A National Scandal: American Mothers March to Defend Motherhood and Children’s Human Rights

Mothers of Lost Children first marched in May 2010, from the U.S. Capitol to the White House in Washington DC to protest children being taken from safe mothers and given to battering or sexually abusive fathers through family courts.  This governmental cover up is similar to Penn State and the Catholic Church cover-ups. Mother’s return each year to bring our message to our President, Congress and the Department of Justice Demanding Equal Rights for Women and Protection in Courts across America for whistle blowers who have the right to Defend Childhood.  Mothers are bringing attention to child trafficking in the Courts, and  States Judges who fail to Protect.  Help us send a mother from each state to represent the rights of mothers and abused children. Help us by contacting you Representative in demanding a Federal Oversight Hearing on Child Abuse in America and protecting the safety of all children in Custody cases.  Help us defend childhood.


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Is family court really a “kids for cash” business?

An estimated 58,000 children a year are court-ordered for custody or unsupervised visitation with reported abusers. That means in many cases, children are being ordered to live with their rapists. Child custody courts are generating approximately $50 billion dollars a year from the business of exploiting families in crisis and putting children in direct harm’s way. Adverse childhood experiences are the most basic cause of health risk behaviors, morbidity, disability, mortality, and health care costs. In fact, it costs taxpayers $500 billion dollars a year in health care related costs due to adverse childhood experiences. SURGEON GENERAL’S WARNING: FAMILY COURT IS BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH- by Patrice Lenowitz, co-founder of Children’s Justice Campaign.  

-Its time to demand Justice – Join us in asking-

Realizing the Promise of Human Rights for Women

Torture and Domestic Violence


“The movement is a sort of mosaic. Each of us puts in one little stone,
and then you get a great mosaic at the end.”

Alice Paul (1885-1977)

The Equal Rights Amendment is not yet in the U.S. Constitution.

The ERA, affirming the equal application of the Constitution to all persons regardless of their sex, was written in 1923 by Alice Paul, suffragist leader and founder of the National Woman’s Party. After women’s right to vote was guaranteed by the 19th Amendment in 1920, she proposed the ERA as the next step in confirming “equal justice under law” for all citizens.

The ERA was introduced into every Congress between 1923 and 1972, when it was passed and sent to the states for ratification. The original seven-year time limit in the ERA’s proposing clause was extended by Congress to June 30, 1982, but at that deadline, the ERA had been ratified by 35 states, three states short of the 38 required to put it into the Constitution.

This Constitutional Amendment providing equal protection under the law for Women in the USA known as the 19th Amendment , 15 states have not passed the Equal Rights Amendment.  Without the ERA in the Constitution, the statutes and case law that have produced major advances in women’s rights since the middle of the last century are vulnerable to being ignored, weakened, or reversed. By a simple majority, Congress can amend or repeal anti-discrimination laws, the Administration can negligently enforce such laws, and the Supreme Court can use the intermediate standard of review to permit certain regressive forms of sex discrimination.

Ratification of the ERA would also improve the United States’ global credibility in the area of sex discrimination. Many other countries have in their governing documents, however imperfectly implemented, an affirmation of legal equality of the sexes. Ironically, some of those constitutions – in Japan and Afghanistan, for example – were written under the direction of the United States government.

The ERA is necessary to make our own Constitution conform with the promise engraved over the entrance to the Supreme Court – “Equal Justice Under Law.”

The most recent activity in regard to the ERA was made on behalf of Meryl Streep who sent all 535 members of Congress a letter urging them to bring back the Equal Rights Amendment in order to finally ratify it into the Constitution.


“The ERA is not just a women’s rights issue—it will have a meaningful benefit for the whole human family,” she added.

Congress passed the Equal Rights Amendment back in 1972 and thirty-five states ratified it but that was three ratifications short of the constitutional requirement.

Streep, who will be starring as British suffragette leader Emmeline Pankhurst this October, has long been a vocal advocate for women’s rights and has also spoken out against rampant ageism against women in Hollywood. During Patricia Arquette’simpassioned acceptance speech at this year’s Oscars, Streep was seen cheering enthusiastically in support of Arquette’s call for gender equality.

In her letter on Tuesday, the Oscar-winning actress called on Congress to revive the issue for a “whole new generation of women and girls are talking about equality—equal pay, equal protection from sexual assault, equal rights.”


Each packet includes a copy of Equal Means Equal, a book by Jessica Neuwirth, president of the ERA Coalition, which campaigns to update the US constitution to include the amendment prohibiting discrimination against women and girls under the law.

In the international arena to date: After 35 years the United States has still failed to ratified the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW), the world’s primary document on women’s equality. While a number of countries have signed  CEDAW with a number of reservations, including most Arab states who have specified that they only agree to CEDAW to the extent that it doesn’t clash with Sharia law, the only other countries not to have ratified are Somalia, South Sudan, Sudan, Iran and the two South Pacific islands of Palau and Tonga.  The convention was opened 1980  https://treaties.un.org/pages/viewdetails.aspx?src=treaty&mtdsg_no=iv-8&chapter=4&lang=en

In addition and shocking to report, the USA has failed to sign the US treaty on Children’s Rights


Why is it that the USA has joined the ranks of Saudi Arabia and Somalia as they dig their patriarchal heels in the sand – http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/post-partisan/wp/2014/11/21/why-wont-the-u-s-ratify-the-u-n-s-child-rights-treaty/


The following report by ‘On the Issue’ from Martha Burke-

Over the last decade and a half, this perspective has made slow, but sure, progress in the international arena through the efforts of many women. In the last year, the UN Committee Against Torture, which monitors and interprets the Convention Against Torture and Other Cruel, Inhuman or Degrading Treatment or Punishment and the UN Special Rapporteur on Torture –critical international authorities–have both recognized that domestic violence can be torture where it meets the international definition discussed below. These developments add to previous statements by the UN Human Rights Committee and the Special Rapporteurs on Violence Against Women. This progress is due to the work of feminist experts in and outside the UN and the demands of the global women’s human rights movement.

Torture is not limited to water boarding, as the current U.S. debate makes it seem; nor does it require any special equipment. The most common physical methods of both torture and domestic violence are beating, burning, tying up, choking, threatened asphyxiation (the goal of water-boarding), pulling out nails, stripping naked, mutilating, inflicting rape and other sexual assault, and threatening to kill or attack the victim’s children. Psychological torture includes subjecting the victim through threats and intermittent violence to persistent fear, sleep deprivation, humiliation and insult, particularly of a sexualized character. Torture involves cycles of oppression and release, and good cop/bad cop roles designed to fool people into trust. Battering, too, involves intermittent periods of wooing the victim, weeping and seeking forgiveness.

The pain and suffering inflicted is likewise severe. Battering too frequently results in femicide and, by comparison to official torture, women die in much greater numbers as result of intimate assaults, as described in the In-depth Study on All Forms of Violence Against Women by the UN Secretary General. Recent statistics from New York indicate that intimate violence is still the first cause of homicide against women.

Like prisoners, battered women suffer the pain and terror of attack, as well as the physical consequences of bruises, broken bones, mutilation, organ failure, disability and, in some cases, infertility. Psychologically, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can be devastating and affects victims of torture, sexual violence and battering. Official torture may instill fear that one has said something that will reveal and harm another and often shatters one sense of security in the world. Domestic violence may be equally or more shattering psychologically. Judith Herman wrote in her classic 1997 study of trauma and recovery, that unlike the victim of official torture, battered women do not see the batterer as their enemy, and thus they must also unlearn love, trust and reliance.

Battering is intentional in the same way that torture is. It is not an accident that a partner, usually a woman, is targeted for battering. Battering, like torture, is a controlled and usually a very deliberate, patterned process. Torturers may feel authorized or required to harm, while batterers effectively decide to lose control in the intimate context (they didn’t beat up the co-worker or the boss). Both believe that violence is justified to achieve their aims in response to the resistance of the prisoner or the failures or “disobedience” of the battered woman or partner. There is also the dynamic of threat: torturers identify the prisoner as a threat to safety or something they believe in; likewise batterers’ often fragile identity as master is threatened by the merest assertion of independence.

The purposes of battering are co-extensive with those of torture. The battered woman or partner is usually isolated; jealousy reigns and the smallest error or independent action is cause for violence. Thus, the domestic interrogation: what did you do? where were you when I called? why is this dirt on the floor? But the recognized purposes of torture are broad. It’s not the information, but the submission of the victim that is at its core. Battering is often a form of punishment for petty or imagined “infractions” or “disobedience”—the coffee is cold; you’re ugly; you’re unfaithful.

