. In 10/2010 my ex molested our middle daughter (4 at the time). Thereafter, my ex was only allowed supervised visitation with our daughters. In 9/2011, my ex stopped exercising his right to visit the children and he pled guilty to methamphetamine possession.

In 12/2010, Solano County Social Services substantiated the sexual abuse and found that our daughters were truthful about the abuse and that I had been fully cooperative and proactive in ensuring the health and safety of my girls. The Concord Police Department’s report, spanning 10/2010- 5/2011, outlines the investigation of the sexual and physical abuse perpetrated by my ex against our daughters.

In 2012, we got a new family law judge. In 4/2012, despite the substantiated abuse, this judge ordered unsupervised visits between my ex and our daughters. In May 2012 my ex physically abused our oldest daughter (7 at the time) and left visible injuries and marks on her. My oldest daughter also reported that my ex sexually abused her younger sister (only 2 years old at the time). I reported this abuse, and in response the judge ordered that I hand over custody of our daughters to my ex for an entire summer of unsupervised visitation.

Out of fear for the safety of our daughters, I refused to hand them over and was arrested. For trying to protect our daughters, I am now dealing with the criminal court system and my three little girls are with a father who has repeatedly sexually and physically abused them and has an untreated methamphetamine addiction.

As this judge refuses to protect my innocent girls, I have hired a family law attorney who specializes in these types of cases. The attorney has advised me that this will be a lengthy and expensive process. My goal is for my children to be safe; no child should be subjected to physical or sexual abuse. I am fundraising for attorney’s fees. To follow this case and see what fundraising efforts you can help with, please search for “Help the Greens” on Twitter and Facebook.


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Parenting Strategies That Work: Helping Children to Become Achieving and Caring People by Ricky Greenwald, PsyD

picrick.jpgDr. Ricky Greenwald is a practicing clinical psychologist who has been working with children, teens, adults, and families since 1985. He is the Trauma Institute & Child Trauma Institute‘s founder, executive director, and chair of faculty.

Dr. Greenwald is an affiliate full professor at the SUNY University at Buffalo School of Social Work, and was previously assistant clinical professor and director of training for the child trauma program at Mount Sinai School of Medicine (NYC), Department of Psychiatry. Prior to that he served as senior psychologist with the Mokihana Project (Kauai, HI), a successful demonstration project providing child/family mental health services through the public school system. He is a fellow of the American Psychological Association, Division 56 (Trauma). Special interests include assessment, treatment, and training re trauma, loss, performance enhancement, and problem behaviors.

January 28, 2015 at 12:45 PM

Perhaps Freud said it best over a century ago: a healthy person is able to work and love. This is pretty much what parents want for their children (along with simply surviving childhood): to grow up to be able to work and achieve, and to be caring, decent people. Fortunately, by now there is quite a bit of research on how to help our kids get there. Here are some of the key strategies that work.

1. To promote achievement, praise the effort/behavior, not the talent/result.

The problem with praising a child for being smart or for achieving a good outcome is that doing so can actually decrease the child’s motivation (Mueller & Dweck, 1998). A child who is praised for achieving good outcomes due to intelligence or talent may come to rely on “the easy A” and fail to develop good work habits or resilience in the face of frustration. And persistence will take you farther in life than intelligence alone (Duckworth & Gross, 2014). It’s better to praise the child’s efforts, whether or not success was achieved in a given instance. So “Wow, you really hung in there!” is more effective than, “Great job!” This reinforces the effort and persistence that not only leads to easy achievements, but also to more difficult ones.

2. To promote ethical/caring behavior, praise the child’s (related) quality, not the behavior.

On the other hand, praising a positive/caring behavior is actually not the most effective way to reinforce the behavior. It’s more effective to suggest that the child is a certain type of person (associated with the behavior). This encourages the child to self-identify as that type of person, making the behavior more likely (e.g., Grusec & Redler, 1980). In other words, saying “Thank you for helping,” is not as effective as saying, “You’re such a good helper!”

It works the same way for discouraging negative behaviors. For example, “Don’t cheat” is not as effective as “Don’t be a cheater” (Bryan, Adams, & Monin, 2013). Again, playing to the child’s self-concept is more powerful than focusing directly on the behavior.