Coercion, intimidation and humiliation– tools of subordination–are the common purposes of both torture and battering. And gender violence is, by definition, discriminatory.women in jail

-Take, for example, the tragic case in Castle Rock, Colorado of Jessica Gonzales whose three daughters were abducted contrary to a judicial order of protection and murdered by her husband. Ms. Gonzales repeatedly notified the police of the abduction and the mandatory protective order, but they dismissed her concern and refused to respond to the apparent danger. The U.S. Supreme Court ruled that she had no federal civil rights claim because the state had no responsibility to protect her from private violence under the U.S. Constitution. Ms. Gonzales’ claim is now pending before the Inter-American Commission on Human Rights.

This represents an extreme failure of the state to exercise due diligence. Many actions signal a violation by the state of its duty to prevent torture and protect its victims — if a battered woman or partner cannot access protection because the police don’t respond or because she can’t make herself understood, or she is subjected to ridicule, or the police side with her husband; if there is a failure to provide shelter or prosecute; or if the state provides no remedy for these failures.


Paternal Child Abuse

How can they know a healthy relationship
Dad, father, Papa, Pops, to children a good dad and a bad dad have the same influence and they love them unconditionally. The relationship between a father and child is vital to their development. What is also true is that the abuse at the hands of the father can adversely effect a child developing into adulthood.  The scars that a child takes into their adult years shapes the kind of woman, mother, wife, man, father and husband a child will become.  

Father’s Day is hopefully a time when the culture says, ‘This is our moment to look at who our men and boys are.’

Paternal Child Abuse includes the battery of the child’s mother, and deprivation of attention by taking a child from a mother as an act of revenge, power and control through custody proceedings after domestic violence divorces.  

When a child experiences a father abusing a mother it leaves lasting scars.  Domestic Violence has adverse effects on the child.  Child abuse and neglect cost our society, not only in terms of the trauma caused to the maltreated individuals, but also in economic terms.  “A child’s exposure to certain traumas, including domestic violence, sexual abuse, or being separated from a primary attachment parent, results in children suffering more illnesses and injuries as children, later as adults, and are expected to have a shortened life span.”Any one can be a father

In this article Fathers Who Hurt Their Children

The author explores the issue of Paternal Child Abuse and its many forms and impact on the development on the child-

Paternal Child Abuse can come in many forms:

Examples of Paternal Child Abuse:

Did your Father:

Discount your thoughts, opinions and contributions?
Perceive his wife/children as his personal property, to command as he wished?
Disrespect family members
Withhold affection?
Treat your mother as less than an equal partner?
Avoid participation in family /school functions?
Usually put work and his own interests ahead of those of the family?
Make promises, only to routinely disappoint?
Was he aggressive or abusive toward family members?
Need to be right / in control at all times?
Were you ever “disowned” by your father for disappointing him?
Shame you privately or in front of others?
Was he there for his family and friends when they needed him?
Embarrass you, humiliate you or ignore you?
Ever abuse you – psychologically, verbally, physically or sexually?
Blame his failures on others or make excuses for his bad behavior?

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Patrick Stewart: the legacy of domestic violence


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Myth — A father’s involvement is crucial for the well-being of a child.  

Fact: “While it would be a seemingly obvious proposition to most of us, that fathers’ consistent and substantial involvement in child care would benefit the child, this appears to have not been well established.  The relationship between paternal involvement and children’s well-being seems to be mediated by a number of other conditions that involve the father, the mother, and the child.  In other words, increased paternal involvement does not automatically result in improved child outcomes.  Nor is it clear whether the father’s involvement provides unique nurturance that can not be as readily provided by substitute caregivers.”

THE MEANING OF FATHERHOOD Koray Tanfer, Battelle Memorial Institute; Frank Mott, Ohio State University; Prepared for NICHD Workshop “Improving Data on Male Fertility and Family Formation” at the Urban Institute, Washington, D.C., January 16-17, 1997, http://aspe.os.dhhs.gov/fathers/cfsforum/apenc.htm


father-love-motherFrom the Presidential Task Force Report produced by the American Psychological Association, where it is cited fathers who batter frequently file for sole custody and often get it.

Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force On Violence And The Family
Tensions exist between children’s need for contact with their father and their need to be protected from the physical, sexual and psychological abuse that is common in families where there has been other forms of violence such as woman abuse.
Although most people believe that fathers should have equal access to their children after the termination of a relationship between the parents, the equal-access option is based on the assumption that the fathers will act in their children’s best interests. However, that is a naive assumption in situations where family violence has occurred.

Fathers who batter their children’s mothers can be expected to use abusive power and control techniques to control the children, too. In many of these families, prior to separation, the men were not actively involved in the raising of their children. To gain control after the marital separation, the fathers fight for the right to be involved.

Often children who have been exposed to violence in the family are frightened to confront their father’s negative or abusive behavior, and mothers cannot protect them. Sometimes the father tries to alienate the child from the mother by using money and other enticements, negative comments, or restricted access to the telephone during visitation with him. Other times, fathers may threaten or actually kidnap the child to punish the mother for leaving, or to try to force her to return.

– See more at: http://americanmotherspoliticalparty.org/ampp-article-library-family-court-custody-abuse-dv/5-family-criminal-law-and-research-abuse-dv-child-custody/40-abusive-fathers-are-more-likely-to-seek-sole-custody-in-child-custody-battles#sthash.8infBooR.dpuf

To be a good father and mother requires that the parents defer many of their own needs and desires in favor of the needs of their children. As a consequence of this sacrifice, conscientious parents develop a nobility of character and learn to put into practice the selfless truths

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Over the years the efforts of a very organized and well funded father rights campaign often referred to as Hate Groups, has managed to side track the truth around custody cases, claiming that fathers are treated unfairly.  While there are many unfair stories and good fathers feel the injustice of the broken system fathers who file for full custody receive custody 70% of the time over the primary attached good mother. What has become a trend in American society today is a sense of gender neutrality that puts the welfare of children at risk.

Phyliss Chesler says, that Good Enough mothers are losing custody to dangerous men by courts that favor fathers.  “Myths about the custody of children still abound. Most people still believe that the courts favor mothers over fathers, that fathers are discriminated against in the Family Courts because they are men- and that this is how it’s always been. Specifically, the myth that custody decisions invariably favour women needed to be challenged. It is contradicted by the history that I transcribed over the last quarter of a century (Chesler, 1986). In this paper, I compare and contrast my earlier work on custody (Chesler, 1986) with the history since then (Chesler, 2011) and consider whether anything has changed in regard to the significance of gender in custody determinations. I find that the central thesis of my previous work, namely that ‘good enough’ mothers are losing custody of their children on a massive scale, still holds. More ominously though, they are frequently losing custody to violent and abusive men.”

An estimated 58,000 children a year are court-ordered for custody or unsupervised visitation with reported abusers. That means in many cases, children are being ordered to live with their rapists. Child custody courts are generating approximately $50 billion dollars a year from the business of exploiting families in crisis and putting children in direct harm’s way. Adverse childhood experiences are the most basic cause of health risk behaviors, morbidity, disability, mortality, and health care costs. In fact, it costs taxpayers $500 billion dollars a year in health care related costs due to adverse childhood experiences. SURGEON GENERAL’S WARNING: FAMILY COURT IS BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH- by Patrice Lenowitz, co-founder of Children’s Justice Campaign.

This increased danger to children over the last 40 years is due to funding for reunification to fathers @fatherhood.gov.  These political campaigns endorsed through Government contracts, strong lobbying groups for father’s rights and 50 Billion dollars in male entitlement programs the loss of Maternal affection and the deprivation of Mother-Child Bond has increased.  Such programs fails to recognize the need to protect children from danger and ensure the parental rights of Mothers. These incentives have made life for safe non-offending mothers and children very dangerous since there is no equal funding to support the mother trying to seek safety.  

When Batterers are more likely to get custody than safe non-offending mothers there is something very wrong with the Judicial system and social service agencies.  “Fathers who battered the mother are twice as likely to seek sole custody of their children as are non-violent fathers.”~American Psychological Association~ American Psychological Association. (1996). Report of the APA Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family , Washington, D.C.

Contested custody cases/Domestic Violence Divorces – make up 15% of all divorce cases in the U.S. – are often mishandled, with the worst cases resulting in harmful outcomes for children of divorce.  Domestic Abuse effects everyone,  and child sexual abuse effects 1 in 4 children in America these kind of statistics can not be overlooked as they have grown to pandemic size.

Today, many court professionals have been mistrained to be highly skeptical of reports of domestic violence and child abuse in divorce cases. As a result, children are being taken from safe parents and forced by courts to live in the homes where they report being beaten and raped.

Research shows that when batterers request custody, 7 times out of 10 they receive it*. Even more alarming, research shows that when children report sexual abuse in custody cases, more than 9 out of 10 of them are placed in the partial or full custody of their identified perpetrators**.

“Forcibly taking a mother’s children, and then controlling her emotionally by withholding contact must be publicly recognized as one of the greatest forms of ‘mis-use’ of the American justice system and one of the greatest hidden vehicles for wide-spread socially approved physical and emotional abuse and control.”  Coral Anika Theill

The need for federal oversights and audits of these programs are crucial to implementing programs that are not discriminatory or gender bias.    Programs that implement non-violent parenting and insure the safety of children in all custody matters must become a priority, as the nurtured child has become an endangered species in the US.  Such improved programs that implements focused parenting, and community awareness of the prevalence of child abuse is essential to improving the State of our children lives in America.

There is a once held belief that if you want to improve the lives of children we must support mothers, after the report on Motherhood ranking the US just 31st in a list of the best and worst countries to be a mother in, down from 6 in 2006. Now, in 2015, we are even lower, having dropped to number 33.  It is quite clear – Improving the Lives of Mothers in America should be a top priority.  I want my motherhood.gov!

“The Children’s Justice Campaign reminds us of our sacred obligation as adults to raise ourselves into consciousness so that our children may thrive.” Dr. Shefali Tsabary
Clinical Psychologist and Award Winning Author, “The Conscious Parent”

“We need a campaign in the courts to develop and strengthen children’s human and constitutional rights so that our legal system consistently provides appropriate protection to those who cannot protect themselves.”   Wendy Murphy
Former prosecutor, lawyer, professor, author, Director, Women’s and Children’s Advocacy Project Center for Law and Social Responsibility New England Law|Boston

I’m Melanie Blow.

I was raped by my father when I was 13 years old and I’m still trying to bring him to justice. Will you help me?

Today my father is protected by New York’s laws called statutes of limitations. The police can do nothing about it and I know he molested other girls too. This is typical of rapists. When they don’t get arrested they get emboldened.

Will you help me stop him from molesting more children?

Help me change New York’s laws to be like states like Delaware and Minnesota?

Click here – https://www.causes.com/childvictimsactny

 Child Victims Act

http://www.commdiginews.com/author/jerome_elam/ –



http://cdv.org/ Children of Domestic Violence


Hero to the Haters – http://m.motherjones.com/politics/2015/01/warren-farrell-mens-rights-movement-feminism-misogyny-trolls










Prosecuted but Not Silenced Courtroom Reform for Sexually Abused Children by Maralee Mclean


A Mother’s Nightmare, Incest   by John E.B.Myers

Scared Silent– Mildred Muhammad

the Hostage Child Michelle Etlin and  Leora N. Rosen

*American Judges Association, Domestic Violence and the Court House: Understanding the Problem…Knowing the Victim, 2012

**Neustein & Goetting, Judicial Responses to the Protective Parent’s Complaint of Child Sexual Abuse, 1999

Can we bury this PAS thing already?

indy-masthead-smallDr Richard A. Gardner leaves a legacy of abuse-

58,000 Children a year are taken from safe loving mothers in the US each year and we have Richard Gardner to thank.

Child psychiatrist who developed the theory of Parental Alienation Syndrome is gone and so should this threat therapy…PAS which we consider a fraud upon the court. The purpose of hiring Richard Gardner to address these issues was to create a legal justification to sever maternal ties and create trauma bonding, insuring that the young witness will never disclose abuse again. While this theory was created as a criminal defense for fathers accused of sexual assault it is now widely used as the ‘go to’ defense by abusive and dangerous men in Domestic Violence Divorces to exert power and control over the family.  Such men make up the new ‘Dead Beat Dads’, who punish the mother by legally kidnapping the child through family court proceedings.   Their true intent is to forgo child support eventually collecting support from the outgoing primary attached mother who is victimized by a court system that rewards the bully and collects funds from fatherhood entitlement programs.  This fraud has been considered Junk Science by the American Psychological Association.

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Eileen King -Executive Director for Child Justice, former Regional Director for Justice for Children  writes “It should not hurt to be a child

Recently, on the issue of Parental Alienation Syndrome Ms. King stated- “Once again – if you are promoting PAS, you are sharpening the sword that cuts children out of the arms of loving, safe mothers. If you lost your children to an abuser, that is NOT “PAS” – it is abuse, coercive control, dv by proxy, coercive estrangement…”

RePosted from Child Justice, Org.  Executive Director Eileen King-

Richard Gardner’s Death Anniversary was May 25th.

This “threat therapy” was part of a much broader theory of Gardner’s known in family courts across the United States as “Parental Alienation Syndrome”. The theory – one of the most insidious pieces of junk science to be given credence by US courts in recent years – holds that any mother who accuses her spouse of abusing the children is lying more or less by definition. She tells these lies to “alienate” the children from their father, a shocking abrogation of parental responsibility for which she deserves to lose all custody rights in favor of the alleged abuser.

This is not only tawdry logic, guaranteed from the outset to protect the interests of divorcing fathers, by far Gardner’s most enthusiastic constituency, but it has also destroyed the lives of hundreds, maybe thousands, of American families over the past 15 years. In state after state, courts deferred to Gardner’s academic credentials and put children in the custody of their alleged abuser, even in cases where police records, medical records and testimony by teachers and social workers supported the mother’s accusations.


edit notes: What needs to be pointed out is these ‘perjured statements’/fraud in a court of law are never addressed.  The courts have been spoon fed this junk science – this false belief that mothers try to poison the child’s mind.  In these ‘Chattle Courts’ PAS is a legal justification for fathers to get custody if they want it – regardless of the safety of the child.  Mothers have no rights here, its our false belief that there is a possibility of winning in a court of law.  We do not have full and equal rights in the United States.  PAS is a legal tactic and it is diversionary – theatrical.  It’s a farce.  When mothers report abuse they lose custody.

The belief in PAS allows a Judge to ignore the disclosure of abuse. This suppression of evidence and witness tampering is intended to interfere with justice being served.  The child victims are forever silenced by placing in the care of the abusive party.  All evidence, even evidence collected in forensic examination that would prove the abuse is ignored or Judge refuses to admit into evidence.  These shenanigans in court were created to confuse the court and expect loyalty between court professionals and men that they say are being falsely accused, as Eileen king says, “I think it simply indicates the need for an effective defense for abusers…and we know they are legion.”  You would think that by using this claim of PAS that the court is recognizing that abuse occurred “this circular logic: An argument that commits the logical fallacy of assuming what it is attempting to prove.”  

What is most important to understand is that this theory is never used in court against men who alienate (which is the result of this fraud)- therefore it is a Gender Hate Crime it is not Gender Neutral.  its not happening to protective parents, ‘its a Mom thing.’  Men do not lose custody because they are saying “Bad things about the mother” they are not considered ‘unfriendly parents’ and it is not in the ‘Best interest of the child’ to take the child from a father. This is just another legal term that can be replaced by others as long as people look the other way as to the gender bias in courts and the underlying justification for enforcing covert chattle laws.

With such confusion about the use of PAS – Liz Library is a wonderful resource – http://www.thelizlibrary.org/liz/lizonpas.htm
MOLC note – We believe there is no merit in using the term as it is contributing to the damage of women and children by perpetuating a fraud in court. The reason to stop using the term, PAS as it was created as a criminal defense for dangerous fathers by a pedophile named Richard Gardner, funded by father rights lawyers. If you want the court to stop using this issue against mothers you have to stop using it yourself and aligning with abusive men. Yes, some women do alienate men from their children, it is not PAS it is hateful none the less and damaging. Our children may indeed have been taught to hate, he may have interfered with your relationship as all Mothers of Lost Children have experienced who’s children are experiencing Trauma Bonding and Maternal Deprivation – but mothers are feeding the beast.  If we keep supporting this fathers movement and don’t start working in the other direction to give mothers and children more power by eliminating it will continue to be used in court for evil men to get custody. Because you were alienated doesn’t mean it was’ pas’. We understand your pain and grief, and as you came to understand what is happening to you and were looking for support, you were coerced, unwittingly, into helping this well oiled political machine.  By joining abusive men who are  tricking grieving mothers into helping entrench a theory that is used solely in court against mothers created by the father rights movement.  Stop the madness, Stop calling it PAS.

A wonderful resource on this National Crisis and other Court crimes against mothers and their children-


For more information on this Fraud upon the court see:

Domestic Violence by Proxy

“It is likely that the mother has sexual problems… In many cases she herself was sexually molested as a child… She may never have achieved an orgasm — in spite of the fact that she was sexually molested. . .”