3. To discourage negative/harmful behaviors, inspire guilt, not shame.

The difference between guilt and shame is big and important (Tangney, 1995). A child who feels shame believes s/he is a bad person, and reacts by avoiding and shutting down. Shame is destructive. A child who feels guilt, on the other hand, believes s/he is a good person who has done wrong. Guilt also feels bad, but at least it has the potential to activate the child to try to do better.

Shame can be inspired by telling the child s/he is bad, by saying that the child “always” or “never” does [the behavior], by comparing the child unfavorably to some other “good” child, threatening, withdrawing love, or by yelling (Eisenberg, 2000). Guilt can be inspired by expressing disappointment in the child’s behavior, which implies an expectation of better; parents can also explain how the problem behavior affected others, and how the situation can be rectified (Eisenberg, 2000; Shaffer, 2008). So “You never pay attention!” is shame-inducing and destructive, whereas, “I was really counting on you to be more careful” is guilt-inducing and constructive.

4. Use rewards (if necessary) to create a new behavior, and praise to maintain it.

In general, it’s best to avoid the use of rewards for specific behaviors; the risk is that the child will only do the behaviors when the rewards are provided, and not otherwise (e.g., Warneken & Tomasello, 2008). Praise does not carry that risk, and is still reinforcing, so praise is the safer strategy.

It’s still okay to use incentives on occasion, particularly to help the child to try extra-hard for a brief period, to acquire a new skill or habit. For example, many parents will provide rewards during toilet training. However, using incentives well, and avoiding the pitfalls, can be tricky (Greenwald, 2005), so it’s safest to only use incentives on a short-term basis to help a child get “over the hump” to a new type of habit or behavior.

5. Set a good example.

While parental example alone is not sufficient to raise children who know how to work and to love, it is still essential. Remember, children are more likely to do what you do than what you say they should do (e.g., Bleakley, Jordan, & Hennessy, 2013; Rushton, 1975). This is one reason why yelling at a child to quiet down teaches the child to be noisy; and spanking a child as a punishment for aggression actually fosters aggression (another reason is that yelling or spanking induce shame). Similarly, the admonishment to be kind may not teach kindness, whereas the parent’s example of kindness will do so.

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Victims of PAS Syndrome Fraud in Courts

“Miranda Grace was taken, November 28, 2011, from her Mother, and her home, and friends, schoolmates, neighbors, so abruptly she never even got to say goodbye. She never even finished wrapping the Christmas presents she worked so hard to purchase and had been keeping so secretive. They lay half-hidden near the foot of her bed along with strings of ribbon and scatterings of bows, and wrapping paper, along with a pair of school scissors, tape, and all manner of artsy supplies that she kept stockpiled in her newly decorated Jungle-Themed room. Miranda just simply left one morning and never came back.”



Another Tragedy Created by ‘Father Friendly’ Family Courts in America

Mothers Without Custody World Posted this week on their facebook page this tragic story of a young girl taking her own life, as she experienced the traumatic effects of Family Court Judgements that fail our children.  Everyday in America children are being destroyed by ‘father friendly’ orders that fail to provide adequate care for children.  The criminal enterprise of court professionals who are cashing in on Unconstitutional Federal Programs, that give unequal access to funding to provide reunification for fathers with ‘their children’, are destroying the fabric of our Nation and creating a Motherless America.  We have cried a thousand tears for this yound girl and so many more kids, how many more lives will be lost, and senseless deaths before our legislators, our President and the Media take notice, that Children need their Mothers.  58,000 Children a year are taken from fit loving mothers with tragic results.
I have some horrific news to share. Yesterday, I learned about a 13 year old girl who took her own life. I know her family.. Look at this beautiful girl. Look at those eyes… She was involved in extracurricular activies at her middle school as a Cheerleader and Goal Keeper for the Co-Ed Soccer Team. She was also active in Gymnastics and was a member of the Competition Cheerleading Team. What would prompt a beautiful girl with her whole life ahead of her to take her own life? Why was she so tortured?