Parental Alienatin theory

Neither the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual or the World Health Organization Support Parental Alienation Syndrome

Stop Abuse Campaign’s FAQ: Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)

Background to Richard Gardner’s beliefs-


A quote from Waldren Pomeroy’s book. He was Kinsey’s associate and the first Dean of the degree-granting Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. Degrees are offered in Master of Human Sexuality, Master of Public Health in Human Sexuality, and Doctor of Human Sexuality, as well as Doctor of Education and Doctor of Philosophy degrees with a focus in sexology and erotology. They also offer professional certificates in: Associate in Sex Education, Clinical Sexology, Sexological Bodywork, Sexological Instructor/Advisor of AIDS/STI Prevention, Sex Coaching, Sexological Hypnotism, and Erotology Certificates. These experts then teach the US children at school


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“At the present time, the sexually abused child is generally considered to be the victim,” though the child may initiate sexual encounters by ‘seducing’ the adult.”
Gardner, Richard A., Child Custody Litigation (1986), p.93

Sexualizing children can have procreative purposes, because a sexualized child is more likely to reproduce at an earlier age. “The younger the survival machine at the time sexual urges appear, the longer will be the span of procreative capacity, and the greater the likelihood the individual will create more survival machines in the next generation.”
Gardner, Richard A., True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse (1992), pp.24-25

“It is of interest that of all the ancient peoples it may very well be that the Jews were the only ones who were punitive toward pedophiles.”
Ibid. pp.46-47

Many child advocates are “charlatans, and/or psychopaths, and/or incompetents.”
Ibid. p.526

“It is extremely important for therapists to appreciate that the child who has been genuinely abused may not need psychotherapeutic intervention.”
Ibid. p.535

“There is a whole continuum that must be considered here, from those children who were coerced and who gained no pleasure (and might even be considered to have been raped) to those who enjoyed immensely (with orgastic responses) the sexual activities.”
Ibid. p.548

“Older children may be helped to appreciate that sexual encounters between an adult and a child are not universally considered to be reprehensible act. The child might be told about other societies in which such behavior was and is considered normal. The child might be helped to appreciate the wisdom of Shakespeare’s Hamlet, who said, ‘Nothing’s either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.’ In such discussions the child has to be helped to appreciate that we have in our society an exaggeratedly punitive and moralistic attitude about adult-child sexual encounters.”
Ibid. p.549

“If the mother has reacted to the abuse in a hysterical fashion, or used it as an excuse for a campaign of denigration of the father, then the therapist does well to try and ‘sober her up’… Her hysterics… will contribute to the child’s feeling that a heinous crime has been committed and will thereby lessen the likelihood of any kind of rapproachment with the father. One has to do everything possible to help her put the ‘crime’ in proper perspective. She has to be helped to appreciate that in most societies in the history of the world, such behavior was ubiquitous, and this is still the case.”
Ibid. p.584-585

“Mothers who have been sexually abused as children may have residual anger toward her molesting father or other sexual molester, and this may be interfering with her relationship with her husband. This should be explored in depth, and she should be helped to reduce such residual anger… Perhaps she can be helped to appreciate that in the history of the world his behavior has probably been more common than the restrained behavior of those who do not sexually abuse their children.”
Ibid. p.585

“It is likely that the mother has sexual problems… In many cases she herself was sexually molested as a child… She may never have achieved an orgasm — in spite of the fact that she was sexually molested, in spite of the fact that she had many lovers, and in spite of the fact that she is now married. The therapist, then, does well to try to help her achieve such gratification. Verbal statements about the pleasures of orgastic response are not likely to prove very useful. One has to encourage experiences, under proper situations of relaxation, which will enable her to achieve the goal of orgastic response… Vibrators can be extremely useful in this regard, and one must try to overcome any inhibition she may have with regard to their use… her own diminished guilt over masturbation will make it easier for her to encourage the practice in her daughter, if this is warranted. And her increased sexuality may lessen the need for her husband to return to their daughter for sexual gratification.”
Ibid. pp.584-585

“If he [the molesting father] doesn’t know this already, he has to be helped to appreciate that pedophilia has been considered the norm by the vast majority of individuals in the history of the world. He has to be helped to appreciate that, even today, it is a widespread and accepted practice among literally billions of people. He has to appreciate that in our Western society especially, we take a very punitive and moralistic attitude toward such inclinations… He has had a certain amount of back [sic] luck with regard to the place and time he was born with regard to social attitudes toward pedophilia. However, these are not reasons to condemn himself.”
Ibid. pp.593

“Of relevance here is the belief by many of these therapists that a sexual encounter between an adult and a child — no matter how short, no matter how tender, loving, and non-painful — automatically and predictably _must_ be psychologically traumatic to the child… The determinant as to whether the experience will be traumatic is the social attitude toward these encounters.”
Ibid. pp.670-71

“I believe it is reasonable to say that at this time there are millions of people in the United States who are either directly accusing or supporting false sex-abuse accusations and/or are reacting in an extremely exaggerated fashion to situations in which _bona fide_ sex abuse has occurred.”
Ibid. p.688

Mandated reporting of child abuse has resulted in the “reporting of the most frivolous and absurd accusations by two- and three-year-olds, vengeful former wives, hysterical mothers of nursery school children, and severely disturbed women against their elderly fathers.”
Gardner, Richard A., Issues in Child Abuse Accusations, 5(1), p.26

“We need well-publicized civil lawsuits against incompetent and/or overzealous psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, child protection workers, ‘child advocates,’ police, and detectives whose ineptitude has promulgated a false accusation.”
Ibid. p.26



Shattering The Silence Tour




Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project

The FACSA Foundation (Family and Friends Fighting Against Child Sexual Assault) has been traveling the U.S.A. and Canada on a 115 city, Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project filming a documentary on survivors stories from across the nation, conducting research on how child sexual assault is affecting our local communities, and hosting free public education prevention conferences across the nation, on prevention of child sexual assault and human trafficking.

1) We are providing safer environments for children,
2) Changing the social stigma of child sexual assault, changing public policies, and
3) Have created a paradigm shift for Shattering The Silence of rape, child sexual assault, and human trafficking with The Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project.

You can help a child through the resources we provide, by providing this service for communities, parents, and grandparents to use, by changing public policies, and educating communities on prevention of child sexual assault, by teaching people the most effective tools and resources to heal from trauma, and how survivors can thrive, rather than merely exist. We can make a difference together!

A selection from the Mother of Lost Children/To the Moon and Back presentation to the MoM’s Museum is highlighted in the May Issue of the Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project, at http://joom.ag/xhLp (starting on page41)

to the moon shattered Mom by Karen Hen Ninger

For more information go to FACSAFoundation.org and Join the Tour!!! Help support the Tour, and share your stories.  Contact Connie Lee.


UN international day of family

International Day of Families

May 15, 2015 Observance

United Nations Department of Economic and Social Affairs Divisions for Social Policy and Development

Men in Charge?

Gender Equality and Children’s Rights in Contemporary Families

UN Secretary General Confirms: Family Courts Cause Violence by Maintaining Gender Inequality: “Discrimination Built into Family Law”

“[D]iscrimination against women and disregard for children’s rights remain built into family laws…Discrimination and neglect often lead to violence, threatening women’s and children’s health…[L]et us stand united for women’s and children’s rights in families.”
– UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon

United nations social policy


Fair legal frameworks to ensure gender equality and fulfil

children’s rights within families and beyond form basis of just

societies and are indispensable for the achievement of development goals.

Family laws govern family relations and seek to protect the

vulnerable family members, including women, children and older  2

persons. Fair family law frameworks are especially vital to ensure

gender equality and tackle various forms of violence in families.

Nevertheless, in some regions, discrimination against women,

often perpetuated at the family level, is built into legal frameworks

and government policies. Family laws may actually codify

discrimination against women and girls and place them in a

subordinate position to men in families, replicated at the community

and society level.

Men in Charge Un event

On this International Day, let us resolve to change legal and social norms that support male control over women, reinforce discrimination and prevent the elimination of violence against vulnerable family members. As we shape a new sustainable development agenda and strive for a world of dignity for all, let us stand united for women’s and children’s rights in families and societies at large.

From: “Men in Charge?”: Gender Equality and Children’s Rights in Contemporary Families



..[U]rgent family law reforms and policy initiatives are still needed to ensure better protection of women and children from various forms of violence and abuse.

Custody and inheritance laws, in particular, are in need of urgent reform.
…[N]ational family laws should comply with international standards and ensure the rights of all family members. Yet, “despite progress in reforming laws, discrimination against women in the law remains pervasive in several areas, particularly in the area of family law.”

…It is important to demonstrate how reforming discriminatory
family laws; challenging of social norms that support male control
over women and justify or condone violence against women or other vulnerable family members and eliminating violence against children and children’s exposure to various types of family violence may contribute to the achievement of sustainable development goals.

…As prevailing discriminatory attitudes and social norms permit
violence, strategies must also aim at changing such attitudes and
norms and a variety of interventions have to take place at family and community level.

Prevention is seen as the most cost effective strategy to
address different forms of violence in the family. Prevention of
violence in families would contribute to gender equality and better
outcomes for children, contributing to the achievement of
development goals.



Nelly never without my daughter

MY ADDRESS AT THE 11th international Battered Mothers Custody Conference in New Jersey :

Tonight again, like so many mothers on this planet, and like every night for a year or so, I am going to tuck my daughter into bed, kiss her tenderly and wish her “good night”. She is going to smile at me and I am going to see thousands of stars dancing in her eyes, little stars which will carry me away in an enchanted land. That land is the paradise of blessed mothers, the mothers who leave their children’s bedrooms every night, reassured that they can protect them. Those blessed mothers have no idea what a priviledge it is. Saying “good night” to Noluenn is a privilege for me considering the New York court decisions which gave custody to my ex despite his abusive personality. So tonight, again, when I close Noluenn’s bedroom door softly, I will think of one person particularly, the Rennes Appeals Court judge who saved my daughter’s life by refusing to order her return as the US State Department asked my country to do. This letter is written to that extraordinary Judge and also to the one who recently confirmed his decision by giving me sole custody, granting only 2 hours supervised visit to my ex every two weeks and placing his name on the list of Wanted People in Europe.

Your Honor, first of all, I would like to let you know about the child whose life you saved. Noluenn celebrated her tenth birthday two months ago and she is doing really well. I know you haven’t forgotten this exceptionally mature french-American girl who looked at you straight in the eyes and asserted firmly that nobody, not even you, would force her to return to her dad’s in the US, and that if you were to order her return, she would make sure she’d stay in France next to me by committing suicide. You probably don’t know this, but Noluenn had told her therapist a few days ago that if she wanted to die in France, it is because she wanted me to be able to visit her tomb, which I would not have been allowed to do in the US considering her father had obtained an arrest warrant against me.

The resilience capacities of a child who gets back into a stable and loving environment after being abused are incredible: I am not saying that sometimes Noluenn is not burdened by her feeling of shame or guilt but Noluenn’s suicidal ideation is well behind, I am stunned every day at what a different child she’s become: humor, laughter, lightness are part of her every day routine. Her dolls who used to be sad and mother deprived are happy and blossoming too. In fact, I have to laugh at times because her dolls nowadays live in a whirlwind of parties and celebrations! She owes this change, this blossoming, to you, Your Honor, since you very exceptionally refused her return to the United States under the Hague Convention on children’ international abduction.

Your Honor, I would like you to know that you saved a child’s life. If Noluenn eats, sleeps and plays normally, it is because after 8 years of insane struggle to protect my child, 6 years in the US, 2 in France, I have been conforted in my NATURAL AND FUNDAMENTAL RIGHT AND DUTY AS A MOTHER to protect my child from an abusive father by the Quimper Regional Court, which gave sole custody and only 2 hour supervised visitations to the father.

Why did you, Your Honor, decide to go against this international trend, this fashionable stereotype, of considering mothers as alienating figures? Because you saw through my ex, you realized how scary he was, and because you did not believe I am an alienating mother as you wrote in your decision.

Yet the Parental Alienation Syndrom has been exported in the European courts with some success. For 6 years, my child has complained about severe physical and emotional abuse, which even caused her to have hallucinations, which were confirmed by her therapist and a seasoned court-appointed psychiatrist, but I was never able to protect her because her father had managed to turn the tables, to erase his personality as an abuser from the Courts agenda by accusing me of parental alienation. It seemed to me that Parental Alienation was the worst crime a parent could commit against a child in the United States, forget rape, incest, physical abuse, even murder… Parental alienation was the only thing that mattered. Then one day, it was too much for Noluenn. She came back from her vacation at her father’s lifeless, and confessed that she had wanted to fly away through the window to escape the constant terror at her father’s. How could a mother protect her child when her attorneys keep telling her “Don’t denigrate the father, don’t say anything bad about the father because if the judge thinks you are are alienating the child you will lose custody!” The concept of parental alienation is a dream for abusive parents.

How does a society force a mother to witness her child’s destruction without reacting ? Why does a society refuse to acknowledge that behind an abusive husband there is an abusive father ? BECAUSE THIS SOCIETY HAS BEEN INDOCTRINATED INTO BELIEVING IN THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROM.

By wanting to preserve the untouchable, almost deified figure of the « pater familias », our modern societies have lost sight of the carnal, archaic, and fundamental bond between a mother and a child, that « love second to no one » celebrated by our poet Victor Hugo. Listening to the folly of gender equality and the syndrome of delusional paternity, legislators are passing laws that cut a child in two and rips the child from his mother to give that child to unstabled fathers. Every week, in the United States, we hear about a man who killed his wife and children because she wanted to leave him. We never hear about a woman who murders her husband and children because he left her. Children need their mother and mothers need their children. As a French Family Court judge, Edouard Durand, is saying right now in numerous campaigns against domestic violence, TO PROTECT A CHILD, SOCIETY NEEDS TO PROTECT THE MOTHER.

Again, violence against women is the heart of the problem, the issue judges must never lose sight of because things become very straightforward: a situation where there is violence against women cannot be a “conflict” or a “high conflict”. It is a situation of unilateral abuse with only one abuser, not conflict which would mean that there are two abusers. Sometimes, the words that are used can blur a situation. Unilateral abuse becomes conflict or bilateral abuse. Protecting the mother means protecting the child and let’s face it even it is not fashionable nowadays, sometimes it is essential to put some distance between a child and an abusive parent to protect that child like you, Your Honor, understood.

Since I came back to France I have been working with French mothers associations. We have come to the conclusion that if we are to contain this plague, we must unite and build an international movement of mothers, psychiatrists, legislators, pediatricians, judges like Eduard Durand on both sides of the Atlantic. A movement which would reassert that mothers are the most vital components of society, the ones responsible for humanizing children into adulthood. A movement that reasserts that men’s violence is a plague all over the world and that fathers are men! (Not all men thank God are violent of course!) And it is not because a man becomes a father that he stops being abusive. We need to build a European-American movement that will stop this human catastrophe.



If your Child reports Abuse Don’t call CPS

The best way to protect the non-offending parent and the child victim from the inherent risks and abuses of the CPS system is to stay as far away from CPS as possible,”  Maria De Santis.

For those unaware of the Governmental Policies and Biases that work against reporting mothers/protective parent, this comes as a shock and you may find it hard to believe, that by reporting abuse you could lose custody that the very agency you grew to believe was there to protect your children will in fact fail them.  The first thing that goes through your head  of course when dealing with an abuse issue is you should call CPS they are there to protect children………Wrong….to date CPS fails as many children as they protect maybe more.  CPS/DHHS may be contributing to the growing ‘Child Trafficking’ through foster care and the courts, and increasing medical kidnappingsand legal abductions in our country. It makes no sense.  For many this advise comes a little too late.  Please, share.



Kelly Rutherford among the speakers at the 11 annual BMCC

Kelly Rutherford for CJC eventPress Release: Actress Kelly Rutherford among speakers at the 11th annual and 1st International Battered Mothers Custody Conference in Secaucus New Jersey.
When: Friday, May 15 – Sunday, May 17, 2015
Where: Empire Hotel Clarion Meadowlands, 2 Harmon Plaza, Secaucus, NJ 07094 (201) 348-6900
Speakers presenting evidence-based solutions include Teaneck-based legal scholar Barry Goldstein, author of “The Quincy Solution.” His approach is saving lives and saving taxpayers an estimated $750 billion.
All of Europe is on the verge of adopting the solutions of “Coercive Control,” valued as “one of the most important books ever written on domestic violence.” Author, Rutgers Emeritus Professor and renowned forensic social worker, Evan D. Stark, will present Saturday night May 16th from 7 to 9pm.

Actress Kelly Rutherford along with Bergen County advocate, Patrice Lenowitz, attorney Wendy Murphy, and pediatrician Dr. Jen Trachtenberg will be presenting on a panel discussion introducing their national organization, the Children’s Justice Campaign, on Sunday May 17th 9:45-11:00am.  see this most recent article on CJC event in Los Angeles and Petition event to Bring Kelly’s Children Back http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-3079174/Kris-Jenner-Melanie-Griffith-support-Kelly-Rutherford-s-charity-event-Gossip-Girl-star-gets-100K-signatures-petition-bring-children-back.html

Kelly Rutherford and Patrice Lenowitz for CJC

The conference will include presentations by researchers, advocates, and survivors who will demonstrate how the standard practice of family courts and child protective services put innocent defenseless children at great risk for harm.

An award ceremony will be taking place on Sunday May 17th 12pm. Recipients include longtime domestic violence advocate, Senator Loretta Weinberg, Rutgers Emeritus Professor and author of “Coercive Control” Evan Stark, author, speaker and dv expert Barry Goldstein, and actress Kelly Rutherford.

We look forward to you joining us on our quest for justice, commonsense, and the protection of Americas most precious resource; our children.

Contact: Dr. Mo Therese Hannah, Ph.D. at mhannah413@aol.com, (518) 210-2487, or visithttp://www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/index.html

Children’s Lives Matter! Mother’s voices must be heard!