I’ll tell you why… Her father (a police officer) managed to gain full custody of her (and her brother) and he completely cut her mother out of her life. This precious girl was deprived of her own mother like my children and so many other children have been. Janie McQueen wrote a blog post a while back called “A Nation of Motherless Children” where she asked the question “Do you know the spiritual Sometimes I Feel Like a Motherless Child? All these sad, one-winner cases make me wonder if we’re heading toward a nation of motherless children.”
http://janiemcqueen.com/a-nation-of-motherless-children/Not long after I read this post, Janie and I teamed up and decided to use our knowledge of the inner workings of the corrupt family court system and our writing talents to do -to create- something that would make a difference. Something that would give a voice to those who are harmed the most – the children. After working on numerous blog posts together, we began working on The Motherless Child Project which was released just before Christmas 2014. This book is only the first in a series. Sadly, our nation is truly becoming a nation of motherless children more and more with each passing day. While mothers have some small voice, children have no voice. Ember -our book’s main character is a much needed voice for all the motherless children. You can read more about The Motherless Child Project at www.themotherlesschildproject.comDepriving children of a relationship with their own mother is completely traumatic. It’s known that childhood trauma is linked to many adverse and long-term health and social consequences. The more traumatic events a child experiences, the more tragic the consequences will be. You can read more about how childhood trauma negatively impacts a child’s life here http://acestudy.org/ What’s makes the results of the ACE Study even more troubling is the fact that this nation’s family court judges (those charged with upholding the law of the land), family court lawyers, GAL’s (lawyer who are charged with representing the best interest of the child), court appointed social workers and psychologists intentionally place children in dangerous, abusive, traumatic situations.

To get a glimpse of what a “motherless” child endures -feels-, read “When a Mother Disappears: The Words from a Stolen Child” http://mothersoflostchildren.org/2015/01/when-a-mother-disappears-the-words-from-a-stolen-child/ Following is a heart-wrenching excerpt “I grew up thinking this could not have happened to anyone else. No one else’s mother disappears, which had made me feel deeply ashamed, though I hadn’t named that; I had just felt it somewhere beneath the surface of my heart, because children always assume it is their fault when a parent leaves. I had known my father had something to do with it though. And perhaps my mother had done something bad, something that made him furious. I knew it wasn’t only my fault.”


Of course, trauma impacts the mothers of “lost” children experiencing trauma they can’t do anything about. Losing a child “through life” is the most horrific way to lose a child. Until a couple of decades ago, nobody had ever lost a child in this way– at least not in mass numbers. And, children didn’t go missing “legally”.


No mother should ever have to lose a child through life. It’s not normal. It’s not natural. There is no closure. There is no end to the gut wrenching pain. The wound does not ever heal. In fact, it never even forms a scab toward healing. It remains perpetually open… The taking of living children from living mothers is something so terrible, so evil, that there is no way to really describe such a loss. I wrote a poem about losing a child through life here http://motherswithoutcustodyworld.com/to_lose_a_child_through_life The mother of this 13 year old lost a child through life and then through death too. I don’t know how to even begin to describe that kind of loss…


If your heart is not already broken for the mother of this beautiful young girl who took her life, it will be after I tell you what happened the day before she took her life. This child wanted desperately to see her mom again, so she called her using a friend’s cell phone and asked if she’d meet her somewhere (on the sly of course since her father would never allow her to be with her mother at all). They met and were able to finally spend some time together. This mother and her family thought their prayers had been answered. How could they know what would happen next? This young girl took her own life the very next day. Can you imagine how her mother must have felt? Can you imagine how this precious child must have felt just before she pulled the trigger that ended her life? There is nothing in this life more horrific -more traumatic- than forcing a child to live with no contact with their own mother.


If there were any doubts about how cruel this father was before his child took her life, there are no doubts now. He buried this baby girl (and “baby” is what I call a 13 year old) without allowing her own mother -the women who carried her and gave birth to her and cared for her until she “lost” custody of her- to come to the funeral or burial. He even left her mother out of the obituary as if she didn’t exist. If evil has a face, it’s the face of this dead child’s father.


This story -this suicide- has hit me really, really hard. I’m also thinking of other mothers I’ve met who have lost their children to abusive fathers and then suicide – mothers like Maria Bauer Melinn. Maria’s son Michael took his life in the same way… I wonder how many children commit suicide because of being deprived of their mothers. God never intended for the sacred bond between mother and child to be broken. Laura was only eleven months old and Matthew was only twenty-three months old when they were taken from me in November 1998. I do not know my own children. And they do not know their own mother. They have grown up entirely motherless. There are hundreds of thousands of motherless children in the United States (and beyond) who have loving mothers, but are not allowed to see them or even know them in many cases.


Moms, its past time to get serious about stopping this intentional maternal deprivation. How many children have to die? Every single day, we read and hear stories about a father who has killed his own children to spite the mother and we hear stores about children committing suicide to escape a motherless existence. Please, let’s all work together to stop this. Speak out loudly about the racketeering going on in the family court system. http://motherswithoutcustodyworld.com/family_court_a_criminal_enterprise


Let’s consider doing something radical in every state and all at once in order to get attention on this national crisis. For instance, what if we blocked every main highway in every city possible and in every state possible at the same time? The national media would be forced to report what’s going on in family courts – about all the motherless children. Looking for some radical ideas here…


Most important of all though, let’s continually pray for our children to be delivered from evil.

Robin Karr and her ‘missing son’

Govt services Connecting Fathers to ‘Their Children’

Good Mothers are losing custody at unprecedented numbers to dangerous men.
  • Without Equal Rights in the United States, and equity in the courts, Women come to discover that while divorcing they do not have rights. Did you know that there are Billions of dollars to reunify fathers with children. Not just the ex-felons and indigent but the wealthy ones too.  Phyllis Chesler began writing about this phenomenon of the ‘Good enough mother losing custody’ – Mothers on Trial   more than 30 years ago.  In Domestic Violence Divorces fathers win custody 70% of the time if there is evidence of battery and sexual assault of the children it is reported that these dangerous fathers get custody 85% of the time.  We must follow the money when systems appear to fail victims of abuse so frequently.  This is what we have found; Our Tax payer money at work through HHS Fatherhood.gov.…check it out there is no Motherhood.gov! With pecuniary interest of court professionals, fathers are awarded custody over the mother who gave birth and the primary attached parent to the child.  Often the victim of crime mothers are punished for reporting abuse.   The court continues to prioritize fathers’ rights over mothers’ and childrens’ right to a nurtured childhood and their safety.

We now have the evidence to point to the gender bias in Federal policies and funding as a culprit in this dangerous trend toward a Motherless America.
Your tax dollars at work in the war against women and children, or rather a war to keep women as slaves to men in this country, a patriarchal philosophy maintained through public policies.  Health and Human Services has no duplicate programs for women to retain custody and protect their constitutional rights, and provide protection for themselves and their children.

Is family court really a “kids for cash” business?

An estimated 58,000 children a year are court-ordered for custody or unsupervised visitation with reported abusers. That means in many cases, children are being ordered to live with their rapists. Child custody courts are generating approximately $50 billion dollars a year from the business of exploiting families in crisis and putting children in direct harm’s way. Adverse childhood experiences are the most basic cause of health risk behaviors, morbidity, disability, mortality, and health care costs. In fact, it costs taxpayers $500 billion dollars a year in health care related costs due to adverse childhood experiences. SURGEON GENERAL’S WARNING: FAMILY COURT IS BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH- by Patrice Lenowitz, co-founder of Children’s Justice Campaign.  

Records show that in 2002, a Washington based demonstration project overseen by Pearson used the OCSE funds to help Beltway Sniper John Muhammad sue his ex wife for custody. Mildred had only recently located her children after John kidnapped them, moved into a shelter, and enrolled them in school under fake names. When Mildred took the children into hiding, John embarked on a cross-country shooting spree that left 9 people dead.

In Connecticut, the court’s AV program grants are partnered with Fatherhood programs and overseen by Task Force member Joseph DiTunno, who is a manager in the Court Support Services Division. The funding is used to sponsor the court’s mediation programs, supervised visitation, and court operations.

At last week’s hearing, several mothers testified that judges often awarded sole custody of their children to violent criminals, then ordered fit mothers with no history of abusing or neglecting their children to purchase parenting time from supervised visitation centers. They say the courts refused to allow them to utilize the federally subsidized services, essentially starving them out of their parenting rights.