Aleah Holland Childrens lives matter

Author, Activist and Founder of Heal Network Aleah Holland

“Losing a child ‘through life’ is the most horrific way to lose a child. Until a couple of decades ago, nobody had ever lost a child in this way– at least not in mass numbers.  And, children didn’t go missing ‘legally’. No mother should ever have to lose a child through life. It’s not normal. It’s not natural. There is no closure. There is no end to the gut wrenching pain. The wound does not ever heal. In fact, it never even forms a scab toward healing. It remains perpetually open… The taking of living children from living mothers is something so terrible, so evil, that there is no way to really describe such a loss. Not really… However, I wrote a poem today trying to describe what it’s like to be the mother of a lost child/children.”

For Mothers of ‘Lost ‘ Children

by Robin Karr

It’s impossible to know that your child is still OK

To protect your child was your job, so you think you failed in every way

When your child is no longer with you and still so very young

You can’t help but think there must be more you could have done

You turn the music up and sob while in your car and the shower hides your tears

You know you can’t survive this kind of loss another day, another month, another year

Yet, the years go by and you realize you’re still alone

Although you did all you knew and could, your child did not come home

The child you carried and brought into this world has gone away

There’s nothing left to do but pray and pray and pray

How evil are those who desire nothing more than to destroy the mother-child bond

You continue to seek justice, but the gut wrenching pain goes on and on

No matter how huge the loss, you have no choice but to start another day

Without your child that gave your life meaning in every way

You lie down at night and think of your child and feel so all alone

There is nothing in this world you want more than for your child to just come home.

“The very last thing I said to Valeri Williams from WFAA when she interviewed me back in January 2000 was this: ‘I know Judge Pirtle would like for me to go away,” Robin finishes. “I know Ed would like for me to go away. I’m never going to go away. I have two babies. God gave me those babies and I love them. I’m not going away.” Robin Karr has not seen her two children in over a decade. http://motherswithoutcustodyworld.com/to_lose_a_child_through_life

Its hard to imagine good mothers unable to see their children,  children they birthed, they prayed for and tried to protect from harm.  Even on Mother’s Day no contact.  In an unnatural event mothers and children are being separated by courts that prefer fathering to mothering.  Courts that are getting it wrong, ignoring evidence, common sense, replacing science and physiology with junk science and myth.  Courts are heavily incentivized and influenced by lobbying groups and gender bias funding.  All this has added to a National Crisis, a Holocaust, children removed from safe-non-offending good mothers, whose voices are marginalized in this society quickly becoming a motherless America.

For the Motherless Child the confusion and pain can cause physical and emotional problems and untold challenges. Mothers who are fighting for their children are being misunderstood, their rights violated and the agony for the mother is the pain and suffering of their beloved child. 


by Peter Ernest Haiman, Ph.D. disusses decisions that too often result in short- and even long-term psychological damage to the individual.

“The CDC’s groundbreaking epidemiological study discovered a link between childhood adversity and the adult onset of chronic disease , mental illness, violence and becoming a victim of violence. The 10 adverse childhood experiences measured in the Florida research and the CDC’s ACE Study were: emotional, physical, and sexual abuse; emotional and physical neglect; and five types of family dysfunction: witnessing a mother being abused, household substance abuse, household mental illness, losing a parent to separation or divorce, and having an incarcerated household member.”

Family Violence, and Parental Separation or Divorce Highest impact on Juveniles in the system

http://acestoohigh.com/2014/08/20/florida-study-confirms-link-between-juvenile-offenders-aces-rates-much-higher-than-cdcs-ace-study/   http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/acestudy/

When Robin Karr and Janie McQueen wrote the story The Motherless Child Project, the pandora’s box was opened on the feelings of a young girl who was questioning everything…why she was a motherless child.  This tender story approaches the issues that few adults understand and helps the reader to digest the challenges that families are facing today.

The dangerous notion that fathers can replace mothers goes against nature itself and the failure to acknowledge the dangers of the deprivation of maternal contact is just ignorance and criminal.  While the need for attachment in Mother-Child relationship is Long understood in Healthy Human development and psychology, a dangerous trend of politics and ‘money’ has overshadowed common sense, this fact has impacted our society in areas that have causes a ripple effect. The removal of a child can lead to the child failing: failing physically, emotionally and some so effected by the depression and loss even commit suicide as Janie McQueen writes about in Burying Voices no more..  

For Mothers this event effects them in many of the same ways. “It’s among the most egregious acts of injustice in the American legal system. It’s happening from coast to coast, courtroom to courtroom, defying common sense and what’s in the best interest of safety, sanity and society: An estimated 58,000 children a year are taken away from safe protective mothers and court ordered for custody or unsupervised visitation with reported abusers”, says Patrice Lenowitz from Children’s Justice Campaign.

Removing a mother’s children from her, when she has committed no crime, is cruel and unusual punishment. The physical, mental, and emotional toll of surviving the negligence, abuse and trauma from these individuals lasts a lifetime.

A non-custodial mother remarks: “to lose one’s children in such a way would unmake any woman.” And it is true. Taking a woman’s children is the last great punishment an abuser can scar them with. To be publicly and permanently branded ‘unfit’ is a new scarlet letter. It can and will scar an entire family for life.

“Nurturing and loving mothers losing permanent custody of their children is such depressing subject matter. But we cannot indefinitely avoid depressing subject matter, particularly if it is true. “ says Coral Anika Theill from Oregon

“Many women grow up in homes in which they were conditioned and groomed to be victims. They marry sociopathic abusers, have children with them, and lose custody and contact of their children when they become stronger and choose safety.

“The price for my own safety and freedom in 1996 was an imposed, unnatural and unwanted separation from my eight children, including my nursing infant. The injustice committed against me is not just the physical separation from my children, but the willful desecration of the mother-child relationship and bond, a sacred spiritual and emotional entity.” – Coral Anika Theill, BONSHEA Making Light of the Dark  READ complimentary copy of Coral Theill’s memoir at: http://www.coralanikatheill.com/#!read-bonshea-making-light-of-the-dark-/c22am


This poem is dedicated to loving mothers who are without their child or children because of unethical custody battles and their children:
Another Mothers day has came and gone to pass
Another Mothers day without my beautiful precious child
Another Mothers day how much longer will this abusive cruel situation last?
For nine months God carefully formed you in my womb +psalm 139:13
Some days I was very sick, vomiting, headaches –it was all worth it for you
I would do it all over again
Two beating heartbeats in one human body
A miracle chosen for you and me
I gave you life–you gave life to me
The day you were born was like no other
How blessed I was to say “I am your mother”
From waking up in the middle of the night watching you roll over, crawl, giggle, break teeth
Were some of the best moments of my life
Many wonderful moments of you and me
Are etched deep in my heart and memory
At this moment you are not here with me
I want you to know I did not chose that to be
You see my dear child we live in a spiritual world
There is good and evil, God and Satan
Satan comes to steal and destroy
He wants no one to live with joy
One of his favorite tactics is to destroy a family
He will try to attack it
That is what he has tried to do with you and me
God knows all he will not allow that to continue to be
As you go through this journey called life
Hold fast to the good book it will teach you what is right
I want you to know I am so proud of you
God gave you a strong spirit to endure what you have been through
Know that I love you..always have, always will and I
Praise God for the day when you will be back with me again
People when you begin to pray please include our children everyday

by Veronica Hatton

stoirm Pyle Mothers day

from Stoirm I. Pyle

UGLY SHOES – ON MOTHER’S DAY MAY 2015 – Dedicated to Mothers of Lost Children and Trauma Survivors – May you all be given the strength you need for each moment, each day, each year.

Ugly Shoes

No woman deserves to wear these shoes.

I am wearing a pair of shoes.

They are ugly shoes.

Uncomfortable shoes.

I hate my shoes.

Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.

Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.

Yet, I continue to wear them. I get funny looks wearing these shoes.

They are looks of sympathy.

I can tell in other’s eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.

They never talk about my shoes.

To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.

To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.

But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.

I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.

There are many pairs in this world.

Some women are like me and ache daily as they try to walk in them.

Some have learned how to walk in them so that they don’t hurt quite so much.

Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.

No woman deserves to wear these shoes.

Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.

These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.

They have made me who I am.

I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.







As a lifelong citizen of New York, a registered nurse for seventeen years and licensed childcare provider, I find myself asking “Does the de Blasio Administration support acts of corruption or will your administration be the first to finally stand up to protect children from family court supported-ACS corruption in New York City?”

From Lisa Steinberg to Elisa Izquierdo to Myls Dobson, I am appalled by ACS.

Since 2012, I have been working with nearly 10,000 mothers to create a movement to bring awareness to the need of ACS reform as a child protection agency in New York City. The family court system has become a multi-billion dollar protected empire built on seizing children and separating families. There is no accountability for hurting families in this system. There are thousands of proven cases where the caseworkers and social workers are repeatedly found guilty of fraud, withholding, fabricating, and destroying evidence, or seeking to terminate parental rights unnecessarily for the reward money.