In 2010, the Judicial Branch signed a multi-agency agreement between the Judicial Branch, the Department of Corrections, Department of Parole and other agencies which requires signatories to use State resources to promote the Responsible Fatherhood industry, or rather, to deliberately discriminate against parents on the basis of gender in various government services affecting the outcome of custody cases. DiTunno is listed on the agreement as the CSSD contact liaison.  Read more at http://www.commdiginews.com/life/dying-for-custody-part-1-doj-announces-investigation-into-connecticut-court-programs-4659/#hx0WR79ysmY1vrHG.99

-It’s time to demand Justice – Join us in asking- 

Photo: Without Equal Rights in the United States, and inequity in the courts, Women come to discover that while Divorcing men, they do not have rights.  Did you know that there are Billions of dollars to reunify fathers with children.  Not just the ex-felons and indigent but the wealthy too.  In Domestic Violence Divorces fathers win custody 70% of the time if there is evidence of battery and sexual assault of the children it is reported that these dangerous fathers get custody 85% of the time.  Tax payers money at work through Fatherhood.gov.
Please share: Are you a Protective Mother who lost custody? We’re amazed at how many moms don’t even know about this Congressional Report. If only they would open this document and read it they would see that this is the “Money Monster” that has caused most of us to lose our children. It was even predicted! Even good fathers think this is wrong! Here’s a quote from one, ” Almost like providing ammunition to one side in a war? https://drive.google.com/…/0BxcYTNKpvnmpQUY0TGx3NHFfMlk/view

Fatherhood Initiatives: Connecting Fathers to ‘Their Children’

MUST we continue to provide a “pattern” of corruption and biases? Listen to this video of how children are being treated by DCF all across our country even when there’s a long history and evidence of abuse they STILL advocate for abusive fathers.     https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=918382721536045&l=3180422295635333175
If you are interested in being part of a Federal Class Action Title IX Law Suit in an effort to reunite good mothers with their children who have turned to the courts for help and have evidence of abuse, only to have their child removed from their care and placed with the abuser then please fill this questionnaire out the best you can, leaving any children’s names out, then return to:  mothersrightsinternational@gmail.com

How Many Children Are Court -Ordered Into Unsupervised Contact With an Abusive Parent After Divorce?

Contact: Joyanna Silberg, PhD, Executive Vice President
tel: (410) 938-4974 or email Joyanna Silberg

Bala Cynwyd, Pa.

According to a conservative estimate by experts at the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence (LC), more than 58,000 children a year are ordered into unsupervised contact with physically or sexually abusive parents following divorce in the United States. This is over twice the yearly rate of new cases of childhood cancer.

Experts at the LC consider the crisis in our family courts to constitute a public health crisis. Once placed with an abusive parent or forced to visit, children will continue to be exposed to parental violence and abuse until they reach 18. Thus, we estimate that half a million children will be affected in the US at any point of time. Many of these children will suffer physical and psychological damage which may take a lifetime to heal. The Leadership Council urges citizens to work with legislators and agencies in their communities to examine this problem, review state agency policies and procedures, and develop legislative and policy solutions that help ensure safety from violence for children following divorce.

How We Obtained This Estimate:

No one knows the exact number of children who are left in the unprotected care of an abusive parent following their parents’ divorce. The Leadership Council has studied the problem and using the best available research has attempted to come up with a conservative estimate of the problem. We estimate that each year, 58,500 minor children are placed at risk for injury because the courts ordered them into the unsupervised care of a violent parent.

The estimate is meant to be conservative and was obtained using the figures in the following table. The research that we used to obtain these figures is explained in more depth in the following section. To read more – http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/med/PR3.html

Mothers Support Damon’s Law: Protection for Children in Custody Cases in CA

Update:  Although Damon’s law was unable to get an Author for this legislative cycle alot of foundational work was achieved for Legislative Language seehttps://drive.google.com/file/d/0B_OOiYDH3UFAbkVPR1V1Q2hhUE0/view

Introduce Damon’s Law 2015!

Mothers of Lost Children Urges the State Senators to Sign Damon’s Law Petition to Protect Kids from Sexual Abuse!

Hollywood Actress Nancy Lee Grahn Supports Damon’s Law!

Senators Hannah Beth Jackson, Holly Mitchell and Jim Beall will be heroes if they co-author Damon’s Law, as it will protect thousands of kids from sexual abuse and thousands of mothers from the pain of losing their children to child molesters.