Poor families whose only crime is being poor are often targeted. With a $3 billion budget, taxpayers are fed up with secrecy, incompetency, and familial destruction by this agency known as Administration of Children’s Services, which is responsible for the violent death of Myls Dobson and too many other children under its poor pitiful care.

Cases that can be resolved in less than 90 days are litigated as long as 9 years or more with children growing up in the clutches of this system. Just this week, I had a mother lose a child to a man that ACS knew was a child abuser. I met a mother who has been in court for 13 years and a father for who has been fighting for his children for 17 years.With the continuance of having no consequences for their tactless actions – along with caseworker negligence in regards to the children – ACS is in danger of continuing a never-ending practice that will only lead to more deaths, destroyed children and youth which leads to destroyed adults. I have never witnessed such immoral human beings dealing with the lives of children and families.

The Administration for Children Snatching business has grown accustomed to having these billions of taxpayer dollars to balance the budget of state employees, court investigators, lawyers, judges, court personal, therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, foster parents, adoptive parents, social workers, and on and on with a seemingly unlimited corrupt dependence on this legal kidnapping for money funded by the Social Security Administration Title IV grants and the Department of Health and Human Services.

As an upstanding member in my community and a member since 1997 of the largest church in Brooklyn Christian Cultural Center; I was unaware that this was actually happening to humans until I was captured in this child rigging custody for cash system. To have been victimized and criminalized by this system – which I thought I could trust – has been beyond devastating, definitely life shattering and left me with a sense of betrayal. I am convinced that a system that functions as criminally as this do not belong in society.

In order for family court supported, ACS corruption to end, there has to be a better way to create jobs without torturing families and children.

Asking the New York City Council to approve 376 more untrustworthy and unjust caseworkers that separates families for money is mind boggling and horrifying to me.Taxpayers already foot the bill for this child protection hoax and hustle that destroys family connections and heritage forever. Also bad business decision to throw good money after bad money. I urge you not to throw away billions of taxpayers money into ACS’ broken system. We must first address the humongous amount of fraud that has led to the deaths of four children in the first one hundred days of your administration. We must first address the removal of children and the lack the ability to protect children from their deaths.

It appears that more deaths of black and brown children is a bonus for this system because it leads the public to believe more money will fix the problems when actually that is false, this system creates more problems. There is no accountability or professionalism in this near useless child protection service agency.

My heart dropped as I learned more money would be put into this system that has been failing children year after year. The preventative service budget has been slashed or intentionally withheld from needy parents while ACS has doubled the number of children who will placed in residential mental health centers.

All I could think about was the Gestapo and more families being destroyed by this agency, more false-documentation to support their bad-misdeeds, more fraud-waste-and-abuse, more children they will neglect, maltreat, and allowed to be murdered, and 376 more incompetent- negligent- and fraudulent caseworkers to document whatever is needed to keep their jobs or get overtime, that is a truthful fact.

Time and time again, taxpayers have heard blanket statements by ACS that heavy caseloads is what caused them to “fake-document untruthfully leading to removal of children from good parents” or “pushed them to invent-fake visits which they were paid for to homes they never attended where children were endangered, injured, and murdered.” It’s no longer a secret that a large amount of ACS’s budget is misused in a litigious fashion against mothers and fathers who speak out against their unorganized, unfair, malicious, unusual and cruel proceedings; which goes as far as to invent evidence, manufacture facts, and create fake-issues to then strip good mothers and fathers of their children as a form of retaliation.

Mothers and fathers spend years, and pay lawyers their life-savings for trying to save their reputation from being removed off the child abuse registry where they was placed as revenge for saying i dont agree with your tactics. For others who can not afford to pay they remian. Many of ACS’s baseless fraudulent claims remain in litigation in the family court system for numerous years with everyone benefiting from the fruits of the labor of the “custody for cash” business except the family that just needed a little help or no interference at all.

This system can formulate a different strategy of how to traumatize and destroy any family to get to reach their ultimate goals, goals of creating business which are different then what most parents of NYC think the system is there for, which is “The Best Interest of The Child.” ACS has clearly disregarded “the best interest of the child” for a long time now. It has demonstrated more of a “Custody for Cash” type module putting children in harm’s way and many bad actors from family court judges, social workers, attorneys, therapist, and psychiatrist and on will join in for the right amount of dividends or financial rewards they will let the games begin.

Children torn away from their homes or placed in to foster care fraudulently are growing up traumatized in a catastrophic broken system, because it is fixed this way. Children that are torn away from their homes demonstrating emotional sadness or depression are then placed on Psychotropic-Drugs by psychiatrist a part of the system fix, which is more pay for foster care agencies like children in Special Ed receive more funding from department of education.

As a registered nurse I know that in a hospital setting “mechanical restraints” such as psychotropic drugs is one of the last resorts into restraining a person, usually used a to prevent self-harm to self or to others, and if used abusively such as a form of control by a healthcare professional that we as professionals can lose our jobs, we can face criminal charges, fines, or we can go to jail.

Medicating children for hoax diagnosis most times tuns into real lifelong mental illnesess.

So, how loosely psychotropic drugs are used in this administration against the parent’s objection is perplexing as there is severe long term effect from using these drugs, even more severe as boys growing breast but creating irreversible mental illnesses, and death. This type of chemical weapon is severely destructive. Removing children first then placed on drugs is a depraved and immoral action.

Moreover, research has shown death of a parent is number one most traumatic event for a child triggering everything from depression to PTSD, severe mental injuries, physical illnesses, and learning disabilities.

Children constructively losing their good-loving parents not to a car accident, or a severe health event such as cancer, but to design by a court ordered answer and consequence as a result of homelessness, a sink full of dirty dishes, or something else of mediocre or false pretense must end.

To pay for a residence for a homeless-family for a year is around $20,000 or less for a good neighborhood. To litigate a homeless family and place a child in care, then the family in shelter could easily cost taxpayers $500,000 a year per child or more. I wrote the numbers out to really see the difference of taking a child and helping a child.

This system has clearly shown if they have no children…..

No children means no problems.

No problems=no business.

No business =no money.

No money=No Job.

These people in this system will false document anything for a job, erroneous billable hours, and bonuses.

When Amber Alerts are issued against parents trapped in this cruel, unusual, and untrustworthy custody-trapping system time after time, it’s time for reform and change. New York City children and parents should not be terrorized with fear for 17 years looking over their shoulders due to this administration scare-tactics. ACS caseworkers, lawyers, therapists, and judges can waste millions a dollars a year off of one child in the system off of bogus claims, which is a small fraction compared to what could have maintained and assisted in bringing optimal health, safety, security and keeping that family together.

I witnessed and wrote a book based on my true stories and others about ACS and the Family court system custody-rigging, along with aiding and abetting abusers with financial fraud, and other incentives while inventing false situations to steal children from their loving mothers, and good fathers. This agency over last twenty years changes its name but the waste, fraud, abuse and preventable endangering of children clearly remains the same. It is just further buried, and the name change is a distraction that is supposed to make people forget these murders and crimes of neglect to these children and families ever happened.

In order to prevent more senseless murders, and mitigate damages to families by this system, an intensive investigation into every case where children have been removed, or threats of children to be removed must be analyzed with parents voices included. Trust me you can’t trust what ACS caseworkers and supervisors say. I have proof of their fraud.

I wish I could be that good girl and turn a blind eye to this systemic atrocity of the enormous amount of wrong by this system, but I can’t. The only justified money is into a federal investigation into the fraud and trauma, and abuse in this system. We have to stop throwing poor and vulnerable children under the bus as a business.

This will be the only true and honest ways to get to the bottom of what is really going on in this rigged, corrupt, and racketeering failed system, where case by case demonstrates practices and policies easily based on false documenting, and poor documenting to invent a case.

I would like to meet with you to discuss changes that are needed.

POINT ONE: Confidentiality and secrecy within ACS protects the wrong people. The courtrooms must be open to the public including the news media. The Family Court system needs more regulation and more accountability.

POINT TWO: Aiding and abetting abusers under the “Father Rights” while stripping mothers of preventative services must end. Children have a right not be abused for incentives.

POINT THREE: Fraud waste and abuse must end in this system that promotes their child stripping business.

New York City is a model city for the world, and unfortunately what happens here sets the precendence for what happens EVERYWHERE in the country and even the world. Until you hold ACS accountable for the deaths and rapes of children in their care, your administration will continue to lose support of taxpayers and parents.

The Rig Is UP

Aleah Holland RN, Founder of Heal Network Inc.