The deadline to introduce bills is February 27th so sign today!

Damon’s Law gets sexual abuse cases out of family court and into criminal court where serious crimes belong. Presently, cases are being heard in family courts because the burden of proof in criminal court is too high. The nature of sexual abuse cases is to not have enough evidence for “beyond a reasonable doubt” because there are never witnesses and rarely indisputable physical evidence.

Family Court judges are routinely disregarding strong evidence of abuse and ordering children into the custody of their abusers. Mothers are being punished with loss of custody, sanctions, jail, and financial devastation, simply because they are doing what society and their own instincts prompt them to do: protect their precious children. Women and children’s lives are being destroyed as we speak.

Protective Mothers and their Abused Children Are Being Destroyed in Epidemic Proportions!

Damon’s Law solves the problem by allowing the jury the option of the lower, civil burden of proof. If only preponderance of evidence is met, the perpetrator will not be convicted but the child will still be protected. It’s a win-win for everybody (except the perpetrator)!

Sign Damon’s Law Petition Now to Protect Kids from Sexual Abuse!

Click here to sign – https://www.change.org/p/senator-hannah-beth-jackson-introduce-damon-s-law-2015

Damon’s Law

Video of Damon Speaking about Damon’s Law:

All reports of suspected child sexual assault by a parent as defined by Penal Code 11165.1 shall be immediately submitted to law enforcement for investigation by a multidisciplinary team. All collateral investigations shall be stayed pending final determination of the criminal matter. A no-contact order shall issue upon filing and shall forbid all contact between the child and the accused parent pending final determination of the criminal matter.All cases shall be submitted to the District Attorney. Priority shall be accorded the criminal matter in that the criminal case will proceed first and expeditiously and all related non-criminal matters shall be stayed pending final determination of the criminal matter. If the criminal matter proceeds to trial, whether by judge or jury, the fact-finder shall first determine whether the charges have been proved beyond a reasonable doubt. If a determination is made that none of the charges have been so proved, there shall be no criminal conviction.The fact-finder shall additionally make a civil finding as to whether the charges have been proved by a preponderance of the evidence. If the charges are proved either beyond a reasonable doubt or by a preponderance of the evidence, a long-term no-contact order shall issue forbidding all contact between the child and the offending parent until the child reaches majority. A minimum condition for a plea deal is a no contact order issued until the age of majority.This order shall not be modified by any other court in any related or collateral legal proceeding.

[Wendy Murphy, J.D., former sex crimes prosecutor, CNN/Fox legal analyst and law professor helped draft this legislation]   http://www.safekidsinternational.org/damons-law.html


Have you seen http://www.myfoxla.com/story/19502814/damons-story-a-first-look 

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Exploited Children Know their Perpetrators

Whats done to society they will do to children

When Amy speaks out -

Editor’s Note: This article contains graphic content about child pornography and child sexual abuse. 

“I am a 19 year old girl and I am a victim of child sex abuse and child pornography.”

So begins the powerful “Statement by Amy,” read in a packed court of law in front of the child’s uncle, a man she was trying to prevent being released from prison.

“I am still discovering all the ways that the abuse and exploitation I suffer has hurt me, has set my life on the wrong course, and destroyed the normal childhood, teenage years, and early adulthood that everyone deserves.”

One of the rare victims of child pornography to publicly speak out against her abuser, “Amy”—as she asked to be called to protect her privacy—was a victim depicted in a collection of sexual abuse images and videos shot by her uncle.

The collection, featuring Amy in various ages of development, begins with sexually explicit images and videos of a four-year-old Amy, and ends with Amy as a nine-year-old 3rd grader. Images of Amy’s abuse are widely viewed and distributed on the Internet.

The problem of online child pornography is one not easily understood or acknowledged. From our work here at the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, we have come to learn much about child sexual abuse.

We know most victims are abused by someone they know. Like Amy’s uncle, they are a trusted family member or friend who has legitimate access to the child.

Of the cases we intake, about half of victims are girls (57 percent) and half are boys (43 percent). Seventy-six percent, like Amy, are victims of child pornography before they hit puberty. Of this number, 10 percent are infants or toddlers.image




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“When I was little, they didn’t protect me. I was scared. Then I got mad. Now I’m a Protector.” -