HEAL Mothers & Children Coalition

Author of A little Lynched- Book on Family Court and ACS Corruption


Mothers March for Peace


A long tradition of Mothers marching for peace in the USA

Mothers’ Day Proclamation: Julia Ward Howe, Boston, 1870

Mother’s Day was originally started after the Civil War, as a protest to the carnage of that war, by women who had lost their sons. Here is the original Mother’s Day Proclamation from 1870, followed by a bit of history (or should I say “herstory”):

Julia ward howe

Mother’s Day Turns 100: Its Surprisingly Dark History- Ann Jarvis Died Penniless fighting the commercialism of Mother’s day that diverted our attention away from the work of Mothers!


Fast forward to Mothers Day 2010 When Mothers traveled from across the nation to bring a message to our President-“Why are good mothers losing custody?”….  “We want Federal Oversight Hearings!….Protect our Children Mr. and Mrs. Obama!….These are Civil Rights Violations, and Human Rights Violations and Human Trafficking through the Courts and After Hundred’s of Protest mothers are asking: Where’s My Motherhood.gov?

American Mothers at the Whitehouse framed

Mr. President

Love Mom? send a message to the Whitehouse today-
‪#‎Where‬smyMotherhood.gov? Dial 202-456-1111- president@whitehouse.gov.

Mr. President with$$$$$ 50 Billion a year in fatherhood.gov funding no wonder there’s a war on mothers- why are good moms losing custody? We need federal oversight! We need our Motherhood.gov!

send a letter-
The President
The White House
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue NW
Washington, DC 20500
send an email-
president@whitehouse.gov.wheres my mothers gov molc.org



Mother’s Day Proclamation

Mothers of Lost Children at the White House 2010

Whereas: Research by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention finds that children’s exposure to traumas such as child physical abuse, incest and witnessing domestic violence have severe negative effects that can last a lifetime and that childhood adverse experiences are the major risk factors for the leading causes of illness and death in the United States[1]; and


Whereas: Domestic violence is a strong predictor of child physical abuse, increasing the risk from 5% after one violent act to 100% after 50 violent acts[2]; and


Whereas: Child sexual abuse allegations are extremely rare in custody cases (2-6%)[3], are just as likely to be true as at any other time (two-thirds are substantiated)[4], and fathers are far more likely to intentionally make false allegations (21%) than mothers (1%)[5]; and


Whereas: Domestic violence, child abuse and incest may not become known until the child’s parents separate, and abuse may begin or escalate after separation; and


Whereas: Non-scientific theories such as alienation theories which assume that the children’s reports of physical or sexual abuse are coached or fabricated by the protective parent result in children being inappropriately ordered into unsupervised contact with their identified batterers and molesters[6]; and


Whereas: Violent parents (usually fathers) are much more likely to seek sole custody and are successful about 70% of the time[7]; and


Whereas: More than 58,000 children a year are ordered into unsupervised contact with physically or sexually abusive parents following divorce in the United States[8] and a growing number of children are murdered while in their violent parents’ custody and control[9]; and


Whereas: Children’s physical and sexual safety is fundamental to their health and welfare, and must take precedence over abusive parents’ claims to custody or unsupervised visitation.


Therefore: Be it resolved to call for:

  1. A Congressional Hearing on family court abuses and corruption.
  2. A complete investigation by the U.S. Attorney General into family court corruption in 6 states.
  3. A Federal Grand Jury citizen review panel to ensure that children live with safe parents.


Please contact your United States Senator (www.senate.gov) to call for Congressional Hearings


For information, http://mothersoflostchildren.org/, www.centerforjudicialexcellence.org, www.leadershipcouncil.org, www.childabusesolutions.com, www.distinctioninfamilycourts.com, www.protectiveparents.com, www.courageouskids.net

[1] http://www.cdc.gov/nccdphp/ace and http://www.acestudy.org

[2] Ross, Risk of Physical Abuse to Children of Spouse Abusing Parents, 20(7)Child Abuse & Neglect, 589-98,1996

[3] Thoennes & Tjaden, The Extent, Nature, and Validity of Child Sexual Abuse Allegations in Custody and Visitation Disputes, 14(2) Child Sexual Abuse & Neglect, 151-63, 1990

[4] Brown, Frederico, Hewitt & Sheehan, Revealing the Existence of Chidl Abuse in the Context of Marital Breakdown and Custody and Access Disputes, 24(6) Child Abuse & Neglect, 849-85, 2000

[5] Bala & Schuman, Allegations of Sexual Abuse When Parents Have Separated, 17 Canadian Family Law Quarterly, 191-241, 2000

[6] Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family, www.nnflp.org/apa/APA_task_force.htm; and unpublished research by Geraldine Stahly, PhD

[7] Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family, www.nnflp.org/apa/APA_task_force.htm; American Judges Foundation, Domestic Violence and the Court House: Understanding the Problem…Knowing the Victim, http://aja.ncsc.dni.us/domviol/page5.html; and unpublished research by Geraldine Stahly, PhD

[8] www.leadershipcouncil.org

[9] http://dastardlydads.blogspot.com/2010/02




mothers day peace march

mothers march

another Mother’s Day for Peace – by Ruth Rosen.

Honor Mother with Rallies in the Streets. The holiday
began in activism; it needs rescuing from commercialism
and platitudes.

Every year, people snipe at the shallow commercialism of Mother’s Day. But to
ignore your mother on this holy holiday is unthinkable. And if you are a
mother, you’ll be devastated if your ingrates fail to honor you at least one
day of the year.

Mother’s Day wasn’t always like this. The women who conceived Mother’s Day
would be bewildered by the ubiquitous ads that hound us to find that “perfect
gift for Mom.”  They would expect women to be marching in the streets, not
eating with their families in restaurants.  This is because Mother’s Day began
as a holiday that commemorated women’s public activism, not as a celebration
of a mother’s devotion to her family.

The story begins in 1858 when a community activist named Anna Reeves Jarvis
organized Mothers’ Works Days in West Virginia.  Her immediate goal was to
improve sanitation in Appalachian communities.  During the Civil War, Jarvis
pried women from their families to care for  the wounded on both sides.
Afterward she convened meetings to persuale men to lay aside their

In 1872, Juulia Ward Howe, author of the “Battle Hymn of the Republic”,
proposed an annual Mother’s Day for Peace.  Committed to abolishing war, Howe
wrote: “Our husbands shall not come to us reeking with carnage… Our sons
shall not be taken from us to unlearn all that we have been able to teach them
of charity, mercy and patience. We women of one country will be too tender of
those of another country to allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs”.

For the next 30 years, Americans celebrated Mothers’ Day for Peace on June 2.

Many middle-class women in the 19th century believed that they bore a special
responsibility as actual or potential mothers to care for the casualties of
society and to turn America into a more civilized nation.  They played a
leading role  in the abolitionist movement to end slavery.  In the following
decades, they launched successful campaigns against lynching and consumer
fraud and battled for improved working conditions for women and protection for
children, public health services and social welfare assistance to the poor.
To the activists, the connection between motherhood and the fight for social
and economic justice seemed self-evident.

In 1913, Congress declared the second Sunday in May to be Mother’s Day.  By
then, the growing consumer culture had successfully redefined women as
consumers for their families.  Politicians and businessmen eagerly enbraced
the idea of celebrating the private sacrifices made by individual mothers.  As
the Florists’ Review, the industry’s trade jounal, bluntly put it, “This was a
holiday that could be exploited.”

The new advertising industry quickly taught Americans how to honor their
mothers – by buying flowers.  Outraged by florists who were seling carnations
for the exorbitant price of $1 apeice, Anna Jarvis’ duaghter undertook a
campaging against those who “would undermine Mother’s Day with their greed.”
But she fought a losing battle.  Within a few years, the Florists’ Review
triumphantly announced that it was “Miss Jarvis who was completely squelched.”

Since then, Mother’s Day has ballooned into a billion-dollar industry.

Americans may revere the idea of motherhood and love their own mothers, but
not all mothers.  Poor, unemployed rmothers may enjoy flowers, but they also
need child care, job training, health care, a higher minimum wage and paid
parental leave.  Working mothers may enjoy breakfast in bed, but they also
need the kind of governmental assistance provided by every other
industrialized society.

With a little imagination, we could restore Mother’s Day as a holiday that
celebrates women’s political engagement in society.  During the 1980’s, some
peace groups gathered at nuclear test sites on Mother’s Day to protest the
arms race.  Today, our greatest threat is not from missilies but from our
indifference toward human welfare and the health of our planet.  Imagine, if
you can, an annual Million Mother March in the nation’s capital.  Imagine a
Mother’s Day filled with voices demanding social and economic justice and a
sustainable future, rather than speeches studded with syrupy platitudes.

Some will think it insulting to alter our current way of celebrating Mother’s
Day.  But public activism does not preclude private expressions of love and
gratitude. (Nor does it prevent people from expressing their appreciation all
year round.)

Nineteenth century women dared to dream of a day that honored women’s civil
activism.  We can do no less. We should honor their vision with civic

Ruth Rosen is a professor of history at UC Davis.
Reprinted with permission